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Adding a baby book to the registry?
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Re: Adding a baby book to the registry?
For what its worth, first and only shower for this or my first babies. I'm more concerned with pleasing my family, who aren't big on following social trends, then making sure I follow region or cultural rules anyway. I might feel different if I had a lot of mommy friends or people coming who cared about this sort of thing.
Some people here have way too much time on their hands to a) care this much about someone else's life who they do not even know and b) post so much about it, especially in such a nasty way (which usually indicates a pretty unhappy person in general).
OP - registering for the book is fine, accepting a shower that is being offered is fine, and making a registry when your host asked you to is fine, even if they did not, it is fine. I hate when there is no registry and I have to guess.
Next time post on your BMB, that is usually nicer and more helpful.
We are so thankful that our second daughter, Lillian Elizabeth "Lily", was born healthy and happy on February 11, 2013. We love her to pieces.
We lost our first daughter, Hannah Grace on May 4, 2011. She was buried on May 14 during a beautiful service at my home church. We are grateful that if she could not be here with us, that she is healed and whole with the Lord. We look forward to the day when we will get to meet her. We love her so much.
We are so thankful that our second daughter, Lillian Elizabeth "Lily", was born healthy and happy on February 11, 2013. We love her to pieces.
We lost our first daughter, Hannah Grace on May 4, 2011. She was buried on May 14 during a beautiful service at my home church. We are grateful that if she could not be here with us, that she is healed and whole with the Lord. We look forward to the day when we will get to meet her. We love her so much.
Who is it that makes these ridiculous rules about what is and isn't appropriate for showers? His family only and no registry? Lol you people take things over the top. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a baby shower for a 4th baby they are celebrating a baby that they and their families are obviously excited about. It's not like she just had a baby a year ago and is asking for more gifts it's been 9 years and it's an exciting time.
OP yes I would register for one if there's one you like. I didn't even think of doing that, though I don't think there was one at BRU that I even liked.
NO WIRE HANGERRRRRRRS! *cackles*
Add a baby book! And if I could, I would throw you a virtual baby shower, OP! Hell, just for giggles, my baby gift to you is the act of charitable kindness, something these high school missing prom queens turned shower nazis who have multiple baby showers for their first kid know nothing about! Oh, did I say that? Public forums FTW!
You do realize that saying "nazi" is highly offensive, right? So much for kindness.
What? It is? OMG! Yes, yes it is offensive! You are right! I think that was the point. Maybe I should have used gustapo! I recall being kind to the OP, nothing about anyone else. I am totally not in the PC game because it is a load of crap people hide behind to make themselves feel better about how bad stuff happens to other people but they are not active in those people's lives they are so PC about.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
So----you're ok with insulting a whole religion/country of people and an entire generation of people that fought against them because it's a load of crap? While I'm generally pretty anti-pc (for example I think it's stupid to say "Mail carrier" vs "Mailman") things involving mass genocide still fall under the 'meh, probably a sore topic' umbrella for me.
That being said, how do you know that she's not Jewish? How do you know I'm not? It's awful assumptive to say that we are not active in those people's lives.
Well, let's just sit down for the Slavery, abortion, gay and wife-beater jokes because this is obviously the "Let's see how offensive we can possibly be" show.
Please, continue telling us how bitchy and rude we are.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
I'm Jewish and have family that died in the holocaust, but please, tell me how I'm white knighting for others in the name of being politically correct. There is a huge difference between bing PC and just being downright offensive. I said it in the thread on your board and I will say it again here, you are a piece of garbage.
Personally I wouldn't register for a baby book but then again I wouldn't register publicly for a fourth child.
Its just that are infant mortality rate isn't all that great because of unnecessary interventions and formula really should.only be a last resort since it doesn't provide half the things bm does. But where an uneceaaary cesarean could kill a child buying a gift for a forth kid wouldn't. I understand it being tacky but where the consequences are so minor compared to other issues I font understand one being taboo and the other not. But women being so apt for unnecessary interventions and just formula feeding effects the culture on birthing and infant caring which effects all of us. I just think its funny you tell a woman an elective cesarean isn't so good of an idea and you're judgy but saying throwing a shower for a second child warrants saying whatever you feel like.
I'm not new. I just hate The Bump.
This spilled over onto my BMB, which royally pisses me off since the drama should stay away from those wonderful ladies, but I had a couple things to say:
1) If the point of a shower is to shower the mother with gifts, why are all the gifts for the baby? Honestly, if you're going to shower me with gifts, I'd much prefer gift cards for a spa day, Best Buy or Amazon, the movies, or a good meal out as opposed to diapers, toys, baby clothes, etc. I'm going to get eaten alive for this, but it's called a "Baby Shower", not a "Mother Shower." I don't care what the origins are, it's evolved into a celebration of the baby, not just the mother.
2) DS is 11yrs old. My shower for him was all of 5 people. In a bar for karaoke. I wasn't married, I was still in college so I was broke, and the father had run off when I was 6 months along. I mainly got diapers, and I still found a way to provide everything else he needed. Then I got married in 2010. When we moved into our house 2 years ago, we finally finished getting rid of all the baby stuff that we had. DH and I figured if we hadn't gotten pregnant yet, it probably wasn't going to happen. Then, BOOM, I'm pregnant. It's DH's first child. We can afford the things we need this time, but people offered to throw showers. You're telling me I shouldn't have another shower from people that want to throw one? Too bad. Work threw one for me, DH's family threw one, and my mother and her friends threw one. So I had three showers for a second child. And I don't really care if it's not proper etiquette. To me, improper etiquette would've been to tell people who are excited and want to celebrate that they can't have a party or give gifts if they want to that they're not allowed to because it's "not proper etiquette."
It's funny how folks can get so offended, foaming at the mouth over a shower they're not even invited to, for someone they don't even know. She isn't asking you to buy her anything, much less attend. Geez! The way some of these women are reacting, you'd think the world will stop spinning on it's axis because OP decided to have a shower for, God forbid, her fourth child! She's just commited a cardinal sin and we're all going to burn in hell for it!
Honestly, some people need to either grow up or go hug a transformer.
It spilled over because one of "those wonderful ladies" brought it there. FACT.
The rest of your post??
Blah, blah, blah. We've been over it a thousand times. You're never going to get it, so your post isn't very noteworthy. Thanks for trying though.
See above.
FAIL on your use of "troll."
hahaha...you should've gotten a gif where they at least spelled it right. Awesome.
Only if I meant it in the internet sense of "troll". However, in the sense of, "In Old Norse sources, beings described as trolls dwell in isolated rocks, mountains, or caves, live together in small family units, and are rarely helpful to human beings." I don't think I failed at all.
I think the ladies on the (late-term or infant) LOSS board would disagree with that statement.
Oh, and I've never lived in a rock, on a mountain, or in a cave.
So yeah...FAIL.
I think I agree w/ Synch, but I'd add b!tch to that definition.
SURPRISE! BFP: 12/2014 - EDD: 8/13/15
We made plans and God laughed
DS: BFP: 9/30/12 - EDD: 6/9/13
Radley Quinn was fashionably late via induction on 6/17/13
"Rarely" still implies that some usefulness may have come from them. As for the rest of your comment, you apparently missed the main point, which I had so nicely bolded for you.
Oh well, I'm done now.
OK, so how would a post like this go?
"I'm going to stop smoking once the baby gets here, but I just haven't been able to kick the habit. Anyway, this is my fourth baby...what's the etiquette on registering?"
I hope no one says anything about her smoking, because what she ASKED was if it's ok to register for a fourth child.
You may say it's not the same, but it is. She didn't ask but she posted information that got a reaction from people.
Is it possible that there are two competing philosophies on baby showers: conservative/traditional and progressive? Maybe posts discussing multiple or subsequent showers should be tagged as such so the other party can ignore it w/o getting riled?
Personally, I'm fairly progressive, so I think a 1st/2nd/3rd/10th shower is a personal choice made with intimate friends and family concerning a milestone said ppl are anticipating and wish to celebrate in a way that suits them. I think a baby book would make a great gift. Enjoy your party.
I was hoping SOMEONE would notice. Gestapo. Geheime Staatspolizei. Secret State Police.
And really, not warranted.
If anyone had spent ANY time reading posts on this board 90% of this thread and name calling could have been avoided, mostly due to the BF advocate who makes all other advocates look insane.
OP, since you have made the decision to register I don't see why you can't put the book on their. However, a lot of the book dates are for pre-baby shower and I found it helpful to have it along for all the milestones in my pregnancy so I could document things as they happened.
This!! Haha...