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Earlier bedtime = more MOTN wakings? I feel like everything I do is wrong :(

Jimsgirl5821Jimsgirl5821
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DS is a crappy napper and I don't know if its related but  by bedtime he is a mess and just screams before bed.  Moved his bedtime earlier by about 30 min, thinking I was doing a good thing. Well he got up to eat at 12, 2:30' 4:40 (not sure if 4:40 was to eat since he didnt finish) at the 4;40 wake up he refused to go back down and it took me a few tries of rocking him before he finaly stayed down.  Didn't get back to bed til 5:30. Now he woke att 6:15 screaming. Took me forever to calm him be cause woke up every time I put him back n bed. Now he just fell asleep on me, it's 7 am and now DD  is up for be day so I am gonna have to put him down nd he's gonna scream.

What did I do wrong, should I go back to later bedtime? At least then he only woke to eat twice....

 

he is 13 weeks old. I was feeding him around 730 and putting him down 7:45-ish. Now I feed him at 7 and put him down 7:15-ish. 

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Re: Earlier bedtime = more MOTN wakings? I feel like everything I do is wrong :(

  • pumpkinhead4pumpkinhead4 member
    Sounds like he is starting to be more aware of his surroundings and need help falling asleep/getting back to sleep. It's fairly common and if you read down a few posts I gave someone advice on some sleep training. 13 weeks is still fairly young for it but make sure he isn't sick or having reflux, etc. Then maybe give your Ped a call and see what they suggest. Is he around 3 months? It might be a growth spurt where he wants to eat all the time! GL! Also, make sure you have set bedtime/nap routines. Try getting him to nap anyway you can, daytime sleep is for sure very important for night time sleep.
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  • Jimsgirl5821Jimsgirl5821

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    Sounds like he is starting to be more aware of his surroundings and need help falling asleep/getting back to sleep. It's fairly common and if you read down a few posts I gave someone advice on some sleep training. 13 weeks is still fairly young for it but make sure he isn't sick or having reflux, etc. Then maybe give your Ped a call and see what they suggest. Is he around 3 months? It might be a growth spurt where he wants to eat all the time! GL! Also, make sure you have set bedtime/nap routines. Try getting him to nap anyway you can, daytime sleep is for sure very important for night time sleep.

    besides rocking him to sleep I have no idea how else to help him :/ he falls asleep and wakes as soon as I put him in his RNP. I use a white noise machine, blackout shades. He hates swaddles. He isn't sick. What are other ways to help him? I try just rubbing him or rocking the RNP while he's in it without picking him up but that does nothing. How do you do CIO when you have another child. I have a 3 y/o who's room is next to his, I am afraid he will wake her then she will be awful the next day :/ 

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    imagepumpkinhead4:
    Sounds like he is starting to be more aware of his surroundings and need help falling asleep/getting back to sleep. It's fairly common and if you read down a few posts I gave someone advice on some sleep training. 13 weeks is still fairly young for it but make sure he isn't sick or having reflux, etc. Then maybe give your Ped a call and see what they suggest. Is he around 3 months? It might be a growth spurt where he wants to eat all the time! GL! Also, make sure you have set bedtime/nap routines. Try getting him to nap anyway you can, daytime sleep is for sure very important for night time sleep.

    besides rocking him to sleep I have no idea how else to help him :/ he falls asleep and wakes as soon as I put him in his RNP. I use a white noise machine, blackout shades. He hates swaddles. He isn't sick. What are other ways to help him? I try just rubbing him or rocking the RNP while he's in it without picking him up but that does nothing. How do you do CIO when you have another child. I have a 3 y/o who's room is next to his, I am afraid he will wake her then she will be awful the next day :/ 

    My other child does not wake to baby crying, even if they are in the same room! Anyway, you might just need to rock him to sleep for a while. Try holding him for a while after, like maybe an hour, if its nap time does he sleep in the car?   Try wearing him during the day to ensure a longer nap time. Have you called the doc to rule out ear infection, etc? Its crappy but it might be a few weeks of this. Again sleep training is early at this age but see what ped says!

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  • Jimsgirl5821Jimsgirl5821
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    imagepumpkinhead4:
    Sounds like he is starting to be more aware of his surroundings and need help falling asleep/getting back to sleep. It's fairly common and if you read down a few posts I gave someone advice on some sleep training. 13 weeks is still fairly young for it but make sure he isn't sick or having reflux, etc. Then maybe give your Ped a call and see what they suggest. Is he around 3 months? It might be a growth spurt where he wants to eat all the time! GL! Also, make sure you have set bedtime/nap routines. Try getting him to nap anyway you can, daytime sleep is for sure very important for night time sleep.

    besides rocking him to sleep I have no idea how else to help him :/ he falls asleep and wakes as soon as I put him in his RNP. I use a white noise machine, blackout shades. He hates swaddles. He isn't sick. What are other ways to help him? I try just rubbing him or rocking the RNP while he's in it without picking him up but that does nothing. How do you do CIO when you have another child. I have a 3 y/o who's room is next to his, I am afraid he will wake her then she will be awful the next day :/ 

    My other child does not wake to baby crying, even if they are in the same room! Anyway, you might just need to rock him to sleep for a while. Try holding him for a while after, like maybe an hour, if its nap time does he sleep in the car?   Try wearing him during the day to ensure a longer nap time. Have you called the doc to rule out ear infection, etc? Its crappy but it might be a few weeks of this. Again sleep training is early at this age but see what ped says!

    i wouldn't sleep train yet...I was just curious if it got to that point, how would it affect the other child's sleeping. I don't mind rocking him to sleep, just everything I read says put them down awake, don't rock to sleep or let them fall asleep eating because every time they wake they will need you to feed or rock them and will never learn o do it on their own. I thought I was doing something wrong. He's not sick. I tried the swaddle several times when he wouldn't nap in his bed and only on me...he would just freak out and I couldn't get him to calm. He does nap, but his naps only last 25-40 min. Should I keep the earlier bedtime or did  that mess everything up?

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  • KisstyKissty member
    Well just want to let you know where I'm at.  I rock my son to sleep every night.  We read a book and then rock until he's asleep.  I've tried putting him down drowsy and it just isn't working for me/us.  So I guess I'll rock him to sleep until he leaves for college. Surprise  Most nights he wakes up 30 min. after he falls asleep and I usually spend another 30 mins. getting him back to sleep.  He'll sometimes wake MOTN.  Last night was 3 times.  Guess we've hit the 4 mos. wakeful bc he was STTN.  He will sometimes go back to sleep on his own when he wakes.  There has been many nights (watching the monitor) that he has woke, lifted his head to look around and shifted positions and was out again.  Since the putting drown drowsy doesn't seem to be working what I'm doing is shortening the time I hold him after he's asleep.  This is taking a while but I think eventually he'll get it.  Most days my sone doesn't nap for long.  30-40 mins.  On rare days he'll take nice long naps 1.5-2 hrs.  Right now I'm just going with the flow.  Thankfully I don't have a toddler.  I would think your other child would get used to hearing baby sounds and it not bother them.  We get used to all kinds of noises.  We have planes flying over and live near a VFD.  My son has got used to all that.  Good luck.  LO will eventually get it worked out.  It sounds like you're doing the right things just be consistent.

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  • Jimsgirl5821Jimsgirl5821

    imageKissty:
    Well just want to let you know where I'm at.  I rock my son to sleep every night.  We read a book and then rock until he's asleep.  I've tried putting him down drowsy and it just isn't working for me/us.  So I guess I'll rock him to sleep until he leaves for college. Surprise  Most nights he wakes up 30 min. after he falls asleep and I usually spend another 30 mins. getting him back to sleep.  He'll sometimes wake MOTN.  Last night was 3 times.  Guess we've hit the 4 mos. wakeful bc he was STTN.  He will sometimes go back to sleep on his own when he wakes.  There has been many nights (watching the monitor) that he has woke, lifted his head to look around and shifted positions and was out again.  Since the putting drown drowsy doesn't seem to be working what I'm doing is shortening the time I hold him after he's asleep.  This is taking a while but I think eventually he'll get it.  Most days my sone doesn't nap for long.  30-40 mins.  On rare days he'll take nice long naps 1.5-2 hrs.  Right now I'm just going with the flow.  Thankfully I don't have a toddler.  I would think your other child would get used to hearing baby sounds and it not bother them.  We get used to all kinds of noises.  We have planes flying over and live near a VFD.  My son has got used to all that.  Good luck.  LO will eventually get it worked out.  It sounds like you're doing the right things just be consistent.

    thanks...I hope you start getting some better sleep soon too ;) 

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