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Let's talk about the benefits of only one

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What do you see as some of the benefits of having only one child?

 

I may not post much on this board because we still are not sure yet about only one child but we see a lot of benefits to only one that we are strongly leaning in that direction. We could put all our energy and attention on DS. We think about future trips such as weeks long moose hunting trips by canoe, it seems so much simpler with one child.  More money for travel opportunities and long outdoor adventures.  We see having only one child and one dog as a nice simple family.  We will have more time in our schedule for any sports or after school activities he may have an interest for. 

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  • firewife9278firewife9278 member

    We love to travel, and plan to take as many trips as we can with her.  We're taking her to Italy for 2 weeks this summer (I know we're crazy since she'll only be about 17mo old, but it's for my family reunion)!

    We also plan to send her to

     
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  • Chapter79Chapter79 member

    We love to vacation and take trips, and that is sooo much easier with one kid. Not only money wise, but patience wise ;)  We usually let our daughter choose things she wants to do while we're on vacation (to a certain extent- i.e. do you want to g

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  • bluejettabluejetta member

    We hope to travel and we are comfortable in our 3BR house and can have room for a small office and not have to add another bathroom (we still might). Finances are relevant too in terms of daycare, college, etc.  I'm also looking to go back to full

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  • SonadoraSonadora member

    Daycare is outrageous here. Two in daycare would run me about $3K a month, which is more than our mortgage.

    We are not in a good school district, so we either need to move or send B to private school. We can afford to send her to private schoo

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  • eyenigheyenigh member

    All of the things that PP posted. In particular, I love having the security of knowing that with one child, we'll always have the option of giving him everything he'll ever need without struggling or having to compromise. My mom really struggled and we

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  • MelissaInKS86MelissaInKS86 member
    For us it will allow us to maintain what we were doing before DD. We love to travel so we will still be able to do that with her. For example we just booked a cruise for December. When she gets older I know we will be able to devote time to her extracurri
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  • missymomissymo member
    Cost is less.
    Traveling is easier.
    More sleep for mom and dad.
    More time alone for me.
    Less money on preschool.
    She can participate in whatever activities interest her and we can afford it.
    I can give her my full atten

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    It's nice because there's 2 parents to one child and that's a good ratio!


    This too! I lov

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  • robynlesleyrobynlesley member

    I also like the 2 to 1 ratio.

    To be perfectly honest, I like having time to myself.  I'm not saying I don't want my son in my life and that he doesn't come first--he does. But if mommy's not happy then nobody is happy. It's just easier to ha

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  • Chapter79Chapter79 member
    Just remembered another personal one for us-  my daughter has been crazy sick since school started.  Last year in Kinder she was literally sick every other week from September-March. It's the same this year. I simply can't imagine doing this wit
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  • luckymrs718luckymrs718

    For us, it's a lot of the same reasons pp have mentioned.

    1.  We LOVE to travel and are still able to do things we did before we had her which is huge for us.  Selfish or not, we didn't want to sacrifice everything just to have more k

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  • FianschneidFianschneid member

    I like knowing that I will be able to give DD the lifestyle I want her to have. She can grow up in the city and we will be able to pay for her college education. Those are important to us and we would not be able to provide those things in a HCOLA

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  • SocialworkgirlSocialworkgirl member

    Ours reasons are very similar to most.  Some others are that if DH ever lost his job or needed to take a lower paying job, we would be a lot less stressed with only 1.  

    Another is that emotionally, we don't think we could give everythi

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  • sugarbear0524sugarbear0524 member

    Since I can't have more kids (and wanted them), I try to look at the bright side and all the advantages of just having one.

    *Finances. Definitely.

    *2 on 1 ratio, as others have stated. In sports, the two usually succeed over the one. My sis

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  • MySweetBabooMySweetBaboo member

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    It's going to be easier for us to focus on her needs, and juggle appointment schedules along with other extracu
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  • EmJ&BEmJ&B member
    Even before I got pregnant, we were just wanting one. We want to be able to focus on one child. Obviously the money stuff. Also, DH and I both have siblings that have been difficult to say the least and we don't want that for our child.
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    *There are a lot of ways to have close relationships without your child having siblings and these kids go home

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  • sunflwr2sunflwr2 member
    Is anyone concerned that lo won't have a brother or sister?  That seems to be my big concern.  Dd is 18 months and I'm really torn about whether or not to try for #2.  My main reason is that i wmt herto have a sibling.  iI see other ch
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    Is anyone concerned that lo won't have a brother or sister?  That seems to be my big concern.  Dd is 18 mo
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