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Is SD mimicking BM?

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During pick ups/drop offs, BM and DH and/or me will pass along anything important involving SD. Usually, it's very cordial. The few times that DH wasn't there, BM always finds a way to try to stir up crap in our marriage. The latest - "SD's been asking why her daddy can't just marry me again. I told her that it didn't work with us for a reason the 1st time and besides I'm with guy#3 now."

So, is this BM stirring up crap? or a result of SD missing DH? or is SD starting to stir up crap like BM?

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Re: Is SD mimicking BM?

  • PhantomgirlPhantomgirl member
    Kids ask questions , that's normal. It's BMs job to deal with that in her home.

    BM bringing it up with you when DH is not around is on her. Being around you probably brings up something in her and instead of dealing with it she lashes out
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  • bratty44bratty44
    Personally until you or DH hear SD say something like that, I wouldn't put much trust into what BM is saying. What would be the point of her telling you that other to case stress.

    We've learned that SKs will say things that they know will ap
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  • Littlejen22Littlejen22 member
    If SD is really saying it I am confused why you think she is stirring up crap. It is normal for kids to want their parents together I am unsure why this is such an issue for it.

    I agree with ignore it if it is not said to you by SD but be em
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  • kali55kali55 member

    imagePhantomgirl:
    Kids ask questions , that's normal. It's BMs job to deal with that in her home. BM bringing it up with you when D


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  • FutureMrsWittigFutureMrsWittig member
    My SD has asked questions like this before.  When she does I let my DH know and her BM and I let them know what I told her.  I do this so they are aware that SD is concerned and so we can be consistent in what we tell her.  It's not to stir
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  • SimpleJaneSimpleJane member
    imageLittlejen22:
    If SD is really saying it I am confused why you think she is stirring up crap. It is normal for kids to want their par
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  • SimpleJaneSimpleJane member
    imageLittlejen22:
    If SD is really saying it I am confused why you think she is stirring up crap. It is normal for kids to want their par
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  • MsRo1976MsRo1976 member
    I think it's normal. SD (9) has told me on occassion that she wishes that her mom and dad never got divorced (and she always prefaces it by telling me she loves me). I know that my SK's love me. I know they don't love their StepDad, but they do love BM ve
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