TTC timing

bumpuser260585

So dh and I have been ttc for 2 months now and last night I told him that if I didn't get ku this month I wanted to wait 2 months before trying again. I really don't want another december baby. If I got ku in february, the baby works be due late november, march would be late december. DH wants another baby regardless and says i'm silly for wanting to tta. What do you think?

mamaholmes2010

This was our last cycle TTC, the next 3 months we will TTA.  I know I personally get overwhelmed at the holidays between O's brithday, it is our busiest time of the year at work, and the holidays themselves.  Plus, we have 4 other family birthdays in January.  So we will try to avoid a Nov, Dec, Jan due date.  If it happens we will be thrilled-of course, but I understand your logic.

bumpuser260585

Thanks mamah. I always get stressed at the holidays. My family is 2 hours away so we always have to coordinate a stay with them. And my niece's birthday is in december too. It's nice to know i'm not alone in this thinking.

GrayGhost13

It's a personal choice. You have to do what you feel comfortable with.

For me and DH, we feel like the sooner the better and we're already disappointed we weren't able to have #2 sooner, so I couldn't imagine TTA-ing for that long unless it was medically necessary for some reason. I would be thrilled with another holiday baby.

On the other hand, to be honest, I may need to take a charting and OPK-ing break at some point, because I am already feeling burnt out...If I'm not KU by the end of 2013, I think it will be time to reassess TTC altogether. Everyone's breaking point on that may be sooner, so only you know if you need a break or not.

tl:dr!!!

I guess all that's to say, it's complicate and personal, so you have to do what you feel is best. I don't think having a holiday baby itself is the end of the world, but if you need to make some decisions to support your mental well-being, then do what you need to do.

missmuffin87

I totally get that. I was planning on TTA a oct/nov/dec/jan because we just get so busy with family and work crap around then. In addition to the holiday dance recital, I usually have 2-3plays that I'm working on overlapping. It just would have been too much to try to plan another birthday party in that time frame.

Five Months to Plan

You do what's right for you. I personally would love another holiday baby, but we have also waited till now to TTC because I do not want a June- sept baby. DH travels the majority of that time. He works for himself, and if he does not travel he does not get paid. The rest of the year his schedule is more flexible.  

dee12807

I had also wanted to make sure to not have another Dec LO. But, nature took over and now I have 2 December babies! 12/10 12/5 and I can't imagine it any other way. If you're ok with waiting, then wait. But if there's a chance that you'll look back and think 'we should have tried sooner', then don't wait. You can never go back to that time and try again...

jax63081

Like everyone else said, you need to do what is best for you and your family.  A month or so ago, I told DH that if we didn't get pregnant by now then I would want to TTA for 2 months to avoid another November/December baby.  Then as I thought more about it I realized it really doesn't matter to me either way.  But you need to do what is best you.  Nothing wrong with that.

kat81again2

Well see how you feel after this cycle. I was pretty disappointed when I was not KU after the 3rd try because statistically speaking you have a 33% chance each cycle (if you're REALLY trying with timing, etc.)

Also...I think late november is vastly different from late december. I would maybe still try in February but re-assess if you want to do it in March or not. My nephews were born around Thanksgiving and it's a completely different feel as compared to DS's 12/18 bday.

But, do see what you mean -- your decision impacts your child's birthday permanently. Whereas if you're worried you'll be sad you're not pregnant for a few months that's not that big of a deal.

But you do have to think that if you're on cycle 10+ will you be pissed you skipped two towards the beginning? 

ChicagoBroad26

I would totally TTA so as to not have another holiday baby. I honestly thought it was really stressful and that time of year is already jam-packed without adding ANOTHER significant day to it. 

jarebearsmom

We were also planning on TTA if we didn't get pregnant this cycle but after reading PPs I'm rethinking that lol

Ultimately it is up you and what works best for you guys but I totally understand the overwhelming feeling

erind0213

I am really getting the baby itch, but we are also waiting to not have 2 December babies.

We are going to actually TTC starting in July, and am hoping July to December is a good window, other wise we will pause again for a few months.

My DH also wants another ASAP, but waiting will also allow me to complete a good number of courses I need for my masters degree, and allows us to finish up some house projects and save some money. 

bumpuser260585

Thank you all for your opinions. I think I will wait and see how this month goes. I haven't been charting, so if I don't get a BFP this month i'm going to TTA and start charting. Then start fresh in 2 months.
I think if we had been TTC longer I.might reconsider, but at this point I think i'm okay waiting.

Kellina

Well.... I'm not a good one to ask... DS1's birthday is Jan 2nd. My original due date with #2 was Christmas Eve!!! He was born on the 10th. We were going to "start trying" to get a February or later birthday, but DH apparently got antsy and didn't PnP!!! If we go for #3, I'm not doing the holidays again!! 2 birthdays and Xmas is stressful!!