My baby died at 11 weeks. I should be 14 weeks. I scheduled a D&C for Friday morning, but from the way I am feeling now, I think I will pass the baby naturally sometime this evening. The spotting has stopped but the cramping has picked up quite a bit. If it is like last time, I will have pretty painful contractions until the baby and placenta passes.
This baby was unplanned, but we were so very excited. And now we are heartbroken. We will be getting genetic testing since this is my 3rd miscarriage, but I will not be getting pregnant again. I have 3 angel babies and 3 earth babies and I think that is enough for me. It's a tough decision, but I think it is one I have to make. My last 2 term pregnancies were high risk for various reasons. We can go back to planning the things we wanted to do before I found out I was pregnant, although I would much rather hold my baby in my arms in August than do anything else. That is the hardest part. Forgetting that were supposed to have a sweet baby to love. Another person around. We are so very sad, but I am grateful for the 3 girls I do have.
Fortunately my situation is rare, and I hope you all have happy, uneventful pregnancies.
Re: Spotting *Update*
Tara
BFP #1: 12/22/10. EDD: 9/4/11. BDay: 8/30/11
BFP #2: 10/16/12. EDD: 6/27/13. Said Goodbye: 10/22/12
BFP #3: 11/20/12. EDD: 8/1/13. STICK BABY STICK!
Betas: 11/30/12 - 2819. 12/2/12 - 7339! Keep growing, baby!
DD2 (b. 9/04/2013)
BFP 2/25/12, m/c @ 6w 3d || BFP 8/1/12, m.m/c @ 9w5d
DD #2 2 years old (08/17/11)
DD #3 born 08/29/13
My Blog: Chasing My Rainbow
BFP#1 DS 8/28/1996
BFP #2 5/30/2011 BO 7/13/2011 @ 9w6d
BFP #3 12/20/2011 MMC 1/26/12 @ 9w1d
BFP #4 DS2 8/21/2013
BFP #5 DD1 2/19/2015
BFP #6 EDD 6/24/2016 It's a girl!!
I'm so sorry for your loss.
If you do change your mind and decide to try again, I strongly recommend getting a full RPL panel done. I'm not sure about the circumstances of your other miscarriages, but genetic testing is only the tip of the ice berg, especially when factoring in growth to 11w. Here's a good link to tests that should be run,
BFP#1 10/1/2011. Our perfect little girl, Her heart stopped @ 12w1d. D&E 11/23/11
BFP#2 3/13/12 Weird CP/Possible EP @ 6w0d
BFP#3 5/28/12 CP @ 5w0d
BFP/WTF#4 10/26/12 CP
BFP#5 12/10/12 EDD 8/23/2013
< My Ovulation Chart
BFP#1: 01/10, M/C 6w
BFP#2: 06/10, M/C 5w
BFP#3: 09/10, DS born June 1, 2011
BFP#4: 07/12, M/C 5w3d
BFP#5: 12/12, EDD 08/18/13
My Blog: Decorate This
Hysteroscopy 3/2011 2 Polyps removed 4/2011
DH on Clomid / Arimidex to address hormonal issues - Sperm found July 2011!
IVF #1 September 2011 - ER 9/8/2011- 8R, 5M - icsi - 1 made it to transfer - BFFN :-(
IVF #2 Lucky November 2011 - ER 11/25/2011 - 15 eggs!, 13 mature, 10 fertilized with isci - 7 made it to transfer! Transferred 1 - 8 cell and 2 - 7 cell. BFP!!!!
1st U/S - Twins! 2nd U/S - 3 heartbeats!!! - HOLY COW!!!
Prayers for our take home babies!
2 babies born on 3/27/12 and lost. Last baby born on 3/29/12 and lost at 20 weeks.
My angels grew wings shortly after birth.
Ahava Raisel, Matisyahu Nissim & Zev Chaim - Mommy and Daddy will always love you.
IVF #3 July 2012 - ER 7/17/2012 - 10 R. 5 F. 4 made it to ET
Transferred 2 on 7/20/2012 no snow babies :-(
Beta on 7/31/2012 = BFMFN
A miracle gift expected to come to us through adoption around 9/2012
Baby girl adopted - Birth Mother changed her mind and took the baby back
IVF #4 October 2012 - New RE. Doing PGD Testing. 8 R, 7F, 2 made it to 5 day blast for PDG testing. Both Normal (Thank you G-d!!!) 1 boy and 1 girl
transferred one beautiful 5day blast (girl)
Please G-d the almighty one - let this be our take home baby!
Beta #1 158, Beta #2 318, 1 Absolutely magnificent HB at 175! Thank you G-d!!!
Baby Girl born August 5th. Thank you G-d for our precious miracle.
AMA. PAIF & SAIF always welcome - I need all the prayers I can get!
BFP #2 07/12/2012 (EDD 03/23/13); m/c 07/28/12
BFP #3 12/05/2012 (EDD 08/19/2013); baby girl born 08/09!
DD2 8.22.13
MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to be over, it's about learning how to dance in the rain." -Unknown
Married 3-1-08 | Nathan 11-24-08 | Kaelyn 11-30-10 | Alicia 8-17-13
I am so so sorry for your loss.
Planned or not, that baby is your child and obviously loved.
My thoughts are with your and your husband, and I hope you are able to take some comfort from all the love you have around you with your family.
2 years, 2 surgeries, 2 clomid fails, 2 IUIs, 1 loss, IVF #1 - 10/25/10 = BFP!, DS is now 3.5yrs!
TTC #2 - 6/12 surgery #3, FET #1 & 1.2 = BFN, 12/2012 FET #2 = BFP! DD is 1.5 yrs!
Surprise! 12/16/14 BFP, loss #2 12/31/14
I can't wait for the "im getting a divorce" post in 5 years or so because your husbands were fed up with your disgusting chair asses from playing on the knot all day and getting fired 4-5 times for not doing any work. you guys are all winners!! ~ Laur929