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STTN......

How old is your baby?

Are they BF or FF?

Did you do any training?  

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  • 5-6 hour stretches - 6m.  Real, honest to God sleeping through the night - 13m.

    Yes, I BF.  The need to feed was the issue.

    Yes, yes, yes, I sleep trained.  Repeatedly from 6m on.  Ferber's how I finally got longer stretches.  It was just darn difficult to get rid of the 11pm and 4 am feedings.  Those were like pulling teeth.    

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  • 14m - to bed at 8-8:30pm and up by 7am but we have had some rough patches. He did really well until 1yr and then we had a hellacious wakeful period for almost a month+.

    He was FF but we've been completely off since the end of Jan.

    No sleep training.

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  • Formula fed.  STTN started around 8 weeks (11p-7 or 8a).. and then around 3 months we moved him up to 7-8p and was still sleeping until 7a.  He still goes "down" around 7-7:30, and is asleep before 8, and we wake him at 6am to leave the house.  On the weekends, he'll sleep until 7-8am.

    We sort of sleep trained, in the sense that around 3 months I started putting him in the crib awake and he'd go to sleep on his own, but he also didn't fight it at all.. for the first month or so that we did that, he wouldn't even fuss when we put him in.. he'd just look around, and then go right to sleep.. around 4 1/2-5 months, we hid a glitch where he started pitching fits whenever we'd put him down for naps or bed, and then we definitely did more of the common sleep training.. i.e., he'd fuss initially, after 5 minutes, I'd go in, reset his seahorse and mobile, rub his belly, etc, and then go back out, but wouldn't pick him up once I put him down.. again, he wasn't a huge "sleep fighter" so the sleep training has been relatively easy -- knock on wood.

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  • Very inconsistent sleeper. We have had a rough patch here where she knows the sleep routine and gets upset at the stage right before bed (bottle in the chair next to her crib).

    She is never awful.  At most, she gets up once. 

    Some great nights can go 11-12 hours with one  wake up where she self soothes.  Other nights, gets up once and absolutely needs a bottle or snuggles around 2AM.

    10 months

    FF

    We Ferber her to sleep which has worked great (except the last 2 weeks where she has had a double ear infection and won't let me set her in the crib awake).  It was the nights immediately after Ferbering her to sleep that she slept 11-12 hours.

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  • My boys are awesome freaks of nature when it comes to sleep. They love it.

    They STTN from 8:30pm until 8am unless teething wakes them up. Then a dose of Tylenol or Advil gets them back down most nights. They are FF but were STTN when they were fed BM.

    We did not need to sleep train except to get J down for the night. He usually complains the second the door shuts so I set a timer for five minutes. If he's truly crying I don't wait, but if its just fussing I wait the full five minutes to go in and rub his back. Repeat for 10, then for 15. 15 is the most I would ever do but I've never had to do more than 10.

    ETA: They're 11m actual and 8.5m adjusted.
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  • DD is 8 months and has been STTN since 6 when we Ferberized her. It was rough to start out with, but it definitely worked. She is asleep by 8:30 and wakes up at 6:30. She's been sick the past two weeks, though, so she's relapsed a little. We went back to the routine last night and only took two checks to get her down for the whole night.

     She's BF and since dropping our night nursing session (the main reason she was waking before ST), she's learned to eat more during the day. It took a couple weeks to ballence out, though.

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  • 6 months

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    We started sleeping through the night occasionally at 4 and a half months.  He only does it about 1/4-5 days.  He goes down at 9 and usually wakes to eat at 330 or 430.  I didn't do any formal sleep training.  We have a pretty set bedtime routine, but I am still pretty flexible with the wake ups.  I just don't have it in me to do CIO in the middle of the night so I feed him and he goes back down.  Now that I know he doesn't need to eat in the middle of the night I am thinking about doing some kind of training.  Last night he woke up at 330 and DH just rubbed his back without picking him up and DS went back to sleep.  Maybe I have been too quick to feed him.

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  • DS is 6 months but started STTN around 3.5 months and he is now FF.  We didn't do any sleep training.  The only thing we did was stick to a very consistent bed time and routine.  He gets a bath at 7:30, lavender lotion, PJ's, story, bottle and bed.  We put him down awake and within 5 mins he's asleep.  He typically sleeps from 8pm- 6 or 7 am, unless of course he wakes from teething etc. 

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    DD is almost 14 months and until recently a wonderful sleeper.  Down to bed at 8 and up at 6-7.  She started doing this between 8-10 weeks.  Recently due to teething, I hope, she has been waking up in the middle of the night,  But I don't go in unless she is freaking out.  Usually she cries out for a couple of minutes and then goes back to sleep.

    We EP'd but stopped feeding her during the middle of the night when she started sleeping through it on a regular basis.  We didn't need to ST because she loves her sleep. 

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    DD is almost 5mo and has been sleeping 11 to 12 hours straight since 3.5mo. I attribute it to the miracle blanket, since it's been happening since the first night we used it. However, she had been self preparing for the few weeks before that by cluster feeding before bed and slowly increasing her sleep intervals. She was up to a seven hour stretch until the miracle blanket made her jump to 11.

    We didn't train at all, she just seems to love her bedtime sleep. Now we have a bedtime routine and she happily goes in her miracle blanket and will lay awake happy as a clam until she falls asleep. Naps are a different story. Even if we follow her bedtime routine, she fights them like crazy.

    Oh, and she eats mostly pumped BM, with about two F bottles a day.
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  • DS is 10 months old.  He was BF until 7 months and has been formula fed ever since.  We did not do any sleep training but he started sleeping through the night on his own at 5 months.  Around the time he was 4 months we tried to get him to drop one of his two middle of the night feedings but we didn't sleep train per se.  We just rocked him back to sleep and/or gave him his paci for the earlier of the two wake ups (around midnight).  After about a week he started only getting up for the one feeding around 2:00-3:00am ish.  Then he kept waking up later and later until he wasn't waking up until after 5:00am to feed. 

    So anyone who says BF babies don't STTN can kiss my booty!  (I was so sick of people telling me he would STTN if I would just switch to formula!  BITE ME!)

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    How old is your baby?

    Are they BF or FF?

    Did you do any training?  

    She STTN at 11.5 months.

    She was BF until 8 months, then FF. Neither made a difference with sleeping for her, nor did starting real food.

    Yes, we did Ferber 3x, each time helped a bit, then at 11.5 months it finally clicked on its own and she STTN.  

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  • They do that eventually?! Thank god! I'm hoping before we send him off to college at this point.

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    imageJuddandJessica:
    They do that eventually?! Thank god! I'm hoping before we send him off to college at this point.


    This totally made me laugh, but in a good empathetic way! ::hugs::
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  • How old is your baby? Going to be 17 Months old on Thursday Are they BF or FF? I BFed until 14 Months Did you do any training? Yes, I really didn't want to, but around 13 months, he went from waking up once a night to 3 times a night. It was too much, so we STed and it worked. He surprised us. The longest he cried was 20mins (first night), followed by 10mins next night and 5 minutes 3rd night. He cried 2-3 minutes for 3 weeks after that and now he goes to sleep tired by awake. I didn't want to ST because him crying just breaks my heart and he cries a lot when you leave him, so I didn't think ST would work, but it did. Thank God!
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  • He's 2. So I guess not really a "baby" : )

    He was mostly FF. I did BF at first but I had a terrible time with repeat occurences of mastitis so I switched to FF.

    We did do sleep training...well, I guess...we used the Babywise book as our guideline. He was STTN at around 10 weeks old. When I say STTN I mean he would go to sleep around 9pm, sleep til 4 am with no waking up, take a bottle and get a diaper change and go back down until 9 am.

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    DD is 8 months and has been STTN since 6 when we Ferberized her. It was rough to start out with, but it definitely worked. She is asleep by 8:30 and wakes up at 6:30. She's been sick the past two weeks, though, so she's relapsed a little. We went back to the routine last night and only took two checks to get her down for the whole night.

     She's BF and since dropping our night nursing session (the main reason she was waking before ST), she's learned to eat more during the day. It took a couple weeks to ballence out, though.

    I remember when you were doing this... I am seriously considering trying it out. DD's sleep has been awful since about four months. At this point I'd happily take a consistent night feeding, but it's different every night. I think she's definitely just playing too much during the day and getting distracted. Did your supply suffer at all? How did she make the transition to eating more during the day, or rather, not screaming and screaming because she was hungry at night? 

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  • I guess I should answer too huh?! 

    7 1/2 months

    BF

    I finally caved and did it. His sleep was getting worse and worse. We were getting up between 4-7 times a night..

    he still gets up twice but it's a work in progress and WAY better than the past 

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    DD is 8 months and has been STTN since 6 when we Ferberized her. It was rough to start out with, but it definitely worked. She is asleep by 8:30 and wakes up at 6:30. She's been sick the past two weeks, though, so she's relapsed a little. We went back to the routine last night and only took two checks to get her down for the whole night.

     She's BF and since dropping our night nursing session (the main reason she was waking before ST), she's learned to eat more during the day. It took a couple weeks to ballence out, though.

    I remember when you were doing this... I am seriously considering trying it out. DD's sleep has been awful since about four months. At this point I'd happily take a consistent night feeding, but it's different every night. I think she's definitely just playing too much during the day and getting distracted. Did your supply suffer at all? How did she make the transition to eating more during the day, or rather, not screaming and screaming because she was hungry at night? 

    Four months is about when DD because an awful sleeper, too. Before that she would get up once a night, which I could have dealt with. From 4-6 months, though, she was up 2-3 times each night and after a while I just couldn't function. 

    I'm not going to lie, that first week we started STing sucked... A lot. On night 3 I sat out side her room and stayed up all night because she never stopped crying. Things started improving around night 5 and have been good since. Consistency is key. You really have to stick to your guns. 

    My supply didn't really diminish, but it did change. I get really full in the mornings now, so I nurse DD on one side and pump on the other. I'm sure if I stopped pumping my supply would adjust, but I like having extra BM around just in case. It did take her a while to adjust her eating habits. Around the 2 week mark her diaper started fitting a little looser and I was afraid she was loosing weight. She bouncedback pretty quickly. She made the conection to eating more on her own. The only thing I really did was offer a larger portion of solids at her evening meal. 

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    My boys are awesome freaks of nature when it comes to sleep. They love it.

    They STTN from 8:30pm until 8am unless teething wakes them up. Then a dose of Tylenol or Advil gets them back down most nights. They are FF but were STTN when they were fed BM.

    We did not need to sleep train except to get J down for the night. He usually complains the second the door shuts so I set a timer for five minutes. If he's truly crying I don't wait, but if its just fussing I wait the full five minutes to go in and rub his back. Repeat for 10, then for 15. 15 is the most I would ever do but I've never had to do more than 10.

    ETA: They're 11m actual and 8.5m adjusted.


    I am completely, totally, 100 envious of this. DH and I have to switch nights a few nights a week in order for either of us to get more than 3 or 4 hours.
     
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