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Have you been asked...

mamayo26mamayo26 member
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So DS is our first, and as my ticker says is ony 7.5 months. He is the light of our lives and everyone just loves him, and even when I was pregnant (which I hated) I said he would need to be on his way out of diapers before we have our second. I do not want 2U2...props to the mamas who have done that, but it isn't for us.

Anyway my FIL's gf asked me when we were going to have our second, and in the are you ready right now to start trying for #2 kinda way. It totally freaked me out! I had a bumpy 3rd trimester and a delivery that ended in emergency c/s. I also am so close to losing all the pregnancy weight (<5 lb to go). I can't imagine being pregnant again so soon, and unless my IUD stops working we won't be, but I was just wondering if anyone has asked you this.

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  • danieliza1127danieliza1127 member
    People have asked me if we're going to have more kids.  I usually say something like "oh we're still trying to figure this one out, I'm not even thinking past that right now!" and just laugh it off. 
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  • dragossoul84dragossoul84 member
    We've been asked but honestly the thought of being pregnant again any time soon freaks me out. My pregnancy was very hard and prior to ds we had 5 miscarriages so I plan to wait for about 5 years until trying again. Gives Alex time to be a baby and he will have started school half day
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  • SportyChic24SportyChic24 member

    I did have people ask me and all I said was that I was enjoying the one we have. I really don't like it when people do ask that, what if you cannot have anymore or do not want another. I get a different one now (since I have 2) somebody asked me if I was done, since I have a girl and a boy. I just looked at them and said not sure,we have not decided that yet (and this was when DS was a little over 2 months old.

    That question will never go away like many others, you just have to handle it your way (nice or snarky)

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  • DiveFrogDiveFrog member

    Eh. We have always been very open with family and friends that we wanted more than one child. I was also very clear that the earliest I would think about trying for another was after DD's first birthday. If it was completely up to me I would be able to control exactly when I get pregnant and DD would have been born a year earlier, and our second would be 3yrs. and 9 months later.....

    But, since I don't have those kinda powers we are going to have to roll with life.....It took us 15months to get pregnant with DD, and I am not getting any younger (35 this year)...so when we start trying it will be possible for them to be around 2 years apart....or we could still see the 3-4yr spacing that I think would be ideal.

    For me the pregnancy and recovery were pretty easy and enjoyable and I know a lot of women will want to shoot me, but I was back to my prepregnancy weight (albeit overweight to begin with) 10days after delivery so weight gain is not much of a conern for me in getting pregnant again.  

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  • caseysue55caseysue55 member

    CONSTANTLY.  I can't believe how many people ask me if I'm ready for #2.  I actually said "If one more person asks me that today, I'm going to go home and take a pregnancy test." TWO more people asked me that same day after I said that. (FWIW, I didn't take a test - I'm rarely giving it up to DH and honestly don't want to be freaked out by 2 lines on the test strip).

    I do want another but not yet people, she's only 7 months!

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  • SunAndRainSunAndRain member

    Sure, lots of people ask.  I don't see why this freaks you out.  Though if I had an emergency c-section I might feel differently!

    I just tell them that we're not yet sure what the future has in store for us.  Big smile.  Change subject.

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  • bloverdebloverde member
    I tell them if they want to be a night nanny to my 8mo old who is still up every 23 hours, then I might consider another one.
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  • TnG05TnG05
    Yep I've been asked this since DS was about 3 months.  It doesn't help that he's doing stuff sooner than everyone expected so I'm getting the he's getting out of the way for the next one talk.  
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  • unaveragejaneunaveragejane member
    My MIL told me Christmas before last (when I was still pregnant with DS) that she expected me to be pregnant again by Christmas 2012 so DS would have a sibling close to him in age. So yes, we have been asked and are getting a lot of pressure from that side of the family. Or at least we were, and then I guess she pestered me about it one too many times and I finally gave her a look that said "eat $#!* and die" so she hasn't mentioned it lately.
                 

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  • palma44palma44 member

    Yes all the time, constantly. I hate it, I have a horrible pregnancy with pre-term labor at 29 weeks and an emergency induction at 34 weeks that led to an emergency c-section. So I am NOT ready to go through that again....

    I don't feel like it is anyones business and we honestly don't know ourselves if we will be having another yet. But to me this is like the "are you planning on having a c-section" questions during pregnancy..... could not stand that one either. People don't know how to mind their own business. 

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  • gnomemomgnomemom member
    A FB friend started pestering me about having 2 just a few days after I gave birth to 1! She has brought it up 3 times since then. I am still recovering and healing; I'm nowhere near ready to even think about 2. I find it really strange that she bugs me about it so much, as she had a baby one week before I did. You'd think she'd be more understanding!

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  • brennarobbiebrennarobbie member

    I get tiffy with this question too. It's no one's business! But I remind myself that it's just like when we were dating someone for a while and random people would ask "when are y'all getting married?" and then after you get married people ask "when are y'all going to have kids?" and then the day after you give birth (yes, this happened AT THE HOSPITAL!!) people ask "when will #2 come along?"

     I really think that it's one of those questions that random people ask because they have nothing else in common with you or they are just trying to make conversation. 

    I'm like most of y'all...I smile and say "we would love to have more in the future." and then I leave it at that. If someone is pestering about it, I'd probably say "No." flatly. And maybe they'd shut up about it. ;o) 

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