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Jemichalik
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Negative people that love to point out crying babies or misbehaving kids.
Jemichalik
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Ok I have to vent for a moment. There is
something that is beginning to bother me since being pregnant... Why is
it that people that we know continuously feel the need to say, "see what
you got to look forward to" everytime a baby cries, a child misbehaves,
or some other bad incident happens with a baby or child? Unless someone
has been living under a rock or has never been around any babies/children,
or just plain doesn't pay attention... I think I would know that there
are going to be rough times with having a child. i know we won't truly
know, until we have the baby, but I have been around alot of babies and
children from the time they are born. So We try to stay pretty realistic
about it. We are not living on a cloud thinking its all going to be
wonderful all the time. No one ever talks about how there are also going
to be alot of other wonderful changes in our life that ALSO come along
with having a baby. I know most people that would say this, are just
venting about tough times about raising a child, and I know they mean
well. I'm just getting to feel that people put too much attention on the
negative and bad in our lives, instead of trying to enjoy the good
times. Ok... So I'm done venting now.. *breath of fresh air*. I just has
been starting to get to me, and I needed to get it out. Has anyone else been dealing with this lately? And is it wrong of me to be starting to get annoyed by this (since it has become a daily occurrence between parties, gatherings, and at work.)?
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Re: Negative people that love to point out crying babies or misbehaving kids.
There is TONS to look forward to with babies, but it's not all rainbows.
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haha. I know exactly what you mean
I think people would rather point out the negative than pump up how awesome it is because they want the good to really shine through. At least that's what I tell myself to make it feel better.
But I have
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Honestly I point out that more often than not its a parenting problem, not a kid problem.
Those insane little kids running around stores screaming? That is a parenting problem - as in the parent isnt doing it. Yes babies scream and cry and
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Yeah ok, good luck with that!
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Before I had my first child, I thought "oh, my kids will NEVER do that".
The minute you say "never", your kids will prove you wrong. I try to pick my battles with my kids, but I can say with certainty that toddlers cannot be controll
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Yeah, the only thing people have said to me about having children is negative. I understand there will be a lot of difficult stuff, but it's not ALL bad like they make it out to be.
I was having a gender reveal party with my family and I have ob
I agree with you, I've been a nanny off and on for 12 years. I know that kids aren't a walk in the park, and parenting is going to be completely different.. But there's a reason people have kids and a million sweet moments to look forward to, I find it
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Jemi, I can understand how the negativity is bringing you down, but people are probably just saying it in jest. Parenting is hard work!
While I wholeheartedly agree that parenting is one of the most stressful things I have
Yeah, I totally agree that this is annoying. Obviously parenting is not all fun and games, but I made a conscious decision to allow for the possibility of pregnancy and I will deal with it, even when things aren't fun. I'm sure that the fun
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