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Long Talk to me about disciplining a 4 year old boy, hitting related
DS is almost 4 1/2 years old. He is usually very helpful and sweet. In fact, his teachers rave about how much he helps everyone out and how caring he is to his classmates.
We have occasionally had bouts of hitting or aggressive behavior, however they were usually shortlived. DS was the "biter" in his daycare class at 18 mos. Then when I started to stay home with him fulltime, when he was 2 1/2, he would occasionally have temper tantrums where he would hit and throw things. That was resolved by time outs and really hasn't been a problem in a long time.
However, in the last month, he has taken upon himself whenever I tell him no and try to take him to his room for timeout, he hits, bites, and punches. Also he name calls. I know he is looking for my reaction. I have definitely reeled it in, and now show no emotion when he does it. I simply take him up to his room for a timeout. After we have both had time, then I will give a punishment, such as take away his toys or lose tv for the rest of the week. However it's gotten really bad. He has started hitting and saying no back to any request I have. I am tired of defiance and it is making it hard to be around him. Does anyone have any good discipline ideas? Generally we try to follow Parenting with love and logic, and occasionally he gets a spanking, but only if he has done something dangerous like run away from us and into a busy street. Would love any good discipline ideas or parenting book recs.
We have occasionally had bouts of hitting or aggressive behavior, however they were usually shortlived. DS was the "biter" in his daycare class at 18 mos. Then when I started to stay home with him fulltime, when he was 2 1/2, he would occasionally have temper tantrums where he would hit and throw things. That was resolved by time outs and really hasn't been a problem in a long time.
However, in the last month, he has taken upon himself whenever I tell him no and try to take him to his room for timeout, he hits, bites, and punches. Also he name calls. I know he is looking for my reaction. I have definitely reeled it in, and now show no emotion when he does it. I simply take him up to his room for a timeout. After we have both had time, then I will give a punishment, such as take away his toys or lose tv for the rest of the week. However it's gotten really bad. He has started hitting and saying no back to any request I have. I am tired of defiance and it is making it hard to be around him. Does anyone have any good discipline ideas? Generally we try to follow Parenting with love and logic, and occasionally he gets a spanking, but only if he has done something dangerous like run away from us and into a busy street. Would love any good discipline ideas or parenting book recs.
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Re: Long Talk to me about disciplining a 4 year old boy, hitting related
I agree about time outs when th
avoid just saying no to something. give an explanation for why he can't do something and include two yeses with it. like 'climbing the table is dangerous. would you like to do x or y instead' and include two desirable activities. i also think you're on