One Day at a Time
My DH and I were TTC for 3+ years when I received a phone call that a distant relative was considering adoption and would like us to adopt her son. After I stopped shaking, DH and I decided this would be a wonderful way to start our family. We couldn't be more excited but the journey between now and May 1st (the due date) seems overwhelming. Home study, lawyers, baby preparation, etc. Then when to tell friends and family, when to finalize plans with work, what gets put in to motion before and what to wait until after in case something goes wrong. More importantly I want to make sure we are doing everything right for the BM but how?
My closest friend gave me great advice and told me to take everything one day at a time but I still feel like I could use a bit more advice. Any advice would be much appreciated.
Re: One Day at a Time
Two recommendations:
1- Make sure the Emom is receiving counseling so she feels sure on her decision. This is important. While she can always change her mind, she needs to think through the harder aspects of adoption.
2- It sounds like adoption is new to you.... so read
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