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Potty accidents, on purpose

bluejaywaybluejayway member
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My daughter is 2.5 and has been potty trained since Thanksgiving. She hasn't had an accident in months, and always tells us when she needs to go. Well, just this week, she's started peeing her pants to get attention. I'm certain it's not a true "accident," but even so, I've not gotten mad or upset, just cleaned it up and moved on.

But I'm not sure how to handle it. For instance, she was put in a time out today for throwing a ball at her little sister. I set her on the stairs for two minutes. She started crying and peed and then yelled, "I JUST PEED ON THE STAIRS," followed by hysterics. I cleaned her up and put her back in time out to finish out her two minutes. This kind of thing has happened several times frequently.

Anyone dealt with anything similar? I've thought it may be related to jealousy of her little sister (12 months old, never had much jealousy issues before now), so I've tried to ensure I'm giving her lots of positive attention and one-on-one love during the time I spend with them. Part of me feels like it's a control thing for her, and also a way to get attention. I also have made sure to take her to the potty frequently, discussed that we only go in the potty, etc. 

To be clear, I'm not expecting her to never have real accidents. But I'm struggling with how to deal with the emotional outbursts and these faux accidents.  

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  • rjeller32rjeller32 member
    In stressful situations, or when we put DD in timeout she also does this (we recently had another child, so I know it's an attention thing). She has been PTed for about 2 months now. I think it's something a child goes through, and you are handling it just as you should. It really is frustrating, trust me, I am right there with you, but there really isn't much more you can do. I have lately been having my DD help me clean it up, and we talk about why it's not okay. Having to clean it has been making her realize it's not funny and it's not cute. Both my mom and my MIL told me it is a phase, and they will get past it. MIL actually brought up that sometimes they might do it because it is the one thing they can control in their lives, as they are getting older and gaining a sense of independence. Keep your chin up!
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  • joleinejoleine member

    I came here this morning to post something similar.

    My (just turned) 3 year old has also been potty trained since Thanksgiving, but a week and a half ago came down with a UTI.  We discovered the UTI because she started having accidents, and then said it hurt to pee.  Ever since I took her to the Dr for the UTI, she's been having accidents.  However, she ONLY has them for me.  She won't have accidents at preschool, with the nanny or with grandma.  Only with me.  She's not been alone with my husband since this started, so I don't know if she'll have them with JUST him.  

    she says she doesn't mean to and she seems upset about it, but I'm not sure how to handle it!  Do I get upset? Do I just brush it aside? She needs to know it's not OK to do it, but how do I tell her that? At this point, it's obviously not a true "accident" because it's not happening with other people.

    Yesterday she literally peed her pants not 5 minutes after the nanny left!

    My other concern is that if she's doing it for attention from me, how is she going to act when I go out of town for 4 days next weekend?

    Btw - I restarted the "awesome chart" (We use that instead of a "potty chart") as incentive to go potty properly. I'm hoping if she sees how awesome it is to not have accidents, she'll stop?  

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  • UnknownUnknown

    Wow. I thought it was just me. My son (27months) was never fully potty trained but he was going to the bathroom on time and rarely ever wet himself. Then all of  a sudden he is P'ing everywhere...2 - 3 times a day?!? And he will come get me and wait for my reaction. I vary..sometimes I made a deal and sometimes I don't. I'm not sure what is the best way to handle this.

     

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  • jpearce327jpearce327 member

    DS is doing the same thing, and it's definitely an attention thing. He did it in time out several times so we started having time out in the shower (we have a seat in there, and sit him on that). He hasn't peed in there yet, but I figure if he does he's in the shower so it's easy clean up(our reason for moving timeout there). 

     

    Just an idea if youre tired of cleaning up puddles like I was. 

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