Are you still lugging around your toddler?

OhSewCrafty · March 2013

We have a van with captains chairs, so Charlie's car seat sits up on one of them in the second row. I drop him off at daycare since DH leaves for work at 6:45am and I don't leave until 8am, but this morning I swear, I almost passed out hoisting my 34 lb. chunker up into his seat. This is going to be a long 3 weeks. Sad

BabyBPlus3 · March 2013

I feel your pain. My 5 year old is very cuddly (which i wouldn't change for the world) - but picking him up has become quite the task. He's also had a hard time understanding why just over the past week or so mommy can't pick him up and throw him around when we're playing.

WorkinWeezel · March 2013

YES!!! J is also 34 pounds and he is so difficult to carry. He's also very tall so it makes it awkward. He loves snuggles and cuddles, so it's hard to say no

OhSewCrafty · March 2013

BabyBPlus3:
I feel your pain. My 5 year old is very cuddly (which i wouldn't change for the world) - but picking him up has become quite the task. He's also had a hard time understanding why just over the past week or so mommy can't pick him up and throw him around when we're playing.

Doesn't it just break your heart?! I don't want to tell him that I need to rest because of the baby because I don't want him associating the baby with distance from me -- he'll get enough of that when she's here. Huh?

crunchymnm · March 2013

I try not to lift my 2 yo unless necessary, like putting him in the car seat. He's 35ish lbs and it's very uncomfortable for me at this point.

July18Bride · March 2013

Yes, I still lift our 32 lb toddler. Same thing, we have an SUV so he needs to be lifted into and out of his seat. He also likes to be carried to his room for bedtime, which is something I need to break but I feel like he never wants to cuddle anymore so its the only time I sort of get a little snuggle. It seems to be getting harder and harder!

OhSewCrafty · March 2013

WorkinWeezel:
YES!!! J is also 34 pounds and he is so difficult to carry. He's also very tall so it makes it awkward. He loves snuggles and cuddles, so it's hard to say no

Charlie is also fairly tall (about 37") so he's just a lanky mess when he tries to on me. I love that he wants to cuddle, but elbows to the belly hurt - especially when she's elbowing back at him from the inside! Haha

UberBiz · March 2013

I don't lug her around, per se, but FI's 3yr old daughter is on the chunky side at 36lb (My 7yr old is only 45lb, so I am not used to a little girl being so heavy!), and it is getting extremely difficult to hoist her into and out of the car seat. Out is easier, but lifting her in - FI usually does it, but I will do it if I'm first out the door in the morning.

Other than that, I've snatched her up if she is not behaving (e.g., "come upstairs it's time for bed." "NO!" *me, snatch her up, and go up the stairs because I am NOT arguing with a stubborn 3yr old*). FI tells me I shouldn't do it, but what else am I supposed to do?

synchrosally · March 2013

Ugh. Yes. The child is getting more stubborn and not co-operating in the morning so half the time I have to carry him like a sack of potatoes to get him dressed and ready and then heave him into the car. I tried the old "why don't you climb in the car like a big boy" trick but then he climbs into the front seat to "drive" and I have to yank him back out again and throw his squirming 35 lb butt into the seat.

Mama is tired.

OhSewCrafty · March 2013

UberBiz:
I don't lug her around, per se, but FI's 3yr old daughter is on the chunky side at 36lb (My 7yr old is only 45lb, so I am not used to a little girl being so heavy!), and it is getting extremely difficult to hoist her into and out of the car seat. Out is easier, but lifting her in - FI usually does it, but I will do it if I'm first out the door in the morning.
Other than that, I've snatched her up if she is not behaving (e.g., "come upstairs it's time for bed." "NO!" *me, snatch her up, and go up the stairs because I am NOT arguing with a stubborn 3yr old*). FI tells me I shouldn't do it, but what else am I supposed to do?

Yeah, haven't quite figured that one out either. It terrifies me that we'll be out somewhere and I'll need to grab him quickly and won't be able to. I'm a crazy person and worry too much though. ;-)

OhSewCrafty · March 2013

synchrosally:
Ugh. Yes. The child is getting more stubborn and not co-operating in the morning so half the time I have to carry him like a sack of potatoes to get him dressed and ready and then heave him into the car. I tried the old "why don't you climb in the car like a big boy" trick but then he climbs into the front seat to "drive" and I have to yank him back out again and throw his squirming 35 lb butt into the seat.
Mama is tired.

Ahh if it were only that easy. Sure, you drive this morning. I'll be back here napping. Stick out tongue

Ooglybear · March 2013

Sometimes. I've been intentionally weaning her off of being carried. I make her climb into the car by herself, but she can't quite climb into the seat so I lift her. And I lug her out of the seat too. I make her go down the stairs independently, etc. I have gotten tired of hoisting her into the highchair, so she just sits in a regular chair most of the time...

My DD is only 23ish pounds, and I can't carry her around on my hip for long anymore. I do not envy you!

synchrosally · March 2013

OhSewCrafty:
synchrosally:
Ugh. Yes. The child is getting more stubborn and not co-operating in the morning so half the time I have to carry him like a sack of potatoes to get him dressed and ready and then heave him into the car. I tried the old "why don't you climb in the car like a big boy" trick but then he climbs into the front seat to "drive" and I have to yank him back out again and throw his squirming 35 lb butt into the seat.
Mama is tired.
Ahh if it were only that easy. Sure, you drive this morning. I'll be back here napping.

LOL Yes please! And get me a tea in drive thru while you're at it. Ha ha ha.

principessa81 · March 2013

Yep. My midwife told me a few weeks ago I shouldn't be lifting anything heavier than 15lbs, and I'm thinking, "yeah...we passed the 15lb mark a LONG time ago. I'm pretty sure Tony weighed 14lbs at his 4-month appointment!" He's really doing a number on my back, though.

Lhyacinth888 · March 2013

Yeah I am at the point where I toss DS into his carseat and at night I just drop him in his crib like 5 inches from the bottom. I am only 5 feet 2 inches to begin with so it's even more challenging for me with a huge belly in my way.

jackie9480 · March 2013

Still lugging my 33lber around here too! Its sure getting difficult though! I was just thinking about this topic this morning as I was taking her to daycare. Luckily we just bought a radion carseat and got rid of the graco convertible. She can kind of help herself climb into it in our Traverse. That helps so much compared to the old graco that sat SO high up. I hear you on feeling bad explaining why mommy cant do the things she used to though.

BabyBPlus3 · March 2013

OhSewCrafty:
BabyBPlus3:
I feel your pain. My 5 year old is very cuddly (which i wouldn't change for the world) - but picking him up has become quite the task. He's also had a hard time understanding why just over the past week or so mommy can't pick him up and throw him around when we're playing.
Doesn't it just break your heart?! I don't want to tell him that I need to rest because of the baby because I don't want him associating the baby with distance from me -- he'll get enough of that when she's here.

I just had a talk about this with my DH - he likes to say things like "mommy can't because the baby makes her tired" or "mommy can't because that's too hard with a baby in your belly." I told him he really needs to stop before DS trades being excited about the baby to resenting her.

Dunkin · March 2013

My kids are crazy tall, so my 3 year old weighs 41 pounds, but is 42 inches tall. I try to not lift her that much, but stuff happens. And I had to lift my 5 year old when he got hurt himself and I had to rush him to the ER 3 days ago. He weighs 48 pounds at 45 inches... My back was not happy with me! I feel you pain.

OhSewCrafty · March 2013

jackie9480:
Still lugging my 33lber around here too! Its sure getting difficult though! I was just thinking about this topic this morning as I was taking her to daycare. Luckily we just bought a radion carseat and got rid of the graco convertible. She can kind of help herself climb into it in our Traverse. That helps so much compared to the old graco that sat SO high up. I hear you on feeling bad explaining why mommy cant do the things she used to though.

That's what we have! So, up on a captains chair in a van with its high sides, its like impossible for him to get into and out of alone. He's still RF though, so I don't know many seats with lower sides that still RF.

sherina825 · March 2013

I am, but she's a little girl. She's only about 28 pounds. The funny thing is that everyone keeps telling me how heavy she's getting but I guess I don't feel it since I'm always holding her.

OhSewCrafty · March 2013

BabyBPlus3:
OhSewCrafty:
BabyBPlus3:
I feel your pain. My 5 year old is very cuddly (which i wouldn't change for the world) - but picking him up has become quite the task. He's also had a hard time understanding why just over the past week or so mommy can't pick him up and throw him around when we're playing.
Doesn't it just break your heart?! I don't want to tell him that I need to rest because of the baby because I don't want him associating the baby with distance from me -- he'll get enough of that when she's here.
I just had a talk about this with my DH - he likes to say things like "mommy can't because the baby makes her tired" or "mommy can't because that's too hard with a baby in your belly." I told him he really needs to stop before DS trades being excited about the baby to resenting her.

Exactly. I want him to be excited about the baby, not resentful. Its confusing enough being a toddler. lol

jackie9480 · March 2013

OhSewCrafty:
jackie9480:
Still lugging my 33lber around here too! Its sure getting difficult though! I was just thinking about this topic this morning as I was taking her to daycare. Luckily we just bought a radion carseat and got rid of the graco convertible. She can kind of help herself climb into it in our Traverse. That helps so much compared to the old graco that sat SO high up. I hear you on feeling bad explaining why mommy cant do the things she used to though.
That's what we have! So, up on a captains chair in a van with its high sides, its like impossible for him to get into and out of alone. He's still RF though, so I don't know many seats with lower sides that still RF.

We have the Diono Radian R100 and it rear faces, too. It actually goes all the way to lap belt/booster seat. My neighbor recommended HIGHLY because they fit 3-wide if need be. (They will be having 3 under 4 soon.) Its SUPER heavy but has really awesome safety ratings. Although, if he is rear facing it might still be pretty difficult for him to climb in and out himself anyway. Something to look into though! We waited till Amazon was having a deal and picked one up!

Angela814 · March 2013

You mean my 33 lb, 2.5 yo who insists she can't walk and needs "uppie" all the time. Yep. I have to carry her into the Y every day we go. I think she doesn't like having to walk in the cold and the wind. I have to lift her into her carseat, which requires finagling since she's rear facing. I think she generally wants to be carried more now than she used to, probably because she knows the baby is coming.

nyki06 · March 2013

My 2 year old is 28lbs and I still carry her pretty often. We have a lot of snow and ice here in MN that makes it necessary in a lot of situations to carry her vs. letting her fall. Our driveway is like a rollercoaster (super steep) and I just don't trust her judgement when getting from the house to the car. I have been trying to let her walk as much as possible in non dangerous situations though as long as she holds my hand.

blueandgray · March 2013

"Lugging" is so the right word! DD is little compared to some of your LO's at only like 26lbs or so, but even that gets tiring, so I don't know how you do it! She prefers to walk most places on her own, and just recently wants to climb in & out of the carseat herself - I can just give her bottom a little push & she can climb in & get settled which is really helpful.

Who needs the gym when we're carrying around an extra 50+ pounds of kids everywhere we go between the baby & toddler??

Angela814 · March 2013

principessa81:
Yep. My midwife told me a few weeks ago I shouldn't be lifting anything heavier than 15lbs, and I'm thinking, "yeah...we passed the 15lb mark a LONG time ago. I'm pretty sure Tony weighed 14lbs at his 4-month appointment!" He's really doing a number on my back, though.

LOL. I lift more than 15 lbs at the gym. I keep telling myself that the reason I'm still able to lift DD2 (and DD1 (53 lbs) sometimes if she's misbehaving) is because I've been lifting 3x a week.

36 lbs doesn't seem heavy to me for a 3 yo either. DD1 has always been a skinny thing, and she was 36.5 lbs at 3 years, although she was also 41.5" too.

Murraydog · March 2013

It's funny that you posted this today because I was going to post pretty much the exact same thing! It's getting harder and harder to do our normal routine with my daughter. We always rock in the chair and read books before bed and I'm running out of lap for her to sit on and she's getting annoyed by it. She's still fairly light (under 30lbs) so it's not THAT hard for me to pick her up and carry her, but it is getting harder. I'm just really looking forward to having my lap back for her to sit on. I love our snuggle time and it's just difficult right now to deal with this belly in the way of it.

skoogirl · March 2013

I probably lug him a little less than before, but honestly, I don't have much choice. He's pretty insistant sometimes.

synchrosally · March 2013

Murraydog:
It's funny that you posted this today because I was going to post pretty much the exact same thing! It's getting harder and harder to do our normal routine with my daughter. We always rock in the chair and read books before bed and I'm running out of lap for her to sit on and she's getting annoyed by it. She's still fairly light (under 30lbs) so it's not THAT hard for me to pick her up and carry her, but it is getting harder. I'm just really looking forward to having my lap back for her to sit on. I love our snuggle time and it's just difficult right now to deal with this belly in the way of it.

Running out of lap is right! DS always sits on my lap for bedtime stories but it's sooo uncomfortable for me. Baby girl doesn't like it and makes her presence known and when DS leans on my stomach I get BHs. I manage to make it through story time and thankfully DS only wants a few snuggles in the chair before clambering into bed. I think he's as uncomfortable with cuddling against my stomach as I am.

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha · March 2013

I still pick up DD1 (41lbs), but much less than I used to. DD2 is only 26lb and isn't quite walking yet, so I still carry her a lot.

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tobejesskoz · March 2013

DD, at her 3 yr appt in January was 39 lbs and 39 inches. I keep telling her I have to stop carrying her soon, but I still do. When I take her to my mom in the morning, she is usually still half asleep so I carry her downstairs, then out to the car. When I pick her up after work, she wants to be carried, and it is just easier and faster to lug her out to car, then into the house.

So far it's still not too bad, but I know these last few weeks, it is going to get much worse.

jkkg317 · March 2013

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principessa81:
Yep. My midwife told me a few weeks ago I shouldn't be lifting anything heavier than 15lbs, and I'm thinking, "yeah...we passed the 15lb mark a LONG time ago. I'm pretty sure Tony weighed 14lbs at his 4-month appointment!" He's really doing a number on my back, though.
My grandma is ALWAYS commenting on how it's "unsafe" or I "shouldn't be doing that." Ok, are YOU going to take care of Jack? No? Well, then I have to. Is it ideal for me to have to lug him around? No, but I don't have a choice. I use a stroller when necessary but I'm not going to put him in a stroller just to walk to and from a restaurant or in and out of a house. That is just plain silly.

I went out with my sister today and he was getting distracted by everything so it was taking us longer to do anything, she finally just asked why I didn't pick him up and I told her, "He's heavy and I can only do it for a few minutes at a time, if he is fighting me it is damn near impossible.". I suggested she pick him up and she pointed out that he only wants me to carry him around and jumps away from everyone else. Luckily it seems like this baby is much lower so I can pick him up for good night hugs for a little bit and rock him on his way to bed.

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