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The right time for a baby?

chloedawnchloedawn
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My husband and I have been married for a year and a half now and have serious baby on the brain! we are going to be making a big move to a new state the beginning of august and are just not sure if it would be the right time to start trying. I've been told that sometimes it can take up to two years or more to have your first child so I would rather start trying now than wait a few years before we actually have one. Any input would be great,

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  • bugandbibsbugandbibs member
    As long as your insurance won't be an issue, only you and your husband can decide when it's the right time. I have been pregnant 4 times and it never took more than 2 months of ttc for any of them.
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  • magdalina.hmagdalina.h member
    Honestly, if you have to ask a bunch of strangers, it might not be the right now. I think it's wise to wait a few more months so in case you get pg right away you won't be in the late 2nd tri/ early 3rd tri.
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  • huskymomma94huskymomma94 member
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    My husband and I have been married for a year and a half now and have serious baby on the brain! we are going to be making a big move to a new state the beginning of august and are just not sure if it would be the right time to start trying. I've been told that sometimes it can take up to two years or more to have your first child so I would rather start trying now than wait a few years before we actually have one. Any input would be great,

    Thanks!

    I dont know what time is right for you and your husband, but I dont think its ever a good idea to start when you're not ready "just in case it takes 2 years." When you are ready to possibly be pregnant next month, start trying. I would love to get pregnant with #2 this summer, and it took me several months to get pregnant with DS1...but I'm certainly not ready to start trying, because I'm not ready to be pregnant at this point in time.



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  • kdjuddkdjudd member
    There is no perfect time to have a baby. There will always be something that you wish you could fix or some reason to wait longer. You and your DH just have to sit down and ask yourselves if you could handle a baby within the next nine months. When you can say "yes" to that question and you feel ready, then go for it! 
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  • CourtimilkCourtimilk member

    I'd hold off until after the move, just as I've hated moving while pregnant with a passion (if it wasn't exhaustion, it was morning sickness, then it was the emotions).

    And the ''it could take 2 years'' is a bad reason to try as PP said. You use that time to TTC in secret so your friends and family aren't constantly over-looking every little thing you do as the earliest pregnancy symptom, or better yet, so they don't try and tell you what you're doing wrong and why you're not pregnant.

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  • ChristyMLChristyML

    I agree with pps; no one can tell you when the right time is. That being said though, you and your husband should talk about it together and both be on board 100% before TTC.

    We are not actively trying to conceive just yet, but we aren't preventing. I'm not worried though because we both talked about "what if I got pregnant the first month of not preventing?" and came to the conclusion that if I got pregnant a lot sooner than we are thinking, we would be extremely happy (shocked too, since it took us about 5 months of actively trying last time), and if it took a bit longer, well, that would be fine too (not exactly "fine", as I'd rather be pregnant sooner than later). 

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  • aa1293aa1293 member
    The main thing is to make sure both of you are on board 100%.  My DH and I just recently decided to start trying.  Although not everything is exactly how we wish it would be we know that we can definitely make it work.  There is no such thing as perfect timing.  There is always going to be something in future you are striving to achieve.  Only you two know when it is the right time!
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  • reason00reason00 member

    I, too, get pregnant easily. My husband need only whisper "conceive" into my vagina.

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  • quidditchcapn1120quidditchcapn1120 member
    It can take time to get pregnant but I'm sure you also know that it can take no time at all. I got pregnant with my first the very first cycle last time. I have no idea what this time of TTC will bring and I'm not ready to be pregnant until April, so wait we will.

    I think if you are asking the question to us, it may not be the right time for you. Although no one is ever fully prepared for a first baby, you will know when it is time and it's something only you and your DH can decide.
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