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Just curious... Lawyers?

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I have seen a couple of posts where it is asked, "Do you still have a lawyer?"

I keep a lawyer retained. I never know what ex H will pull and I want to make sure that me and the children are covered.

Do you? Why or why not?

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  • NineoceansNineoceans member
    I must live in a higher COL area bc our retainer was 3k per case. I don't have unlimited money to fight over everything we would want to in court regardless of how ridiculous BM is
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  • IlumineIlumine member

    We didn't, only becuase DH is military and for the longest time, none of us (BM or DH) lived in the state where they settled the divorce or custody.  Their original lawyers no .onger lpractice here. 

    But that does not mean we haven't contacted someone from time to time (changing residential custody legally before we went overseas and when BM was trying to keep SS from rejoining us this summer).  

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  • IlumineIlumine member
    Not to mention, there are a lot things one can do on your own. 
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  • Sunday924Sunday924 member

    imageNineoceans:
    I must live in a higher COL area bc our retainer was 3k per case. I don't have unlimited money to fight over everything we would want to in court regardless of how ridiculous BM is

    We don't and this is why. 

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  • new+tothisnew+tothis member
    I do. My initial retainer was $2,500. When BD sued me for custody I needed to make a higher retainer of $5,000. When it gets down to $1,000 I replenish it. I will keep him on retainer indefinitely. When court is over with it will go back down to $2,500. It's worth every penny.
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  • sabrina69barnessabrina69barnes member
    We don't always keep our lawyer on retainer but we have one we have a good relationship with. She handled c/s for DS1, DS1's adoption, our wills, and now is doing DH's modification. Next she will be helping me get my original birth certificate (I'm adopted).  We only pay a retainer when we are starting a case but in between cases she has answered  questions for us without charging anything.
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  • twister22twister22 member
    We are just billed for time. I.e. going back and forth via email with an issue might take 15 minutes of the lawyer's time, and we are billed for that. If and when we go back to court we will put in a retainer.
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  • lady dixneuflady dixneuf member

    imagepiffle42:
    After my lawyer was initially retained he only bills for things I actually need him for. He is on the court record as my attorney until he notifies the court that he is no longer my attorney.

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    And our retainer is $10K. Very high COL! 



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  • NineoceansNineoceans member
    imagenewtothis:
    I do. My initial retainer was 2,500. When BD sued me for custody I needed to make a higher retainer of 5,000. When it gets down to 1,000 I replenish it. I will keep him on retainer indefinitely. When court is over with it will go back down to 2,500. It's worth every penny.


    See this is what I think of as a retainer, when your retainer gets low you replenish. I just could not do that
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  • coopsbabycoopsbaby member
    I've never had a lawyer, our divorce was all self-filed, etc. Of course, exH didn't want any visitation at all, any part of the house or furnishings and we do a straight percentage child support through the state so there's no reason.
       
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  • Hudson_HawkHudson_Hawk

    imagepiffle42:
    After my lawyer was initially retained he only bills for things I actually need him for. He is on the court record as my attorney until he notifies the court that he is no longer my attorney.

     

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