December 2010 Moms
bumpuser260585
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TTC timing
bumpuser260585
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So dh and I have been ttc for 2 months now and last night I told him that if I didn't get ku this month I wanted to wait 2 months before trying again. I really don't want another december baby. If I got ku in february, the baby works be due late november, march would be late december. DH wants another baby regardless and says i'm silly for wanting to tta. What do you think?
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Re: TTC timing
It's a personal choice. You have to do what you feel comfortable with.
For me and DH, we feel like the sooner the better and we're already disappointed we weren't able to have #2 sooner, so I couldn't imagine TTA-ing for that long unless it was medically necessary for some reason. I would be thrilled with another holiday baby.
On the other hand, to be honest, I may need to take a charting and OPK-ing break at some point, because I am already feeling burnt out...If I'm not KU by the end of 2013, I think it will be time to reassess TTC altogether. Everyone's breaking point on that may be sooner, so only you know if you need a break or not.
tl:dr!!!
I guess all that's to say, it's complicate and personal, so you have to do what you feel is best. I don't think having a holiday baby itself is the end of the world, but if you need to make some decisions to support your mental well-being, then do what you need to do.
Well see how you feel after this cycle. I was pretty disappointed when I was not KU after the 3rd try because statistically speaking you have a 33% chance each cycle (if you're REALLY trying with timing, etc.)
Also...I think late november is vastly different from late december. I would maybe still try in February but re-assess if you want to do it in March or not. My nephews were born around Thanksgiving and it's a completely different feel as compared to DS's 12/18 bday.
But, do see what you mean -- your decision impacts your child's birthday permanently. Whereas if you're worried you'll be sad you're not pregnant for a few months that's not that big of a deal.
But you do have to think that if you're on cycle 10+ will you be pissed you skipped two towards the beginning?
Ultimately it is up you and what works best for you guys but I totally understand the overwhelming feeling
I am really getting the baby itch, but we are also waiting to not have 2 December babies.
We are going to actually TTC starting in July, and am hoping July to December is a good window, other wise we will pause again for a few months.
My DH also wants another ASAP, but waiting will also allow me to complete a good number of courses I need for my masters degree, and allows us to finish up some house projects and save some money.
I think if we had been TTC longer I.might reconsider, but at this point I think i'm okay waiting.