I HATE the name H wants...

Tally879 · February 2013

So, H is a junior and really would like his son to be a third. I'm meh about it, but it's important to him so I'll let him have this. But, he wants his nickname to be Trey. I loathe it, with every fiber of my being, I think that nickname sucks. The only person I can think of with the name Trey is Trey Songz. It's been a constant argument and I don't know how to win. Ugh. Advice? Is the name really not that bad? H's name by the way has about a 10 different well accepted nicknames anyways.

sugarellie · February 2013

Personally the name Trey is not my style. Just don't agree to it, he can't name the baby something you hate..

PrettyInPearls23 · February 2013

I don't think you should name your child something if you're just "meh" about it. Sure, it's important to your H, but you both should love the name. I told my DH that I didn't want a Jr or 2nd because it's not fair to our son to have that kind of pressure on him to have a son and name HIM a 3rd, etc. Granted, I was kind of kidding but it worked for me!

Ditto PP, if you don't like the name, don't agree to it.

noelani42 · February 2013

It's not as bad as Santino- thats what my H would name the baby if he could!

niecie_jeff · February 2013

I also am not a fan of the name. Is there another nickname that you guys can pick that he may be happy with as well?

Sa039ra · February 2013

Trey is NMS. A woman I work with has a son that's a third and they call him Trip as a NN. It's cute and it fits him well.

afreitas051279 · February 2013

it sounds like it's not so much the name but the nickname... I would just be honest with him and tell him you can't stand the nickname and work together to come up with another nickname. My husband and I decided on a Jr if we have a boy but are very specific about what we want family to call him (I'm sure his friends in school, when he gets there, will end up with there own nicknames for him lol) we talked about it for a while and finally ended up with just one nickname we could both agree on. we kept it light hearted (I even tossed in some super random no way in hell nicknames) and had a good laugh at the same time having a important conversation.

afreitas051279 · February 2013

sabrinakurtz:
It's not as bad as Santino- thats what my H would name the baby if he could!

lol is he a WWE fan.

Tally879 · February 2013

I'm really okay with the third, and it's important to H, so the third isn't what's bothering me. It's just the nickname. Trey just rubs me the wrong way.

CaliMcKenzie · February 2013

Give him the formal third, but compromise by using one of the 'well accepted nicknames.'

TristaD81 · February 2013

Tally879:
I'm really okay with the third, and it's important to H, so the third isn't what's bothering me. It's just the nickname. Trey just rubs me the wrong way.

I really hope you guys can come up with a compromise. That would be incredibly unfair of him to use a NN that you hated.

noelani42 · February 2013

What's the name?

Mags04 · February 2013

My H is a Jr. and didn't want our son to be a third. But he wanted to carry on the initials of HCL. That meant we needed a boys name that started with "H". We decided on Hudson. None of the boys name starting with H were my top picks but I agreed to it anyway. I sometimes wish I would have fought more for a different name.

I think it's only fair to compromise that if he picks the name you should be able to have the nick name that you like best.

Nukke · February 2013

Ick, I'm with you on that one. I was instantly reminded of the SNL skit 'The Californians'. Tell your DH that you both have to come up with a name and nickname you can both agree on. Likely the nickname will be formed after the baby is born and you can see his personality.

Tally879 · February 2013

TristaD81:
Tally879:
I'm really okay with the third, and it's important to H, so the third isn't what's bothering me. It's just the nickname. Trey just rubs me the wrong way.

I really hope you guys can come up with a compromise. That would be incredibly unfair of him to use a NN that you hated.

I honestly don't think I would be able to stand it if his NN was Trey. I most definitely wouldn't be calling him that. Crossing my fingers it's a girl. I think we're gonna have to sit down and have a 'this name sucks' talk for the 100th time. It's getting frustrating because his friend's are now referring to our unborn child as Trey.

Tally879 · February 2013

Robert... seriously can there be any name with more nicknames?

mello13 · February 2013

I think since he picked the actual name (to have a 3rd) you should be able to choose, or at least agree upon, the nickname. You should not have to call your child a name you loathe, no matter what anyone else thinks of it.

SweetPeaK26 · February 2013

Most likely, as soon as it is your child, you'll live the name because you live the child. If this is a boy, we have to name him Robert because of fmily tradition. I am ALL FOR family traditions, I think they are important, but I don't care for the name. Dh goes by bobby or bob, and I don't like either if those. I said I wanted to use the nickname Rob or Robbie, and dh is adamantly against either.

Also, I don't like the name dh wants for a girl. Katelynn. I don't mind the name, but it has no meaning for us :other than the fact that we liked katelynn on NCIS: our girls both are named after people who mean something to us, so I want to continue that with all of our kids.

Habs2Hart · February 2013

Ya, Robert pretty much leaves things wide open for different nicknames...

When I hear Trey, I think of Sex and the City and Charlotte's douchey ex. Sorry.

Tally879 · February 2013

Thanks ladies, I know I have to just put my foot down on this one, this was more of a vent.

kje120 · February 2013

If Trey is just the nickname and you hate it then don't use it. Use one of the other accepted nicknames for the name.

If you don't love the actual name then maybe you should wait to make a decision on it. You two should both love the name.

kat81again2 · February 2013

Based on what you're saying about DH's friends ALREADY calling the kid Trey and DH being really into that nickname, I might say you can't go with the compromise of him being a 3rd but with a different nickname. 'cause honestly it sounds like you can't trust DH (or, now, his friends) to use the decided-upon nickname.

If you think there's maybe a chance DH will listen to you and not use Trey when DS is a third, then I'd say the following to him: "I think it's great to make DS carry on your family name. My only reservation is that I absolutely can't stand the nickname you've selected, 'Trey.' I would be happy with ... x, y, z. (list any you're fine with.) If you think there's any chance you or anyone else would fall into a habit of using Trey instead, even after this conversation, then I can't be comfortable with DS having the name Robert at all. That is how much I dislike 'Trey.' We need to both be fully on board with this name, both the formal one and the one that people will use."

You REALLY have to put your foot down. I think the compromise sounds fine, but only if he will actually follow through on it.

1026pumpkin · February 2013

I would tell DH that the compromise is if he gets to pick the name, you get to pick the initial nick name, and then let DS decide as he gets older. Another option- I'm assuming the first name starts with "T", give him a middle name that starts with "J" and call him TJ (if you like that any better).

Good luck!

Kristin&Kelly09 · February 2013

I am not a fan of JRs/thirds but that is my preference. Living in the South there are quite a few boys that go by Trey. Not my style but I understand it is common down here.

Maybe compromise and carry through DHs middle name for your son. My sister did this with her first. All the men on her DH's side of the family have the same middle name, spelled different ways.

magdalina.h · February 2013

Then you don't use it. You tell him we're doing this 3rd thing that you want we are not also going with the nickname you want even though you know I hate it. You get a say too.

Mrsdrev929 · February 2013

Talk to him. Maybe you guys can work something out? Maybe make it a middle name of some sort. I am in the same boat with my H . In his family your originally supposed to name your first boy Andrew. His family is full of Andrews, his ex refused on the name with him first son and I refused with our first. He is now trying to convince me (along with his family) that if this baby is a boy, his name will be Andrew, I think not.

jjkaye · February 2013

Habs2Hart:
Ya, Robert pretty much leaves things wide open for different nicknames...
When I hear Trey, I think of Sex and the City and Charlotte's douchey ex. Sorry.

jjkaye · February 2013

Habs2Hart:
Ya, Robert pretty much leaves things wide open for different nicknames...
When I hear Trey, I think of Sex and the City and Charlotte's douchey ex. Sorry.

Naamel · February 2013

Will Smith's older son is also called Trey cause he is will smith III. I personally don't think it's so bad. I come from a family if nicknames, and usually ya get what cha get... Mine is Poke like Pokey cause I tended to move at my own pace which was slow, and even though now I am like the energizer bunny, my nieces and nephews still call me Auntie Poke 25 years later! I called my daughter Pumpkin for a while when she very little but it didn't stick... She has a few other nicknames, some only certain people can call her. I think its personalized love. Just my opinion.

Mitchellovesnemo · February 2013

You should both love the names! We adopted the pover of veto! If one of us seriously HATES the name then sorry its out! I hope you guys can come to a compromise that you both LOVE!!!

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