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Pregnant after a Loss
Patch89
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Goodbye.Again. Stillbirth
Patch89
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So I woke up on Saturday morning in agony. Went to the toilet and noticed a few speckles of blood and doesn't wait around to go to ae. within 30 mins I had been seen by the dr and had been checked and told that I am having a miscarriage. My world fell apart. The first time I was 8 weeks. This time? Over 20 weeks. I was just starting to relax and feel content at the little kicks and jabs I was feeling in my stomach. giving birth was painful especially because he was born breach. Agonising! But he was perfect. Was born without a heartbeat but he was still so amazingly detailed. He had my husbands eyes, head shape and nose but my mouth / chin. Beautifully formed with long fingers and toes and cute little nails !! Feel so empty now. he would have been a very tall baby. He will be waiting for me in Paradise.
What's worse is yesterday 3 days after labour my breasts started leaking milk! And every time I cry or get upset they leak even more. Everything feels like such a waste.
I really want to try again ASAP but everyone's telling me I have to let my body heal which is true but I don't want to wait too long.
Thank you all for your support throughout .. Be back on here soon hopefully! Goodbye for now .. X
What's worse is yesterday 3 days after labour my breasts started leaking milk! And every time I cry or get upset they leak even more. Everything feels like such a waste.
I really want to try again ASAP but everyone's telling me I have to let my body heal which is true but I don't want to wait too long.
Thank you all for your support throughout .. Be back on here soon hopefully! Goodbye for now .. X
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Re: Goodbye.Again. Stillbirth
Oh, hon, no! This breaks my heart. I am so so so so sorry.
I'll echo Petra, and I know there's nothing I can say to make it better, but know that my thoughts are with you guys at this difficult time.
*big squishy hugs*&
After 7 years of no ovulation...
BFP#1 10/24/11 ~ EDD 6/29/12 ~ Natural m/c 11/2/11
BFP#2 2/3/12 ~ Alice born 9/26/12
BFP#1 11/12/11 ~ No heartbeat 12/12/11 ~ D&C 12/19/11
BFP#2 3/25/12 ~ Heartbeat 141 4/16/12 ~ No heartbeat 4/25/12 ~ D&C 04/30/12
BFP#3 7/16/12 ~ EDD 3/26/13 ~ It's a BOY ~ DOB 2/26/13
BFP #1 4/10/12 D&C 6/5/12@ 12.5wks EDD 12/17/12
BFP #2 9/10/12 CP 9/19/12@ 5.5wks EDD 5/21/13
BFP# 3 12/3/12...Lukas James born 8/15/13
BFP# 4 8/4/14 EDD 4/13/15
me:40; DH:41; 4/30/12 1st visit with RE; 6/30/12 IUI #1 BFN; 7/19/12 IUI cancelled (overmedicated); 8/2/12 IUI cancelled (cyst); 9/1/12 IUI #2 BFP! EDD 5/28/13; 10/9/12 1st U/S at 7w3d--missed m/c (trisomy 16) D&C 10/19/12; karyotyping results normal!; 1/31/13 IUI #3 BFP! EDD 10/25/13
BFP#1 10/1/2011. Our perfect little girl, Her heart stopped @ 12w1d. D&E 11/23/11
BFP#2 3/13/12 Weird CP/Possible EP @ 6w0d
BFP#3 5/28/12 CP @ 5w0d
BFP/WTF#4 10/26/12 CP
BFP#5 12/10/12 EDD 8/23/2013
We lost our first (EDD 07/23/12) after finding out at 12 weeks there was no longer a heartbeat. Our rainbow was born 05/22/13 and was worth all we went through.
“So can you understand? Why I want a daughter while I’m still young? I wanna hold her hand and show her some beauty before all this damage is done. But if it’s too much to ask, it’s too much to ask … Then send me a son.” – Arcade Fire
BFP #1 4/29/12 m/c 5/18/12 at 6w2d
BFP #2 8/28/12 EDD 5/10/13 MC 9/22/12 at 6w4d
BFP #3 12/31/12 EDD 9/12/13
Me Dx: DOR DH: all tests normal
Our Pretty Little Nest Blog
BFP #1 09/15/09, MMC 09/28/09
BFP #2 06/04/12, EDD 02/09/13, MC at 6w3d on 06/18/12
BFP #3 01/16/13, EDD 10/04/13, Born 09/17/13
TTC since May 2011
M/C #1 Chemical Pregnancy Aug 2011
M/C #2 Blighted Ovum Feb 2012
M/C #3 Missed Miscarriage after HB Aug 2012
BFP #4 1/12/13 EDD: 9/26/13 Betas 12DPO: 45, 14DPO: 156, 19DPO: 904, 21DPO: 1,972, 26DPO: 12,230, 28DPO: 22,017
My heart breaks for you. I'm so sorry.
BFP #2 - 10-11-2012 Beta 38, 10-15-2012 Beta 518!.
BFP#2 09/11/12 beta1=72 @13dpo beta2=160 @14dpo beta3=over 6000 @24dpo U/S @7w2dd hb=146bpm U/S @8w5d hb=159bpm U/S @12w hb=164bpm
EDD 05/20/13
My Ovulation Chart
I'm so sorry. Life can be so cruel. It is good that you got a chance to hold him and study him.I lost a daughter at 21w and cherish the moments I had with her.
Don't listen to what other people say (except your dr.). You need to say, think,
BFP #2 - Sylvie V. Q. born and died on 10.28.11 at 21w.
BFP #3 - Evie V. Q. Fetal demise @ 16w. DC 7.8.12
BFP #4 - Beatrix V. Q. Born 6.2.13 at 23w6d.
My blog My chart
m/c 2002 7w2d
bfp 9.6.12 | edd 5.17.13 | m/c 9.19.12 5w5d
bfp 10.18.12 | edd 6/28/13
beta#1 10.18.12 - 96 / progestrone 32 || beta#2 10.22.12 - 711 || beta#3 10.25.12 - 2608 DD born 6/27/13
bfp 7.16.14 | edd 3/27/15
beta#1 7.18.14 - 149 || beta#2 7.21.14 - ??
BFP: 2/4/13 EDD: 10/11/13
Patiently waiting for Buggirl to join me!!
Beta #1 11dpo:89 Progesterone:38.9 Beta #2 18dpo:1940
HB seen at 6w HB 8w 5d 176bpm! Its a BOY!
grow rainbow grow!!!!
All Always Welcome!!
m/c: 9/06/12
LTB: 10/23/13
#1 BFP 2/24/11 EDD 10/29/11 Born 11/1/11
(via emergency c-section due to prolapsed cord; dx with sensorineural hearing loss Feb 2012)
#2 BFP 9/13/12 EDD 5/20/13 Natural M/C 10/3/12
#3 BFP 11/13/12 EDD 7/27/13
I'm so sorry for your loss. You'll be in my prayers.
*** aka: andreahshields ***
*** July Siggy Challenge - Cake Wrecks ***
BFP#1 3/8/12; diagnosed w/ Anencephaly at 12w6d; D&C 5/9/12
BFP#2 7/18/12; A/S 10/26/12 It's a Girl! EDD 3/29/13
Phoebe Jordan Born 3/20/13
Marriage: 10/02/2010
BFP#1 : 03.2012........MMC + D&C : 05.2012
The Buggy List blog
BFP #1: January 2012, MMC/BO February 2012; BFP #2: June 2012, MMC July 2012; BFP #3: February 2013
M/C 7/8/12
Perfect baby boy born 7/8/13
BFP 8/20/14 EDD 4/27/15 It's a GIRL!!
I simply can not imagine your pain, and like previous posters said, I know nothing will take that away. Please know that my heart breaks for you. I'm so sorry.
TTC since 6/2003. m/c 9/14/03 8 weeks, 5 chemical pregnancies, mmc 6/04 12 weeks, Michael born sleeping 5/25/05 at 22weeks always our angel, fought ovarian cancer and won, m/c 4/06 5.2 weeks and 7/07 6.6 weeks,Our Miracle baby girl born 4/8/10,mc 12/18/11 at 5.3 weeks, BFP 10/26/12 dating u/s on 11/8/12 showing a strong heartbeat!EDD July 4,2013. RCS on 6/27. Baby boy in NICU for 8 long and scary days before he was able to come home. We are now a happy family of 4
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I am so, so sorry for the loss of your beautiful son. Two books that really helped me after my miscarriage (and the second one is specifically about stillbirth):
A Silent Sorrow: Pregnancy Loss-Guidance and Support for You and Your Family, by Ing
First pregnancy - blighted ovum, miscarriage at 10 weeks, Apr./May 2012
Second BFP 9/19/12 - Hoping for our Rainbow Baby!
***BFP 1-22-13, baby boy dx with Trisomy 13 at 15 weeks.
We let him go to Heaven on 4-27-13 at 17 weeks 1 day***
PgAL/PAL welcome, always!