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May 2013 Moms
NatNatD
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Guess what MIL said to DH...
NatNatD
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I finally made my husband understand why we should not have visitors stay with us until at least 2 weeks after baby is born. His parents live about 7 hrs away, so it's a big ordeal when they visit twice a year. They usually stay for about a week and we have to do EVERYTHING together. Plus, they left dirty dishes in the sink every day the last time they were here.... Anyway, when DH told his mom that we do not want visitors until June, her response was "you guys are acting like this is such a big deal. It's just a baby!"
Ummm.....
Ummm.....
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Re: Guess what MIL said to DH...
LOL. Clearly babies have no impact on your day to day life, you should be able to handle two other needy visitors!
*facepalm*
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I don't think that was her. For some reason I feel like that poster said that her inlaws lived like 20 minutes away.
OP, I can't believe your MIL said that! I would be pretty hurt by a comment like that, especially coming from my baby's grandma.
I am starting to think I am the only one looking forward to having parents here with this LO is born!
When DS was born, my parents (who live 6+ hrs away) came and stayed with us for about 1.5 weeks. I was SO grateful to have them. They actually cleaned my entire house and my mom woke up with me when DS woke up at night. DH had to go into work a few days while they were here so it was so nice to have them here to help. But I think it's easier because they used to live in the area, so they visited with friends and other family when needed some down time.
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Whenever they're hungry, we all have to pile into a car and go somewhere together. His mother is pretty controlling and from what I've heard, was not a very good mother to him. We always end up spending so much money when they're around because we have to drive them places and eat out at least once a day. It's just so draining.
Also, both parents are very overweight, his father is in his late 70s and has trouble with the stairs at our house. I don't see him being much help with an infant. His mother does not have manners and is very grabby with things. I can just imagine her wanting to hog the baby.
I wish Xanax were allowed while breast feeding! At least I'll be able to drink a little bit!
I WISH they would consider that as an option, but they act like they don't have the money for that. I almost want to give them 300 for a hotel.
Honestly, if it comes down to that, I would give them the money. Trust me, you will be so upset if you let them come and stay. Your hormones are going to be all crazy that first couple of weeks and your sleep cycle all messed up and if you're trying to breastfeed- the last thing you'll want to do is pile into the car and go out to eat all the time and clean up after them and all of that.
I'm speaking from experience here. The inlaws about made me lose my mind with baby#1.
If they don't think the baby is that big of a deal, they should have no issue with waiting until June to come visit.
I think you're being nice with offering two weeks. That's still fairly soon. My mom was just telling me how hard it is to recover from delivery (specifically a c-section) with in-laws around. You shouldn't have to entertain and put on a happy face when you're tired, hurting and adjusting to a new schedule and lifestyle.
I agree, if a new baby isnt that big of a deal, why dont they just wait 2 months before they visit.
Gives you more time to adjust and recover.
This is the exact thing I've been trying to explain to DH. My SIL wants to come for the birth and I am 100% ok with having her around. She will be a help leading up to the birth and not expect to be entertained at all. If anything, she will keep me sane
Other family members (on both sides) have expressed that they want to make a trip mid-June...which could be 1-2 weeks after we have her. I am not OK with these specific family members coming because they are super high maintenance and lack boundaries. It would be challenging without a baby, let alone having just given birth. My DH can't seem to grasp the difference and it's so frustrating to me!
It's not that I don't want them to come and see the baby, but I'd prefer them to wait at least another week OR if they insist on coming that soon, they need to make other arrangements and not stay at our house. We will see how this goes...