Painful sex

piedpiper07 · March 2013

Am I the only one still having lots of pain during sex??
I had 2 really bad tears plus an episiotomy and I can really feel the scarring, even sitting on the ground. It's awful. My doctor says everything is healed fine, but it doesn't feel fine!!
I just feel like crying because it really doesn't feel like it will get better and no one can do anything.

I am 9.5 months post birth for those that can't see my siggy, anyone have any success stories? Or am I doomed? I am terrified he will be like 4 years old and I will still be in pain.

Junebug060609 · March 2013

Are you bf'ing? That can definetly play into comfort. Often some extra lube is needed if you are.

Fwiw, I had second degree tearing and could still feel the scars during it until around 8m pp. I wouldn't say it was discomfort, but it did

Karen1998 · March 2013

I agree with the question about nursing. Some women have painful sex until they wean, regardless of healing. It's the hormones. I agree about extra lube.

I had two episiotomies and second degree tearing (I was tearing bot

Junebug060609 · March 2013

On the same note as Karen mentioned, my cycle returned at 8.5m. There was absolutely a correlation between the comfort level and hormones getting more back to normal, so to speak.

jertie · March 2013

I'm soooo with the others on the BF'ing it dries everything up and it SUCKS! My doc suggested some pill but because I was BF'ing I just skipped it and increased the lube lots and lots of lube. It might be good to get some preseed too because it comes

piedpiper07 · March 2013

thanks everyone. I haven't gotten AF yet because I got Mirena immediately after having DS. Maybe the hormones in that are messing with things? I sure hope it clears up.

ETA: I stopped BFing aroung 6 months.

FreyaWin2382 · March 2013

I would echo what others have said about lubrication and hormones, but would also encourage you to keep at your OB about this. It could be more than hormones, you could be having vaginsmus (involuntary tightening of the vaginal walls)---which can happe

Oatoa · March 2013

Sex JUST got better about a month ago around 13 months post partum. I had the same issues but once I got my period again, it was better. Don't lose hope. Just like PP, use lube and don't give up!

KJsbabe · March 2013

*rasies hand* Sex sucks here, too. I avoid it at all costs and keep DH happy other ways. At almost 9 months out we're still BFing, so I'm really hoping that's the problem. I've tried various lubes, but it really doesn't help the pain, just makes things mo

SouthernBellaKS · March 2013

It was like losing my virginity all over again. We've had to use lube all except one time. And I only had one 1st degree tear. Not just you!

weddedwife · March 2013

Episiotomies suck. I had one w DD1 and it hurt for months. Did not have one in either subsequent birth, but every now then we hit that original scar tissue and I can STILL feel it.

erinlovesdavid · March 2013

I just want to add that someone I know had to have her episiotomy revised (not sure if that is the right word?) due to painful sex. I'm not sure what all it entailed, but it totally saved her sex life.

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