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Should I just let her throw the stupid shower?

MzCurnett8886MzCurnett8886 member
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MIL has been a drama queen ever since I declined some baby gifts she offered (a 30yr old crib, swing, bouncer, and walker but not clothing) because of safety concerns. I offered an alternative and she threw a fit dragging DH into it (he's deployed so he doesn't need that stress) along with other family members.

She's offered to throw me a shower for her side of the family at their home, it's 2hrs away one way and MIL is the only one that live out that far with the rest of us on her side living within 30minutes of me. I don't know how I am going to like driving 4hrs that day when she wants it when I'm 36wks. The last shower I went to for his cousin they didn't do gifts, it was a lunch with games so I have no idea what to expect.

I don't want to sound rude, or decline and just have a bigger blow up. Should I just let her throw the stupid party? I'm a little worried she'll try to give me those gifts at the shower. My step MIL and SIL on DH's dad side were planning one large shower of about 100+ people, including DH's mom's side, my family, church friends of mine, theirs, etc. Should I just stay out of it?

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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member

    A few thoughts:

    1- for the sake of your guests, accept her offer so that you'll end up w/ 2 smaller showers.  The idea of 100+ person shower makes me cringe.  It's not a fricking wedding. 

    2- also for the sake of your guests

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    imageEastCoastBride:

    A few thoughts:

    1- for the sake of your guests, accept her offer so that you'll end up w/ 2 smaller show

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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member

    Those are the "toys" you mean?  If so, I better understand your issue.  At the same time - I will say this too.  If she really pushes them, then just take them and talk to your DH about it and get rid of them.  This still isn't some

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  • MiahTMiahT member
    Your MIL is being immature. While two showers sounds better than one 100+ shower, in this case you might be better off seeing if MIL would compromise with a Meet the Baby party a month or two (or three) after LO is born, when she's had some time to get ov
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  • SCtoDCSCtoDC

    You are absolutely within reason to decline a 30 yr old crib, bouncer, swing, and walker.  I wouldn't put my kid in anything that old that has that many moving parts!  Also, I totally sympathize with you - we had to decline a 30 year old bras

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