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MamaOfFour386 · January 2013

Do people feel the need to cause unneccasary drama??? A little back story me and the father of my child have a 4yr old together yea I didn't get pregnant at the best time (he was in the middle of a breakup at the time) hey things happen. Well once I found out I was pregnant I told him right away and of course he told the gf who ended up packing up and leaving. Well this was all back in August he hasn't heard a word from her since. And actually it's been quite nice since we have been able to focus on the kids, our relationship and the coming of a new baby. Well out of the blue he started getting calls/ texts in the middle of the night last night from her phone number and also a guys phone number. They even went as far as to send him a picture of a guy in a ski mask holding a hammer saying they were gunna break his legs! Like seriously wtf? They told him that "I" called her a few days ago which got him pissed at me now. But the thing is I don't have her number I never ever had her number he is the only person I know that has her number! I tried to tell him that but he won't listen. When I was pregnant with our daughter (I got pregnant before they met) the same thing happend tio me threats text/ calls from a girl claiming I was sleeping with her bf. I was sure it was her at the time but since he was newly with her he of course defended her. I've tried to remind him of that as this seems like the same dam crap! I just don't understand why people go out of their way to start crap like this ugh.. Sorry this Is so long!

kimmarie1105 · January 2013

This all sounds very childish. I wouldn't waste my time trying to convince anyone of anything. He is a big boy and can come to his own conclusions. He also knows where the door is if he doesn't like those conclusions. Sorry, but it all seems like a big game. In my opinion it is only a game if 2 people play.

JSS1002 · January 2013

kimmarie1105:
This all sounds very childish. I wouldn't waste my time trying to convince anyone of anything. He is a big boy and can come to his own conclusions. He also knows where the door is if he doesn't like those conclusions. Sorry, but it all seems like a big game. In my opinion it is only a game if 2 people play.

This. How old are these people!? Sounds like a TV show.

I would just completely ignore everything from them; block the number for texts / phone calls, etc. They are done -- no need to be in contact anymore. If I were her new boyfriend I'd run away.

FrecklesInside · January 2013

This is really confusing. I don't know if it is the run-on sentences or if I just can't make sense of your story.. you have a 4 yo together? You were not together when you got pregnant with this one, which caused him to leave the g/f he currently was with? Now you ARE together? With two children including this one and then two others that aren't his? I'm SO lost. Anyhow, it sounds really immature and ridiculous. I don't have any advice except to ignore the calls, change the number, and let him choose to do what he wants to do. I don't know any adults who deal with anything like this. It confuses me. I honestly don't hear the word "drama" from the mouths of mature, educated adults, unless referring to the genre of play.

ccamp93 · January 2013

kimmarie1105:
This all sounds very childish. I wouldn't waste my time trying to convince anyone of anything. He is a big boy and can come to his own conclusions. He also knows where the door is if he doesn't like those conclusions. Sorry, but it all seems like a big game. In my opinion it is only a game if 2 people play.

I am in agreement, when people are being childish like this you just ignore them. retaliating will only make things worse. be the better person and ignore it and they will look like the bad people...especially if they try anything stupid.

pinottoparenthood · January 2013

FrecklesInside:
This is really confusing. I don't know if it is the run-on sentences or if I just can't make sense of your story.. you have a 4 yo together? You were not together when you got pregnant with this one, which caused him to leave the g/f he currently was with? Now you ARE together? With two children including this one and then two others that aren't his? I'm SO lost. Anyhow, it sounds really immature and ridiculous. I don't have any advice except to ignore the calls, change the number, and let him choose to do what he wants to do. I don't know any adults who deal with anything like this. It confuses me. I honestly don't hear the word "drama" from the mouths of mature, educated adults, unless referring to the genre of play.

All of this. Honestly, while I would never wish unhappiness on anyone, what did you think was going to happen when you got pregnant with a guy who was dating someone else? You should have anticipated that there would be some drama involved. Now you have to live with the consequences of your actions, but I wouldn't want my kids around all of that. I would tell him that he needs to block her number and move on with your lives together or else get out if he's so concerned with her.

nyki06 · January 2013

I'm also in camp confusion.

skoogirl · January 2013

Not only am I confused about the backstory, I'm wondering why someone wouldn't call the cops to report a threat of violence like that. I would want to document the threats in case you or he need a retraining order. I'd change my phone number and probably the locks on my house. Goodness gracious.

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