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May 2013 Moms
jedimindtrick
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Hospital nursery vs "rooming in?"
jedimindtrick
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So our hospital has all private rooms and DH and I were planning on having baby exclusively room in with us during our stay. That is still our plan as I will be BFibg and will want him close. However a friend at work today said his one piece of advice would be to let baby sleep in the nursery and get some rest after delivery. What do you guys think about this, especially those of you who have done this already.
Hopefully this isn't a debated topic.
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Re: Hospital nursery vs "rooming in?"
I think: be open to both options.
If you are BF'ing and decide to have the baby kept in the nursery, they will bring LO to you for each feeding.
....and, it's nice to have the nursery as an option at night for a little while, because when you go home, you don't have those extra hands and eyes!
Just be open to either option. That's my opinion....
You don't have to decide now unless you are choosing a hospital based on this. See how you feel after LO arrives.
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Same here. Except the baby was a boy.
With my DS by midnight the day he was born I was so exhausted (I had labored all night the night before) that I was sobbing and he would not sleep in his bassinet and they would not let me sleep with him on my chest since my DH was asleep. The baby nurse then offered to take him to the nursery and I slept for a few hours. It was a God send. She brought him back when he woke up for his feeding and I kept him the rest of the time.
If I have to labor all night again this time, I will probably do the same thing!
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I took full advantage of the nursery! They brought DD in every time she woke up for me to nurse, but they handled the overnight diaper changes. Since I had a c-section, it was so wonderful to not have to get in and out of bed to help DH change the baby. I'm planning on doing the same with this baby.
I might get flamed for this, but I also let the nurses supplement with formula (we went on to BF for 13 months). DD was low birth weight, and my milk hadn't come in yet, so it made sense for us to supplement. Those first few days/nights, I was willing to do whatever would help me get some rest.
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The hospital I'll be at is family centered, and prefers for babies to room in. They do have a nursery, of course, but they dont really encourage sending them in.
I know how I am, and I dont think I'll be able to send her away where I cant see whats happening or how she is. Hubby will probably be even worse than I am. And since I hope to nurse without ever supplementing, I know it will be easier with her in our room for lots of skin to skin.
I did not want my daughter that far away from me, I wanted her right next to me. She slept the first night anyway like a charm. The second night was full of cluster feeding though. I sent my DH home the second day, I wanted him to be rested so he could take care of us, it worked out well.
Rooming in is very important to breast feeding.
Same here.
I kept my kids with me and I plan to with this one. I know rest is important but it was important for me to have the baby in the room.
EDIT I don't know of any hospitals where they don't do 'rooming in' unless there is a problem.
My hospital is exactly like this too. But they so have the option of a nursery. I talked to DH and he said baby is staying with us. lol. Too funny.
The hospital I delivered both kids at has a nursery, but they strongly promote in-room bonding. I breastfed both times. With my son, who was my first, I did not want him to go to the nursery, even though he was a challenging sleeper and would scream (loudly) if he was not being held. It was really tiring even with my SO there the whole time. With my daughter, I started labor at 11:00 p.m. and she was born at 6:00 a.m. No sleep that night. The second night she did not sleep well, was having issues similar to my son where she would cry unless held and it was a long night. I was by myself most of both nights as SO was with our son.
The third night, the nurses took pity on me and, around midnight, when it was looking to be another long night, gently suggested that I send her to the nursery for a bit (maybe they were just tired of listening to her cry - they all commented how loud she was for a newborn). She went until 6:00 a.m. They also gave her a little formula, which seemed to help her sleep better and I got some sleep. I have to say with my son, I was strongly opposed to any formula supplement and started crying when the nurses suggested it (both because of his crying and because he was jaundiced), with my daugther, I had no such concerns. Other than that one night, she didn't have formula again until she was probably 5 months old and she breastfed until she was 2.
My suggestion, like that of a lot of other posters, is to keep an open mind as it is difficult to predict what you, your SO and your child will actually be like "in the moment" and I think some flexibility will lead to the best possible outcome for all.