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Andrewsgal
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Vent I won't pay you to SAH
Andrewsgal
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I have a very good friend who just got married and is now pregnant. She quit her job to focus on nursing school. Anyway she has sent me two texts, an email, and I have seen two FB posts that now she is selling Mary Kay. I hate being hit up for all these stupid direct sales things. Why should I pay you for crap I don't want or need so you can SAH? I am supposed to go to dinner with her tonight, thinking I will bail as I am irrationally irritated about this. Oh and I got hit up last week to host a body wrap party.
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Re: Vent I won't pay you to SAH
Same here. I feel like lately everyone is hitting me up to host parties to support their direct sales business. As a matter of fact, less than a week after DD was born someone tried to get me to host a Mary Kay party within the month.
1/12/13 DD was born
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Me too. I really dislike them and whenever a friend sells something I feel like I'm constantly being bombarded by party invites and advertising by them. I respect that they're trying to make money on the side, but ugh... I would never be able to constantly hit my friends up to buy something like that! Not only that, but I'm never interested in buying the overpriced crap they're selling! Maybe if they were selling something unique or handmade it would be a different situation, but it's always something that I know is overpriced and usually don't want anyway!
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How ever. Mary Kay makeup is really great! I love it!
What I've done and has always worked with my friends... "You know, I'm just not into that sort of thing" with the look of apologetic leave me the heck alone, if I need anything *I* will call you! It works even for the "queen's court" gal up the road...
Rather than secretly being irritated about it, just confront the elephant in the room so you can get back to life/friendship... They won't know you aren't their target audience unless you tell them.
My biggest pet peeve with people hitting me up for direct sales parties is that when they first start selling, I feel like a lot of people order stuff, host a party, etc. because they want to be supportive (or don't' have the balls to say no). So the person makes some really decent money in their first months of selling, which causes them to continue to pester you because they want that to keep going and that's when it becomes annoying to me.
So I've learned to say no right off the bat. Then, they never pester me again.
I hate getting the party invites from my friends. Mary Kay, Lia Sophia, Tastefully Simple, Thirty-one, Avon. I always try to be up-front with them and tell them I really can't afford that kind of thing, and get the "Oh, you don't have to buy anything."
Except you know it'll be really awkward if you go and you're the only one not buying anything. I know my friends who host really want to increase the attendance, but I just don't feel like being hit up to spend money I don't have.
I would tell her straight out that you don't want to her sales pitch, you want to be her friend. It's fine if she likes the products, but that can't be all she can talk about.
Funny and kind of ironic, I'm having an MK party on Friday. LOL I don't even like their products because of all the shiz that's in them. I'm doing it as an excuse to get together with my girlfriends and drink margaritas
SAHM to 4 kiddos... K (5/05), N (4/09), C (11/10) and Baby A 1/13/14
My favorite thing about all this mess is that NONE of these ladies invite me to do things UNLESS there is a sales pitch involved.
Could we all get together for coffee every once in awhile? I feel like I should at least be taken out for dinner and drinks before I get screwed buying overpriced products that aren't anything that I would buy anyway.
Totally agree! When the ask, and for a while they were asking a lot, I always wanted to say, "Sure, then you can help me grade some papers, sound good?" I usually hate the stuff being sold too! So not a fan of Lia Sophia! However, I have to say, I was invited to a Ruby Jewelry party and I loved the stuff...and next month I'm going to a Matilda Jane trunk show soon which I'm super excited about!
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If you aren't interested in it just be honest. I am in direct sales as well but if I have a friend who says I am not interested I respect her wishes.
I am always confused by why you think you are "paying" someone to SAH. You are buying a product that someone is selling. You support many people every day when you shop, buy groceries or go on Etsy. I SAH but the people who shop my husbands company probably don't get upset because they are paying so I can SAH.
Irrational is exactly how I would describe skipping dinner with friends because she might mention she is selling Mary Kay.
I have a friend who always says this when she hosts one of these parties. Why don't you just have your friends over and drink margaritas? Does the company provide a stipend or something to have the party?
But, I don't have to clean the house for company, buy wine, make 2-3 appetizers, and ask my husband to make himself scarce when i shop on etsy!!