Adding a baby book to the registry?

elizabethnseanny · February 2013

Did you guys add keepsakes like the baby book to your registry?

TIA!

tilsonc · February 2013

Yes, no one bought it thought so I got it with completion coupon.

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elizabethnseanny · February 2013

My youngest is 9, and this is DH's only child, so yep, his family is hosting.

mrsmcdonald · February 2013

Bliss+Berry:
You're registering for your 4th kid?

What does the youngest being 9 have to do with it? Waaa....you probably have no baby stuff, right? Is that the reason? It's still your responsibility to provide for it.

1026pumpkin · February 2013

I didn't, but I often see them on other people's registries and think it's fine to add.

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elizabethnseanny · February 2013

Pretty simple, it's my husband's first and his mom is very excited to celebrate. Baby book is definitely not a "need" item, but something nice for a family member to gift, or not, which is why I posted? Opinions? We certainly don't need anyone to provide our baby with necessities.

Appreciate your thoughts on keepsakes on a registry though!

mrsmcdonald · February 2013

Bliss+Berry:
mrsmcdonald:
Bliss+Berry:
You're registering for your 4th kid?
What does the youngest being 9 have to do with it? Waaa....you probably have no baby stuff, right? Is that the reason? It's still your responsibility to provide for it.
Yup, this. It's hilarious that you call me out for "classy" comments though. I guess being gift grabby is your idea of classy. Sweet.
ETA, who sees this getting DD'd by the end of the night?

You are so my hero.

ETA: It's still really tacky to register for your fourth kid.

elizabethnseanny · February 2013

Gift grabby for keepsakes, you're really not that smart are you?

Adam&Eve2 · February 2013

elizabethnseanny:
Pretty simple, it's my husband's first and his mom is very excited to celebrate. Baby book is definitely not a "need" item, but something nice for a family member to gift, or not, which is why I posted? Opinions? We certainly don't need anyone to provide our baby with necessities.
Appreciate your thoughts on keepsakes on a registry though!

Just because you ask for opinions on one topic doesn't mean that the posters are limited just to that topic.

And I understand that your DH's side of the family is excited. That doesn't mean that you have to accept the offer of a shower. You could explain that you are not comfortable doing one because it is your 4th child.

Family that's excited are going to get you stuff shower or no shower. But you have a good post count so you probably already know all this.

ETA: I agree that this will get DD'ed shortly.

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elizabethnseanny · February 2013

Yea, with his mom it kind of did mean I have to accept, AND make the registry. MIL was very offended when I didn't want a bridal shower and didn't register for our wedding, and has been pretty overbearing regarding the entire pregnancy. I guess I don't blame her, DH is her only son, and this will be our only child. I'm not risking opening that back up by saying anything but yes mam- but that situation is a whole different story. I was able to say no thank you to the ones offered by my coworkers, his coworkers, and DH's Dad's side.The registry is small, which is why I was asking for help on what to add...

PP, I'm not going to delete the post... this shower is in three weeks, I'm not getting out of it or letting others' opinions get my panties in a wad about it. I do like my bump time though, so I thought I'd explain the situation.

elizabethnseanny · February 2013

Bliss+Berry:
elizabethnseanny:
Gift grabby for keepsakes, you're really not that smart are you?

Smart enough to know how to use the quote function. Also smart enough to know that you shouldn't register for a 4th kid, even if you are having a shower, it's not necessary.

I just don't care about functions on the bump, I don't get paid to pay attention to them. It's not about if you think it's necessary, it's about whether my host does, and she does, so I'm making one.

elizabethnseanny · February 2013

I'm done feeding the trolls.

If anyone has an opinion on if you should put keepsakes on a registry, I appreciate the help

[Deleted User] · February 2013

elizabethnseanny:
I'm done feeding the trolls. If anyone has an opinion on if you should put keepsakes on a registry, I appreciate the help :

I don't think you know what troll means....

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LokiLahve · February 2013

Geez, why is everyone so worked up! So this is her 4th, so she doesn't just want diapers and onsies for gifts, who is anyone else to judge?

Family wants to do this for their sons first child. She didn't go around telling people they had to throw a shower. I say register for whatever you want, wether its necessity or a keepsake that grandparents can look at down the road. This is about you, your baby and your family.

jbatch · February 2013

I cannot figure out why people get so worked up about someone having a second shower.. What business is it of theirs?

To answer your actual question I did not put a baby book on mine because it seems like people will always get things like that whether its on there or not.. But I don't think there is a reason not to if you want a specific one..

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Shermany · February 2013

Some excessively mean responses on this thread! While I agree with the sentiment there's no need to be mean about it.
Anyway regarding your question I don't see anything wrong with registering for keepsakes. We totally forgot to buy a baby book but luckily someone gifted us with one! Besides, I think people like getting those kinds of things...

rhubarb123 · February 2013

OP - I did register for a baby book and got one but not the one I registered for. lol I like hte one I got (very detailed) but it goes from birth to 80 years old. I am NOT kidding!!!! I guess she'll have to fill out the info regarding her grandchildren and great-grandchildren.

My friend's MIL and SIL's hosted a shower for her (it was her 4th) and her husband's first. They were very excited since he had never been married or had a child. She also registered.

LokiLahve · February 2013

Yes I am new here, and if this is how these forums generally are I'll likely stop reading them.

I suppose it is too much to ask for somewhere you can discuss topics with other MTB without being judged and belittled. I didn't realize this was a forum for "I'm 16 and pregnant acting drama queens"

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randimo · February 2013

It's funny this board seems set on correcting everyone else's etiquette but seems completely unconcerned with their own nasty behavior. I like that this is a "public message board". Is that how you act in public?

OP: Have your 4th baby shower, celebrate and be happy with your husband, and be really glad the none of these women are invited!

And no, I didn't register for a baby book. I didn't think of it at the time. Maybe I'll register for one for my second and third children!

mel8255 · February 2013

I have the same overbearing MIL who was throwing a baby shower so she could have "her moment to shine." Some families don't really understand that MTBs can decline, much less realize that the showers are really for the moms.

It sounds like the OP has the same situation going on here. And truth is, if 25 (or in my case 80) random people DH and MTB barely know are going to be buying gifts, it makes sense that a registry is made. Registries can't be presumptive and gift-grabby, while also being "suggestions" at the same time, and the argument is always made that a registry is a suggestion only.

OP - put the book on there. Put whatever hell else you want on there too.

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Shermany · February 2013

Stephw32:
Yes I am new here, and if this is how these forums generally are I'll likely stop reading them.

I suppose it is too much to ask for somewhere you can discuss topics with other MTB without being judged and belittled. I didn't realize this was a forum for "I'm 16 and pregnant acting drama queens"

Try your birth month board. I find that to be the best place for general topics. The Tri boards and this board tend to get a little betchy and/or bat poop crazy :
Also doesn't hurt to have a thick skin and remember that you don't know these people so when they get all mean, who really cares?

Samiantha101 · February 2013

No, I didn't, but I didn't register at all.

Honestly, I wonder if I'll end up reading my daughter books from a tablet mostly.

Oh and pay no attention to the biotches that think being disgustingly rude is some how in better taste than a second shower.

bumpuser5823822 · February 2013

I think it is perfectly acceptable to add the baby book to your registry.

tmgarza · February 2013

I was just wondering about adding a baby book to my registry or not. I can't see a negative to add it. You would get the one you want since there are so many varieties out there and if no one gets it for your shower, you can get it for a discount afterward. I think most stores offer discounts for stuff on your registry after your due date.

ellewoodsSC · February 2013

You''ll find a very vocal group of people on this board who think there's absolutely no circumstances where it's acceptable to have a shower after your first baby, although modern etiquette has since changed to reflect the evolving dynamic of a modern family. Since it's YH's first baby and his family is organizing the affair, I'm not sure why so many posters are bent out of shape over this.

I put a baby book on my registry, but I ended up the one purchasing it the end. I don't think there's anything weird about including it in the registry, but it just doesn't seem like a popular gifting option.

jobiann · February 2013

mrsmcdonald:
Bliss+Berry:
mrsmcdonald:
Bliss+Berry:
You're registering for your 4th kid?
What does the youngest being 9 have to do with it? Waaa....you probably have no baby stuff, right? Is that the reason? It's still your responsibility to provide for it.
Yup, this. It's hilarious that you call me out for "classy" comments though. I guess being gift grabby is your idea of classy. Sweet.
ETA, who sees this getting DD'd by the end of the night?

You are so my hero.
ETA: It's still really tacky to register for your fourth kid.

I didn't register for DS's, but my Mom insisted on buying one for him. Seems tacky to register for keepsakes. He also got a silver rattle, baby spoon as gifts...those weren't on my registry either.

elizabethnseanny · February 2013

rhubarb123:
OP I did register for a baby book and got one but not the one I registered for.nbsp; lolnbsp; I like hte one I got very detailed but it goes from birth to 80 years old.nbsp; I am NOT kidding!!!!nbsp; I guess she'll have to fill out the info regarding her grandchildren and greatgrandchildren.
My friend's MIL and SIL's hosted a shower for her it was her 4th and her husband's first.nbsp; They were very excited since he had never been married or had a child.nbsp; She also registered.

Yes, his whole family has been very excited and happy to welcome us into the family, I'm lucky. Sounds like the baby book might be something too personal to add. Thanks!

elizabethnseanny · February 2013

mel8255:
I have the same overbearing MIL who was throwing a baby shower so she could have "her moment to shine." nbsp;Some families don't really understand that MTBs can decline, much less realize that the showers are really for the moms. nbsp;nbsp;It sounds like the OP has the same situation going on here. nbsp;And truth is, if 25 or in my case 80 random people DH and MTB barely know are going to be buying gifts, it makes sense that a registry is made. nbsp;Registries can't be presumptive and giftgrabby, while also being "suggestions" at the same time, and the argument is always made that a registry is a suggestion only. nbsp;nbsp;OP put the book on there. nbsp;Put whatever hell else you want on there too.nbsp;

Exactly, we understand she wants to shine, and are grateful she is involved in all of our childrens' lives. DH and I have joked about him dressing up as the pregnant one and letting him take the spotlight tho :

mary35699 · February 2013

I would NOT add a baby book to a registry, I see a baby book as a personal gift from someone to the baby. I.E I have a baby book my mom made for me and a second baby book my dad made for me, I love them both. But my favorite is the one dad made it is so detailed and I can tell he spent a lot of time writing it and how much love and anguish (I had some serious health problem as a baby) he was feeling at that time.

I think other keepsakes are fine to include on a registry, I.E first tooth/spoon/brush. But a baby book would be something I would never add to my own registry, it is far to special and I believe it's a very intimate gift for me to give my child.

Now if Grandma or whoever wants to make one then its fine for them to make it and give it to the baby.

JordynLeighx3 · February 2013

I'm so confused. I see a lot of posts where women are encouraged to accept an offer for a shower for a second, third, fourth etc. baby as long as its being offered. I see that it also seems to be more accepted, usually, if it's the H's first baby.
I also see women who are encouraged to register purely for the completion coupon. So what if he MIL wants to let people know that she registered. It doesn't sound like she overlapped her guest list from her first shower and even if it's her fourth child maybe it's her first shower...?
I don't know. I need someone to fill me in on what is and what isn't considered okay because it seems to be different for every person.

tussin1 · February 2013

Bliss+Berry:

Stephw32:
Geez, why is everyone so worked up! So this is her 4th, so she doesn't just want diapers and onsies for gifts, who is anyone else to judge? Family wants to do this for their sons first child. She didn't go around telling people they had to throw a shower. I say register for whatever you want, wether its necessity or a keepsake that grandparents can look at down the road. This is about you, your baby and your family.

Yes, everyone seems to get worked up over EVERYTHING that is not their business here.

bripratt2 · February 2013

I think its so funny that its perfectly fine to call someone out on something as minor as a baby shower but its completely taboo to say anything about unnecessary interventions during birth and unnecessary formula use which are both related to the health and well being of babies.

bripratt2 · February 2013

I think the baby book looks a little better than all of the necessities. It doesn't lookas much like you expect people to provide for your baby like. Most people will say about second showers.

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