Decided to walk away :(

jackieo1309 · March 2013

Thank you all so much for your thoughts and advice on my last post- I really read through all of them and, with some advice from family and friends, we decided to at least talk to a lawyer before making any definite decisions. There are more details in my blog, but, briefly, we knew we had to let her go. We've been getting to know EM for 4 months and really thought we were going to be parents in May. Baby girl was due on mother's day. We are just heartbroken, but we do feel like we made the right decision. Of course FSIL deciding that yesterday was the day for our future nephew's ultrasound photo debut on facebook didn't help me at all. It's been a really rough few days, but we're trying to be hopeful that our baby will find us soon. We really do feel so empty right now though

LaTi07 · March 2013

(Hugs) I'm so sorry.

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IRR · March 2013

I am breathing a sigh of relief for you. I know this totally stinks and I still think if this was meant to be, you will get a call in May. In the meantime, take some time to grieve and continue your search. Wishing you the best and lots of ((((HUGS)))!

elissaann26 · March 2013

I just read all of the details on your blog! What a tough decision! But it sounds like you guys realized what would be best for you, even though it still hurts to make that decision. Hang in there. Take some time for you and let yourself grieve. And ALWAYS know that we are here to support you! **hugs**

Ginger71 · March 2013

I'm so sorry. Thinking of you and praying for peace and comfort. (((hugs)))

irismorning · March 2013

I am so sorry!

MayDayGirl · March 2013

I am so so sorry, I cannot imagine

kfourcat · March 2013

Ugh, I'm so sorry, this process is exhausting

DaisyZH · March 2013

(( Hugs )) I'm so sorry : (

JodyA118 · March 2013

Just read your blog. My heart breaks for you. You went with your instinct so it must have been the right decision. We lost a situation shortly after the birth of the baby which was so painful yet, we all move on as it is part of this crazy process.

Hang in there!

LPL81207 · March 2013

I just read the beginning of your blog, and it is VERY similar to the situation my husband and I are in right now. We were chosen by BM 4 days before Christmas. The baby was born in the beginning of February. The day of birth, BF emerged and is challenging the adoption. The baby was placed in foster care from the hospital. Knowing that this MAY be our baby, we visited everyday in the hospital and have visited every weekend at the foster home. Morally, the BF does not deserve to have rights, but unfortunately, what's morally right doesn't always align with what's legally right. We have chosen to stay a part of the baby's life right now in the hopes that it works out for us. Our agency is supporting our decision. In my state, rights can't be terminated until court, which is usually 6-8 weeks after birth. We were ready to take baby home from the hospital because BM was so committed to the adoption and there had been no contact by BF. I totally know what you are going through and, while we haven't made the same decision as you, we are going through the same emotional turmoil. Like you said, this is one of the hardest things we have ever gone through (if not THE hardest). I know it gets frustrating to keep hearing the same things, but stay strong for each other and pray. I also know how difficult it is when there are others who are pregnant- 2 of my best friends are due over the summer. Best of luck to you.

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