Friend issue

tmccaulla · March 2013

I'm hoping I'm not the only one...

Here is some background. I'm 28 and have been married almost 3 years but been with my husband for almost 8 years. We told people last May we wanted to start trying for a baby come the fall so this shouldn't surprise anyone that we are pregnant.

My two best friends, one I've know since I was 2 and the other since 3rd grade, seem to want nothing to do with me since getting pregnant. They are my age and both single. One has never really dated. When I told them I was pregnant at the end of January they were both screaming and crying they were so excited. The last time I saw them was 2 days after I told them. They live 10 minutes away. When they call or message me they talk about themselves and rarely ask about the baby and if so it's for 2 minutes and then they are ready to be done talking to me. My one friend I cancelled brunch one day on because she called the day before and said "at work I had the best form of birth control, these kids had a birthday and were crying and throwing up!". I personally found it rude to call your super excited pregnant friend and pretty much say you are glad you aren't pregnant.

I guess I just don't get it. Are they jealous, just don't care or self centered? I'm not asking for frequent calls to see how I'm doing but in over 2 months they've each asked me once how I'm doing without asking anything more than just that. Am I being too sensitive or am I just finding out who my real friends are? Maybe it's these darn hormones!!!

angie244 · March 2013

When I was in my mid 20s my best friend began her family...I realize now I prob said a lot of insensitive things to he bc I had no idea they were wrong. I prob didn't call her enough while she was preb bc I figured she was busy or wouldn't want to do th

staceymack · March 2013

They may still be real friends that are having a hard time relating to what you are going through. Maybe it makes them uncomfortable to talk about so they don't want to bring it up. I sort of quit going out all the time a couple of years ago because I was

tmccaulla · March 2013

Thanks everyone! Makes me feel better to realize I'm not alone in these feelings.

Ashjed514 · March 2013

I'm 23 and one of my best friends is 25, she has a boyfriend but isn't anywhere near the marriage and babies stage of life. She doesn't really ask about the baby or anything like that and it used to upset me until I realized she shows her support and exci

happybride 276 · March 2013

I think they are just in a different place than you. They may not get how or why you're so excited. I would not let their disinterest upset you or take away from your excitement. I am sure they don't mean anything by it.

JamieWM · March 2013

I have a close knit group of friends that have been in my life since we were in elementary school I am 27 they are all 28 and I'm the only married and pregnant one. They are the best....but don't understand any of this....which is fine but I wish they wer

SweetPeaK26 · March 2013

I was the last of my close friends to get married and start having kids. I really didn't have much to say to them about their pregnancies because

A: I had no idea what to talk about, having never been pregnant.

B: I didn't know

AngelMommy11211 · March 2013

I got married at 20, the first of my friends. I'm 28 now and they are still all single! They keep in touch on Facebook, but that's about it. We got together once after I had my first baby and they just weren't interested much after that. Many people lose

LnR70707 · March 2013

In the one specific example you gave, yes, you are being waaaayyy too sensitive. Why on earth would you expect or want your single friend to suddenly also want to be interested in having kids herself? Just because you are going to become a mot

Jpthatsme14 · March 2013

My "best friend" is getting married exactly a week before my due date. Out of respect I declined being her maid of honor, I don't want to end up not being able to be there if I were to go into labor. Told her I would still help and be there and do whatev