Negative thoughts

SunshinyLees · February 2013

So generally I'm a really positive person, but ever since this pregnancy started ( my 3rd bfp) probably once a week all of a sudden out of knowhere I'll start bawling thinking really negative thoughts that are along the lines of me being in a car accident or plane crash or getting hit by a car and sometimes these thoughts are about my DH or parents. When this happens, I'll go tell DH then he calms me down and all is good again.

Starting a family has me reminiscing alot about family and growing up and how much I love DH & my parents, so I dont know if these thoughts are creeping up on me because Im scared and worried to lose these amazing people in my life as we bring a little one into the world, or if its just all the crazy anxiety from being PGAL. Whatever it is,I hate that I have these thoughts, they really disturb me and Im wondering if I should go speak to someone about it?

What do you guys think? Anyone else get wierd negative thoughts like this?

xoxo

lindsayanne14 · February 2013

I'm so sorry you're having this kind of anxiety! Honestly, I think it's likely a normal reaction to knowing what a huge, amazing thing you're about to begin, parenthood. I think it's pretty common to worry that something terrible will happen to you or your spouse and people fear how that would effect their child. I don't think there's anything wrong with talking to someone about these fears, especially if they're at the point where you're crying and upset on a regular basis! And I hope you know, I'm here if you need to talk...just a text away! Xoxo!

densquared · February 2013

I do, but it's more a feeling than a specific thought. I had to drop DH off for a sleep study last week and I cried all the way home because I was sure I would never see him again. I didn't know what would happen or to whom, I just felt an impending doom. That happens maybe every couple of weeks.

Hope you can find some way to make the ickys go away, no fun!

SunshinyLees · February 2013

lindsayanne79:
I'm so sorry you're having this kind of anxiety! Honestly, I think it's likely a normal reaction to knowing what a huge, amazing thing you're about to begin, parenthood. I think it's pretty common to worry that something terrible will happen to you or your spouse and people fear how that would effect their child. I don't think there's anything wrong with talking to someone about these fears, especially if they're at the point where you're crying and upset on a regular basis! And I hope you know, I'm here if you need to talk...just a text away! Xoxo!

Thanks sweets. DH feels the same way as you and thinks its probably normal but also thinks it wouldn't hurt for me to talk to a professional. I think I'm going to try my hardest to push these crazy thoughts aside when they happen and see if that helps and if not, I'll probably go talk to someone. Ugh PGAL is so hard sometimes. Love u hun xox

SunshinyLees · February 2013

densquared:
I do, but it's more a feeling than a specific thought. I had to drop DH off for a sleep study last week and I cried all the way home because I was sure I would never see him again. I didn't know what would happen or to whom, I just felt an impending doom. That happens maybe every couple of weeks. Hope you can find some way to make the ickys go away, no fun!

Ugh hun, Im so sorry you have these feelings too. This is pretty much how I feel, hopefully we can learn to push these feelings aside when they creep up on us. Thanks for replying with your experience. Big hugs!!!

SunshinyLees · February 2013

MrsErinH:
I just want to send you lots of ((((((hugs)))))). I'm sorry you are feeling this way!

Thanks luv!! xox

SunshinyLees · February 2013

mamato3boys:
I can relate with you 100%. I deal with these feelings often. I have always been more of a nervous/worrying person. After becoming a mom those feeling got stronger. Just how you described loving these wonderful people in your life is how I feel.
I know since my 3rd loss the feelings have at times been unbearable. I feel/know I have no control over what happens to the people I love and that is so hard for me to deal with. Bad things happen and it is completely out of my control. I have been trying to really work through this. When I start to panic I try to remind myself odds are things will be fine. It is hard, but I think I'm getting better.
Just know you are not alone in these feelings. I'd like to think this is normal. So many ((hugs))!!!

Thanks for replying hun and I'm so sorry you are also strugling with these thoughts. Im going to take your advice and try and push the negativity aside when they happen. Its so hard but you're right, we have no control over about that stuff and we cant spend our time dwelling and worrying about something that hasn't happened. Huge hugs to you sweets, I hope the panicking goes away for you soon. xox

SunshinyLees · February 2013

ncchnat:
HUGS!
I do, though mine are more about something happening to my husband. For some reason, I get it into my head that he's going to die in his sleep and so I'm constantly poking him, either because he's snoring and it's driving me nuts or he's not snoring and I worry that he's died.
I think it's normal when there's such a big change coming. You want your baby to have it as good if not better than you did growing up and you worry that because of something beyond your control, you're not going to be able to provide that.

Oh sweetie Im so sorry you also feels these thoughts as well but glad to know we are not alone. Makes me feel so much better knowing that I'm not crazy and that feeling this way from time to time is most likely normal. Afterall, we've all been through so much with our ttc journey that of course we would be anxious/worry warts after everything we've been through!! Ugh!!

Huge hugs to you luv and thanks for replying!!

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