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Being a Safety Net

unaveragejaneunaveragejane member
in June 2012 Moms
I feel like I am my kid's personal safety net these days. He is in a stage where he wants to stand up but doesn't hang on to something to keep his balance. I find myself sitting in the floor behind him for a large part of the day. I feel like I should give him some distance and not be bubble-wrap-mommy, but I am terrified that he is going to fall and bust his head. I mean, I know that accidents are going to happen, but it is totally going against my comfort level to just stand by and watch it happen. I feel like I'm being completely careless if I don't catch him before he pops his face. How do you cope with letting your baby be physically independent but also keeping him or her safe? Am I harming him by being so protective?
             

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  • stepper1725stepper1725 member
    Yep,  DD is the same way. Loves standing up but has no balance. I usually just sit right behind her with my arms loosely around her. I get what you're saying though, big picture. I really would like to avoid being a 'helicopter mom' and all that come
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  • piedpiper07piedpiper07 member
    This is going to sound awful but when DS started standing I just let him fall. I moved the furniture away from him and within the day he was a champ at bracing. Granted this was on carpet and I'm a bit more worried when he's on tile or something but in g
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  • khill86khill86 member
    I let DS fall. I always have him in bare feet and I would be near him and watching, but I'd let him do his thing. Even when he did fall I didn't react until he did, but I never made a big deal of it. I found if he cried, it was more out of frustration tha
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  • BRBR member
    I am like you. Terrified of letting her fall, especially since we have all tile. Sorry, I'm no help. I wish I could make myself not worry so much.
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  • kpearse99kpearse99 member
    I try my best to let him try things on his own. He's a very independent kid already and a dare devil lol but I do get the feeling if I am too hands off that I'm being a lazy parent because I'm not hovering.... But I know deep down he'll never learn for hi
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  • kpearse99kpearse99 member
    And shortly after I wrote this, I gave him some space and as he's trying to cruise down the hallway he cracks the corner of his eye on the corner of the closet Tongue Tied  S
    Our TTC Journey
    TTC #1: May 2011
    BFP: 10/27/2011 |  EDD: 6/30/12
    DS born 6/28/12 via C/S 3 

    TTC #2: September 2018
    Me: 36 | DH: 39
    Mirena removed 9/13/2018 after 6 years
    BFP 11/11/2018 | MC @ 5.5 weeks on Thanksgiving
    July 2019 - Diagnosed with Secondary Unexplained IF
    August 2019 - 2.5 mg of Letrozole = Never Ovulated so Trigger and IUI were cancelled
    9/30/2019 - IUI #1 (5 mg of Letrozole + Trigger) =  BFP but Betas showed CP @ 4 weeks
    10/28/2019 - IUI #2 (7.5mg of Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN
    11/25/2019 - IUI #3 (7.5mg of Letrozole, Trigger + Crinone after IUI) = BFN
    12/24/2019 - IUI #4 (7.5mg of Letrozole + Crinone after IUI) = BFN
    1/24/2020 - IUI #5 (50mg of Clomid + Trigger + Crinone after IUI) = BFN and an Ovarian Cyst
    3/2/2020 - Taking a break to reset/NTNP
    11/1/2020 - At peace with where things are in life and are no long actively TTC. Whatever happens will happen and it will all be okay. <3

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  • unaveragejaneunaveragejane member
    I feel better knowing that I'm not alone in having such contradictory feelings. I have decided to go get supplies to cushion the coffee table and hearth next week. He's not cruising at all yet, but at least when he starts, things will be padded so I won't
                 

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  • SigirSigir member
    I let her fall. Maybe it's a STM thing.

    On a related note I am reading Sheryl sanberg's Lean In and it cited a study that moms of girls are much more likely to hover over their girls and moms of boys are much more likely to let them explore
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  • stanfordt04stanfordt04 member
    this is probably the only reason why i am happy my baby wears a helmet... :)
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