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K&P414
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I need to vent/make a confession and this seems like the best place to do it.
I was stopped at a road block on Friday night and got a DUI. I am in complete shock. I had met a friend for a late dinner, my husband was out of town coaching soccer and the girls had Parents Night Out at our gym. I did not have a lot to drink, and I felt perfectly fine, not impaired at all.
I met one girlfriend just before 7:00 and had a glass of wine and an appetizer (and water). Then around 8:00 I met another friend across town for dinner. I had 1 Pomegranate Martini before dinner and another glass of wine with dinner. Some random guy bought an expensive bottle of wine and offered to share it with my friend and I. We were all sitting near each other at the bar area eating, and he wasn't being creepy, he just offered us each a glass. I had the bartender pour me just a taste, maybe a 1/4 a glass, because I wanted to try it. That it's it. I probably had at least 2 glasses of water while I was there. I left the restaurant at about 5 minutes after 11:00.
My dad was planning to meet me at my house after I got the girls to make sure we were settled in, he knows I hate coming home alone with the girls at night when DH is out of town. I called to let him know I was leaving the restaurant, he offered to pick the girls up for me and I told him no, that I hadn't had much to drink and that I was fine. When I saw all of the cars backed up at the road block, I started to panic. Not because I was worried that I'd had too much to drink, but I didn't know how long it would take to get through the road block and I didn't want to be late picking them up. So thank god, I called my dad and he went to get the girls for me.
The rest is just a blur, a nightmare. They had TONS of people all out of their cars all in the road. They had me get out of the car. I was freezing cold and shivering (wouldn't let me get a jacket out of the car) and terrified at how aggressive everyone was being. Eventually they had me take a breathalyzer test and I blew over the legal limit. I was shocked. No other word for it.
I cannot believe that as fine as I felt, as little as I'd had to drink, that I was not legally okay to drive. As much as I enjoy a drink or two or twelve at home, or out with friends, I have always considered myself responsible with it. And I am just completely devastated with myself, that my judgement with what I thought was okay, was apparently NOT okay.
The what-ifs are killing me. What if my dad hadn't been able to get the girls, what if they had been in the car with me,what if Emma finds out, what if there had been an accident, my fault or not, etc. are killing me.
I'm not asking for sympathy, I feel horrible about it. But I would appreciate any kind thoughts to help me get through this ordeal. And please, learn this lesson from me and don't find yourself in the same situation.
Thank you for letting me get all of this out 
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Sorry you had to go through that but it does sound like a lot to drink to me. I limit it to one when I'm out. The things the police uese are super sensitive.
Good luck.
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As others have said, try not to beat yourself up over this. It was a mistake and no one was hurt. I would highly recommend, as costly as it may be, to get a lawyer to work through the case and get the plea downgraded. Prayers are being said for you!
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Thank you for the kind words. I have already gotten a lawyer and feel better about the situation. Interestingly enough, my diet may have given me a higher than normal BAC reading. Apparently there is a connection between low calorie, high protein diets skewing the results. Who knew?!? The legal part of it, I'm almost okay with. I broke the law and there are consequences to that, no matter how much it sucks. It's the mental part that is killing me. But I'm just trying to take it day by day and remember that one bad choice doesn't define me as a person (or Mother, which is really what I'm struggling with).
Thanks again though for letting me get this out here. It helps to get the words out of my head without having to talk to people in real life. My poor husband gets so frustrated if I'm upset about something he can't 'fix.' He can be supportive, hire me the best attorney, etc. but he can't help me come to peace with it in myself. So it's just chin up, and all smiles at home.
That seems crazy. You metabolize a drink an hour. You had 4 drinks (if you count that last tasting of wine as a full drink) in 4 hours, plus it sounds like plenty of food & water. If I had been in your position, I would have done the same thing. Don't beat yourself up over it.
Don't beat yourself up over a stupid mistake. Be glad that no one got hurt. You can't undo the past, just make better choices in the future. This very thing could have happened to any one of us, and I don't think you had that much to drink over the given timespan, coupled with having dinner. I think a lot of people would be surprised how very little you can drink and still blow a .08, and not be aware that you are "legally" drunk". Sounds like you're taking care of the business side of it. Take care of yourself too. And thanks for sharing your story. It's a great reminder for all of us. Big hugs to you.
You are super helpful! I am sure she will sleep more soundly tonight knowing that you think she had too much to drink, because certainly her DUI didn't make her aware of that. I would insert an eye roll if I could, in case you weren't sure.
K&P, I am so sorry this happened. I fully believe this could have happened to many people without realizing they had too much. I will think good thoughts for you!
This is exactly what I wanted to say. Good luck, L. I hope this nightmare gets better for yu soon.
Ditto this. Couldn't have said it better myself. I feel for you. I always over analyze things and think of the what-ifs. I can only imagine trying to process all of this. Hugs!
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