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baby shower question would like opinions on please

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I had my first child in 2004 a boy and I helped my mom and best friend  plan it. The shower guests were mostly family except for 2 friends.My second child a girl in 2009 no shower. My third a boy in 2010 no shower. My third baby died 2 months later and  I gave everything away I had baby wise. I'm now pregnant and due in november but I have absolutely nothing left my son is 8 and my daughter is 4 am I wrong for wanting another shower.

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Re: baby shower question would like opinions on please

  • Disneygeek77Disneygeek77 member
    Has someone offered to host one for you ?
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  • 1026pumpkin1026pumpkin member

    I'm so sorry about your loss.  To be perfectly honest, most people view showers as events for first time moms, regardless of how long it's been since your last child and whether or not you have your baby gear, it's seen as the parents' responsibil

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  • 526SadieSadie526SadieSadie member

    I'm very, deeply sorry for your loss but you had one shower, you aren't entitled to another for your fourth child. 

    You had a shower for your first, and you (understandably) discarded your baby items after your loss but that doesn't

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  • neverblushedneverblushed member

    I am sorry for your loss, and congrats on #4.  I'm sure this is an emotional time for you.

    Wanting a shower is one thing.

    Asking for someone to throw you a shower is completely different.  I don't think it's ever appropriate to as

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  • mben1119mben1119 member
    I am sorry for your loss, but no one is entitled to a shower. It is up to you to buy the things you need for your child.
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  • notkateanymorenotkateanymore member
    Are you wrong? No, everybody wants a shower, but you have a 4 year old, so I would say that your kids are a little close to expect somebody to throw you a shower. I mean, I don't mind 2nd showers at all, if they're offered, but it doesn't seem like anybod
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    I had my first child in 2004 a boy and I helped my mom and best friend  plan it. The shower guests we

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  • MrsWilson2013MrsWilson2013 member
    If someone offers to throw one for you and its the "norm" in your group of family/friends for 2nd+ showers i say go for it. But if no one offers, then don't go asking for one. You will be surprised how you might get "showered" with gif
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  • ordinary1ordinary1 member
    I am very sorry for your loss. However, no one is entitled to a shower and personally I am not a fan of second plus showers.
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  • HelenahhandbasketHelenahhandbasket member

    I agree with the PPs-- no to a shower unless you get an offer.

    I also want to offer my sympathy.  How awful for you to have to go through that.  

     

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  • blueangel112082blueangel112082

    dThank you all for the sympathy.  The reason I would like a shower is my first one I had 9 years ago was all was more like a family gathering with gifts for baby. I spent the entire time going through contractions. I have gone to many showers sinc

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