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September 2013 Moms
Leoncita728
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feel bad, but not really... (kinda long)
Leoncita728
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Am I horrible? We are just beginning to tell our families that we are expecting. Now my DH has a small family, and I understand the excitement of a new baby as it's the only baby in the family. Same goes for my side of our family. I know everyone is and will be excited (I am telling my side this weekend) but my DH's cousin is non-stop texting and calling about how she's so excited and how these next six months are going to drag and how much she wants to be the bestest cousin and she wants to go shopping with us and she wants to hang out more! OMG! I find it suffocating and kind of annoying. I made the mistake of expressing that to my DH and I may have offended him but geez! Not to mention his mother is lifting my shirt to see my belly and kissing my belly. I'm not the mushy type and this is a bit too close for comfort. Am I overreacting? Am I a snob?
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Re: feel bad, but not really... (kinda long)
Oh f*ck no! MY mom isn't even allowed to do that! If your husband offends that easily, you'll need to speak up. Be nice about it and just say that makes you uncomfortable. You'll probably have to give and let her rub your belly, but that's 100x better than lifting your shirt to kiss your belly.
My MIL would walk away with a limp if she did that to me - or her other DIL. You're not a snob and you're not overreacting about that one. As for his cousin, she's overwhelming you and you're entitled to those feelings. I think you're fine.
We're one and done!
Nope, you are not over-reacting or being a snob! The only 2 people with belly-kissing rights are DH and DS (which is pretty stinking cute).
Cousin sounds sweet, but I could see how this could be suffocating. I would only answer a text or so a day and just let her know that you're glad she's excited but you're really swamped at work, whatever. Maybe ask her for help on something small and specific (like picking out bedding to help her feel included).
The next time MIL makes a move for you, I would block her hand and let her know you're not comfortable...that's seriously creepy!
Hell. No.
The cousin will hopefully chill out soon. I'd just be polite and say things like "we're excited too!" in the meantime.
2 years, 2 surgeries, 2 clomid fails, 2 IUIs, 1 loss, IVF #1 - 10/25/10 = BFP!, DS is now 3.5yrs!
TTC #2 - 6/12 surgery #3, FET #1 & 1.2 = BFN, 12/2012 FET #2 = BFP! DD is 1.5 yrs!
Surprise! 12/16/14 BFP, loss #2 12/31/14
I can't wait for the "im getting a divorce" post in 5 years or so because your husbands were fed up with your disgusting chair asses from playing on the knot all day and getting fired 4-5 times for not doing any work. you guys are all winners!! ~ Laur929
That MIL shirt thing is bat shti crazy. DH has gotta say something to her. Ugh!
TTC since: September 2010
BFP 1/18/2013 - beta #1 - 174
1/21/2013 beta #2 - 705
For the cousin, I would just reply back saying "we are so excited too but I am not even thinking about shopping and am just taking it day by day".
As for MIL, either tell her you're not comfortable with people touching your belly or tell her you're not comfortable with people, including her, touching your belly.