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Can't stay away...

MrsNortzMrsNortz
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Quick update from my "Guess that's it" post the other week, we did A LOT of talking and are going to work on us (to make a long story short). I'm still putting the breaks on the baby-making (even though he wants to have a baby now more than ever) but we definitely need to recover from this first as bringing another life into the mix at this time would not be a great idea. That being said, I hope I can stick around here- I've missed the board!
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  • krdesikrdesi member
    Good Luck

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  • bornmommybornmommy member
    good luck.
                  
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  • RustyGirl3RustyGirl3 member
    Good Luck.
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  • CMSullivan326CMSullivan326 member
    I missed the original post, but DH and I are having a rocky time at the moment as well. It's hard and I'm sorry for what you're going through....

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  • peanutmusepeanutmuse member

    imageMrsNortz:

    I'm still putting the breaks on the baby-making (even though he wants to have a baby now more than ever) but we definitely need to recover from this first as bringing another life into the mix at this time would not be a great idea.

    Ya think? I truly wish you the best of luck, but I have to be honest. It seems like a strange choice to be hanging out here while healing from your recent troubles.

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  • MrsNortzMrsNortz

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    What your husband did to you was horrible. Absolutely horrible.  I'm not sure how you can move on from there and ever trust this man. You should both seek therapy.  Good luck. 

     Agreed. I am already and he will be joining me when I'm ready for him to.

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  • WashingtonQueenWashingtonQueen member
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    imageCMSullivan326:
    I missed the original post, but DH and I are having a rocky time at the moment as well. It's hard and I'm sorry for what you're going through.... ::HUGS::

    The OP being that her husband has been cheating on her for the last two years.

    https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/72047227.aspx

    Two. years. 

    That is longer than her ticker says they have been married.

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  • MrsNortzMrsNortz
    imagepeanut+muse:

    imageMrsNortz:

    I'm still putting the breaks on the baby-making (even though he wants to have a baby now more than ever) but we definitely need to recover from this first as bringing another life into the mix at this time would not be a great idea.

    Ya think? I truly wish you the best of luck, but I have to be honest. It seems like a strange choice to be hanging out here while healing from your recent troubles.

    ...you might be right.

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  • peanutmusepeanutmuse member
    imageWashingtonQueen:
    imageChancieMark:

    The OP being that her husband has been cheating on her for the last two years.

    https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/72047227.aspx

    Two. years. 

    That is longer than her ticker says they have been married.

    Yeah, she said later in the thread that it started before they were even married, and that the person who married them knew about it. F*ed up.

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  • CMSullivan326CMSullivan326 member
    imageWashingtonQueen:
    imageChancieMark:

    imageCMSullivan326:
    I missed the original post, but DH and I are having a rocky time at the moment as well. It's hard and I'm sorry for what you're going through....

    ::HUGS::

    The OP being that her husband has been cheating on her for the last two years.

    https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/72047227.aspx

    Two. years.&nbsp;


    That is longer than her ticker says they have been married.


    I'm mobile so I need clicky...

    But after reading these comments, Holy mother of god....yeahhhh, my husband's definitely not cheating but if he was, I'd never trust him.

    OP, good luck.
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  • LilSip0611LilSip0611 member
    I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I hope that you are able to let yourself heal from this and have a stronger relationship with your DH when all is said and done. I give you a lot of credit, I think my DH would have been castrated if he did that to me.

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  • krdesikrdesi member

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    If my husband cheated on me, there would be no way that we could TTC because I would have cut off his sausage and shoved it down his throat.

     

    Lol I thought the same thing last night when the poster from last night said she was ttc with her husband who had cheated on her and had a baby with someone else. My husband would no longer be able to ttc because he would have no equipment to do so.

     


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                  DH: SA is good

                   May 2013: CD3 Blood work-normal
               June 2013: Hsg-Right tube blocked

                   July 26, 2013: Starting Follistim for IVF #1

                  August 2013: IVF #1 Cancelled- Abnormal embryos

             October/November 2013: IVF #2 w/ICSI

                        November 8, 2013: Transferred two early blasts (no frosties) 

    November 18, 2013: First EVER BFP! 

    Beta#1: 91  Beta#2: 288

    1st U/S- 5w2d Saw yolk sac!

    3rd U/S- 7w4d HB of 157bpm!

    TEAM BLUE!

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  • danielledee89danielledee89 member
    I don't think I could ever forgive SO if he did anything like this to me. One time thing is one thing [which I still would not be able to forgive him for and sure as hell wouldn't be giving him a baby]... But two years is a long time to be cheating on someone.

    OP I'm sorry this happened to you.. But I'm sure you deserve better than that, and I for one wouldn't want this man to be father of my children.

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  • WashingtonQueenWashingtonQueen member
    OP, I am not trying to judge you but, I don't understand why you would want to stay with him. He cheated on you while you planned your wedding and even after he took vows to be faithful to you. In order to do that and keep it up for 2 years he has got to be in love with the other woman.
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  • sueann911sueann911 member
    I truly wish you the best but I want to nut punch a husband who "more than ever" wants a baby now. IMO he wants a baby to tie you to him forever instead of properly working on the relationship.

    Good luck with the therapy and I hope it helps.



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  • MrsN6912MrsN6912 member
    I have to give it to you, you must be a much stronger...or maybe dumber, person than me. I believe in second chances. If it was a one time thing or maybe even two times, I think I could somehow forgive MH, but for your ENTIRE marriage he has been cheating. I just don't know that I could ever get past that. But nevertheless, good luck to you. If you are serious about working on it, I hope you can somehow trust him again. And I agree with PP, I hope you seek counseling.
    GL.
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  • GTown08GTown08 member

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    OP, I feel for you. I really do. I think you should continue to take TTC of the table for right now. Of course he's going to say he wants one more than ever right now, he knows he fucked up and is going to say/do anything he can to keep you from walking out. Just take care of yourself, and don't make any quick decisions. YOU come first.

    This.  100%.  Work it out with DH, try to and decide you can't get over it, whatever.  But truly think about what is best for your mental and physical health going forward from this point on. 

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  • CooneyGirlCooneyGirl member
    imageMrsN6912:
    I have to give it to you, you must be a much stronger...or maybe dumber, person than me.


    I really don't think we need to resort to belittling the OP because we don't all understand her choices.

    No one knows the ins and outs of somebody else's relationship.

    Some couples walk away after infidelity some make it work and move forward together.

    OP I am sorry for what you are going through. I wish you all the best no matter what your future holds.
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