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I need sex help

connors0159connors0159 member
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My baby is almost 9 months old and I still have no sex drive. Having sex or just thinking my husband wants sex literally makes me cringe. I need to get my sex drive back but I don't know what to do. It is starting to ruin my relationship. Someone please give me some advice.

ps. we have sex i just don't enjoy it anymore.

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  • cubuff98cubuff98 member
    Do you guys have date nights?  I found that having a baby sitter and going out to dinner once a month helps get that spark back.  When it's just the two of you and you can remember why you fell in love and have some quiet time away from LO's.  Did you used to enjoy sex before baby?  I know there are prescription hormonal supplements you can take if it's something lacking there.
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  • fryratfryrat member
    I didn't really get back into it until I started feeling pretty again. I bought a new bra or 2, got my hair done, and got shapewear so I can look in the mirror without immediately zeroing in on a saggy belly. That's what really helped me.
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  • WippyWippy
    I don't have any advice, but I can tell you I'm in the same boat. Maybe worse since we've only had sex once (Valentine's Day) since I was about 7 months pregnant (LO is also 9 months old). We used to have sex a couple times a week, usually initiated by me. We're still a very affectionate couple, but sex just doesn't even cross my mind anymore... I'm on the progesterone only pill Micronor (not like I need it! lol). Does anyone have any experience with it?
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  • fryratfryrat member
    I took the progesterone only pill for a short time, and it was definitely like it made me think all boys had cooties. It made sex seem repulsive. One I got Mirena, that feeling went away.
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  • WippyWippy
    Haha. Good to know. I'll talk to my doctor about switching.
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  • caeraRosecaeraRose member
    This might sound silly, but I suddenly became more interested in sex when I took my bra off for foreplay - I had always left it on because I was worried about leaking everywhere, but then I figured out that my bra made me feel too much like a mom. Taking off the bra helped me feel like a wife again. Is there anything you can do to get out of your "mom" mindset?
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