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August 2013 Moms
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UO Thursday
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Alright ladies, lets hear them... this board needs a little spice so make them good! 
My baby is ONE!!
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Re: UO Thursday
Alright, alright- I'll start things off:
I just don't get people who care so much about etiquette and making sure that all things baby/baby shower/wedding/etc. are up to this imaginary etiquette standard. Especially the people who criticize others for not following their standard of etiquette... side eye, I get, but why should you care so much about someone else?s situation UNLESS they ask for your opinion.
I think it's more of common sense vs. etiquette. Someone wants to throw you a baby shower for your 2nd child- let them, they're being kind. Who cares what the etiquette police say? And if you get an invite to such an atrocious event, then decline the RSVP. No one is FORCING you to go if it's SO against your high etiquette morals.
Common sense would be: don't throw yourself a shower because that is just begging for gifts. Etiquette vs. common sense. Just my opinion I guess.
Eh, I'm so sick of the baby shower questions. Oh, and the "I'm not gaining weight" posts.
What irritates me about the baby shower posts are those that feel they're entitled to and expect gifts from everyone. It's one thing to want to celebrate your baby, but to want a shower for the purpose of receiving gifts from others is ridiculous. If you can't financially afford to purchase these things on your own, you've got bigger problems.
Ditto!! I attribute this to lack of common sense. No one HAS to buy you anything... be grateful for what you DO get and shut up.
Nora Grace Due 12/26/2016
Two Angel Babies
07/03/2012
08/08/2015
"If you're still my small babe
or you're all the way grown,
my promise to you
is you're never alone.
You are my angel, my darling,
my star...and my love will find you,
wherever you are."
I totally agree with this! There is no "one size fits all" childbirth plan. What works for you, may not work for someone else. It's great to go into it knowing you want/don't want a medicated birth, but things change and crap can go sideways in a hurry. You may have a much lower pain tolerance than you imagined. Or you labor for 20 hours without much progress and just need to sleep so you can actually push when the time comes. You may have a ridiculously quick labor and are too far along once you get to the hospital to get the epidural you wanted. Be open minded about the fact that things can and probably will change on you and that the most important thing is both mom and baby are healthy.
Let me start by saying some of my best friends, family members and loved ones are on Facebook.
That said, I hate Facebook. I think it's the most ridiculous thing ever. I have never and will never join it. What I hate even more is when other people try to convince me to join just so we can "keep in touch" easier. I know, I know sending a quick email, text, or simply picking up the phone really is a time commitment. If you want friends and you also want to maintain meaningful relationships with other human beings try putting a little effort into it.
And companies and brands that I actually support and purchase products and services from...really? I have to go to Facebook and "like you" in order to get a "free cup of coffee on Tuesday" or a 20% discount and free shipping on my next order? No thanks.
And if I don't talk to you or call you anymore, it's probably because you started to annoy me and I didn't want to be your friend any more. So why on earth would I wave my little flag saying "Here I am, this is what I do, here is where I live, here is what I look like, send me messages and tell me tales of the minutia of your lives." If you want to bore others with the details of your life, start a blog (btw, I do love to read interesting blogs but I'm invoking hyperbole for dramatic purposes here).
Please don't try to convince me of Facebook's merits. Others have tried and failed.
I hate Facebook.
I posted something similar to this a couple weeks ago on the UO thread after I got home from a late shift on Thursday night/ Friday morning and I don't think anyone saw it so I'm repeating it.
My UO is I cannot stand clothes for little girls. Everything looks like pink and princesses just threw up everywhere. I would love it if this baby were a girl but I HATE pink and refuse for that to be the primary color in her wardrobe. I'm dreading my shower if this is a girl b/c I can only fake the gracious smile for for every pink, frilly dress for so long. I know, on the inside, I'm going to be screaming. I'm not ungrateful, I just don't know why people think every little girl has to be a princess or a ballerina...ugh.
Baby C - 08.23.13
Another (not so unpopular) UO is weird spellings of common names. My stepsister is naming her son Bentley Michael. Normal right? No, shes spelling it "Bentli Mikel." Ugh
eeewwwwwww! i agree with you on this one! i wish this wasn't an UO.
Baby C - 08.23.13
Yes! They come up like thigh high. Hate em! Just put pants on them. It just looks silly to me.
I'm with you. Although.... I do have an account. I deactivated it for about a year until last August. I kept asking family members for pictures of my cousin's wedding. "They're on Facebook." I reactivated and am dissapointed in myself. Now, I find myself reading posts about people from my past that really would never cross my mind otherwise. It's definitely a timesuck.
Agree 100 percent on both!
My SIL and brother do this all of the time with pictures of my niece and nephews. I live 800 miles away and I'll be like, "Can I have pictures of the kids in their Halloween costumes?" and my brother will say, "Just get a Facebook account. They're all on there." Thanks bro!
I'm going to have to disagree with you here. I personally don't care if people want to have a second shower, but etiquette isn't "imaginary", and it does serve a very important purpose- to help people not offend each other. While I do think some of the rules are very bendable (like how the addresses on invitation envelopes are supposed to be hand written), other rules should just be followed no matter what (like writing a thank you note for a gift). Etiquette helps people know what to do in social situations, but also some people are just looking to take offense at anything (like my MIL), so it's nice to have a set of rules to fall back on and know that your actions are up to protocol even if someone got offended anyhow.
That said, the very first rule of etiquette is to look the other way and not point out if someone unknowingly does something inappropriate. Polite people don't point out a faux pas, so I'm with you on people criticizing when their opinion wasn't asked. Also you are right that it should be common sense, but common sense isn't all that common.
WHAT?!?! My eyes hurt just trying to read that strange spelling.
Carters clothes are mostly not pink, which is what DD wore for the first year of her life. Everyone gave her carters stuff. She has a few pink outfits, but not many. My SIL is the only person who gives DD frilly clothes. Sadly she never finds an opportunity to wear them.
I used baby legs with DD until she was about 8 months old, but they do look goofy. It's easier to change a diaper and not have to take pants off and on, especially with a cloth diaper since they made her booty so bulky. They are the equivalent of baby sweatpants IMO though. They are fine to wear around the house, but if you are going out where other people can see you, you have to put on real pants. Her diapers don't effect how her pants fit as much anymore, so we don't use them now. If this LO is a boy, I'm probably going to pass on the baby legs. They look too much like tights.
I do see your point about making diaper changes easier, and less bulky with cloth!
I know right?! Just awful!
This UO is not mine and NBR but I had to share the craziest thing I just OH in my office.
The morale squad provided free cupcakes this afternoon and I OH two coworkers both say they are "not a fan" of cupcakes.
Who in their right mind is not a fan of cupcakes?! FREE cupcakes, no less! (gluten allergies aside of course)
HATE this too. I don't like all of the lovey dovey showy things on FB. I don't need to show off every nice thing my SO does for me.
Mine is along the same lines. I think Valentine's day is stupid and we don't recognize it at all for each other. My UO is, I hate when people get flowers sent to work. I just think it is all for show. I would rather have you give them to me in person when we got home if you felt the need to give them to me at all. I work in a large corp office and the lobby is FILLED with 100's of flower arrangements and it is just dumb to me. I have always felt that way.
I know someone posted that they hate Facebook and this is one of the things I hate most about it. People are so fake and act like they have these wonderful relationships. blah, blah, blah. It's like no, I was just at your house where you guys treated each other like crap. I get wanting to be excited but text a pic to your BFF. Don't blab it to the whole world that the same husband you vented about yesterday is now the love of your life again. Fake people are the reason I don't have as many friends as I used to.
I hate when men or women (esp. men) say things like "WE're pregnant", "WE plan on breastfeeding", "When WE delivered the baby".
I get that your husband/significant other is a part of this experience, but they haven't done any of these things!! I would love it if WE could share the load of pregnancy, breastfeeding and delivery - but WE can't. It's all on me. So please, give credit where credit's due.
Just out of curiosity, are you a SAHM with several kids? I agree that your friend is wrong if she does this every night but spending all day with kids and no adult interaction is very draining too. There are times when I feel like I use need to walk away and give DH the reins for an hour or two. I feel like that is okay...
Hubs said he feels weird saying "we're pregnant" but I like the plural term as the baby is a product of both of us. However, if I'm the one delivering it and breastfeeding it - heck yeah its ME and not US!
I know not everyone is like this though...
This! Sometimes I am waiting by the back door to hand DD to DH as soon as he walks in. I also usually have work to do in the evening that I cannot concentrate on during the day. DH is a parent too, that means he has to share the parenting. Being a SAHM has it's own challenges, and after 12 hours of caring for DD, I do need a break for a little bit. DH is only home for an hour before it's DD's bedtime, so I do sometimes force her on him so she gets to have time with him, although usually we sit right down for dinner and then she has a bath and goes right to bed- bath time is DH's responsibility.
Thank you! I often work late into the night b/c I cannot work with my kid "helping". DH has kids too!
i don't hate it but it creeps me out a little. it's ok to say "we're expecting a baby" but "we're pregnant" is a little strange to hear a grown man say.
you should just come back with "well, how does you uterus feel and how engorged are your breasts?"
Baby C - 08.23.13
PS.. you say you hate facebook, and no one could give you a good reason to join, but you just gave yourself one. You don't have to read everyone's mindless, mundane posts if you don't want to. But you can subscribe to the people you care about - like your brother - and be able to see photos of your nieces and nephews. No offense, but if I was your brother, I'd say the same thing to you.
Honestly, I dig facebook. I don't post a whole heck of a lot, but I can easily share pics of my son with everyone who matters to us without having to individually send to them every time. Just makes it easier for us.
I always had the mindset of give me the meds!!!! I swear that's why with my second I was way to far along to get an epidural. I was lucky to have the baby in the hospital.
My UO? People on this forum (well, TB as a whole) can really and truly be cruel. I'm not talking about snark at a stupid posts, I'm talking unquestionable cruelty. Sometimes, all sides need to just step back and drop it. Stupid things get said when people get all cray-cray.
Case and point, this thread from 1st Trimester (I've read the whole thing and am thoroughly disgusted with most everyone involved).
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/9/71988034/ShowThread.aspx
By no means am I expecting puppies and rainbows. Hell, I welcome drama in most cases, but there is a limit. That thread FAR exceeded that limit from the get-go.
I saw this earlier today. Some of the things said were quite awful.
I don't think its a UO though. I am sure everyone who has read it agrees!
that was insane. so over the line.
Baby C - 08.23.13
It's so much easier to change your kid's diaper with leg warmers than tights. DD often wears these in the fall or spring.
I would not put a boy in them.