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February 2012 Moms
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Online relationships/dating
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I really had no idea that online Facebook dating or befriending a stranger was a fairly common thing, I've caught 2 episodes of catfish on MTV and with the whole Manti T'eo contreversey I'm guessing its more common then I would've thought. I think for safety reasons I would be nervous to friend request a complete strange man(if I were a single lady) in hopes of getting to know him better and possibly start a relationship.
So I'm just curious does anyone have experience with this? How did it turn out? If you we're single would online Facebook dating be an option? Would you/have you used an online dating website? Results?
I have a friend who met her husband on match.com and they're literally perfect for each other! So I have no real opinions on that type of online dating, I mean that's what those sites are supposed to be used for.
I would make a CP to keep this more anonymous if it would work on my iPad...grrrr
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Re: Online relationships/dating
I met DH on MySpace 6 years ago. He found my page and got my AIM screen name and sent me an IM in March of 2007. I didn't meet him in person until June 2007 and the rest is history
We're you two from the same geographic area? We're you nervous or hesitant at first? Feel free to tell me stop being so nosy!
Yes he only lived about 25 minutes away! I was in a relationship when he messaged me but it was fizzling out. That's why I only talked to him for months. I was single for 2 months before I even agreed to meet him. He asked me out for dinner or ice cream, my choice, and I chose ice cream because I was nervous to do a full dinner-LOL. We ended up going to Friendly's and having a 2 hour first date! I was really nervous at first but it's also because I'm a very shy person but it all worked out.
I personally am wary of online relationships. If someone friends me on facebook (or myspace when I still had it) who I don't know I deny it. Especially now after seeing catfish. I've never used a dating website, and I can't say whether or not I would have if I didn't meet DH, but I do trust those a little more than basic social networking sites. My mom met her husband online, and DH's cousin met his wife online. For both there were a few duds before they found their spouses but you'll get that even if you meet someone in person
Two of H's friend met on MySpace and got married the year after H and I. I don't know how he found her page but they started chatting and eventually met and hit it off.
Before meeting H (who I met through friends) I tried online dating but through dating website, not FB or MySpace. I just wouldn't feel comfortable friending random people and them having access to so much personal information.
ETA - Meeting people through FB might have it's perks - at least you can get a better idea of them then what they present in a dating profile. One guy I met looked nothing like his pictures and on his first date took a call from his mom, who apparently thought we had been dating for 3 months and were serious. After our first (and only!) date he called and told me he had an extra Superbowl ticket (I think it was in New Orleans that year) and his whole family was going and they wanted to meet me and he would pay for my flight and everything. Creepy!
I agree with this. I can't even imagine how I would go about meeting someone at this point, I would think online would be my only real option, but it would for sure be on a dating specific website, not facebook, etc. that is just weird.
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My sister's last boyfriend she met through a online dating site. They dated for about a year and she really thought he was the one. He ended up being a total douche and a freeeloader. Literally a week after they broke up we find out he had been talking to other girls through said websites. And the most recent of the girls was driving down from out of state to meet the guy.
She is now dating a new guy she also met through this website. She is excited about him. So we hope he ends up being a good guy. I think it is hard for her to meet guys in person. She is so shy. So it is easy for her this way. I think you take the same risks meeting in person/online. You don't know much about them until you get to know them.
My other sister met her husband through myspace. They went to high school together but never met. He found her after we moved and she was at another high school. She is only 21 and he is a total jerk. But, she deals with him so eh.
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I also think the difference between social networking sites and dating sites is the dating sites seem more purposeful when it comes to meeting someone then just randomly friending a stranger.
took the words out of my mouth.
I met my DH on MySpace 6.5 years ago too!!!
Unlike FB, on MySpace you can search people by zipcode. I had broken up with my bf of 7.5 years and had bad luck dating for the next year and decided I was going to take a break for a year. I didn't know how I was supposed to meet people- I never met anyone I liked through work & I wasn't in school anymore. I'd known all my friends since high school or not too long after, so wasn't going to meet anyone through them. Never met anyone good at a bar. I figured all the good guys were hanging out at their friends' houses like I was, so how were we ever supposed to meet? To prove my point before my break, I looked through pics of guys in my zipcode that I'd never met before.
DH's icon photo was of his dog- and I was like, what man puts a pic of his dog as his profile pic? He either really likes dogs or he is ugly.- so I clicked on his profile to find out- and he was cute. He is a chef and had all these pretty pics of plated food. I don't know what possessed me to do it, but I sent him a dumb mssg "I just checked out your page and now I'm hungry!" He got it, thought I was cute too, and we started writing back and forth. Two months later, we met at the beach with our dogs... and the rest is history. I would never have met him otherwise and he lived less than 5min from me!
My BFF is getting married in June and they met on EHarmony.
This is too funny. Add me to the MySpace camp! In May 2006 DH was searching for people who were interested in the same music as he was so he wouldn't have to go to concerts alone. All of his friends were into R&B and he was into more alternative. This is how he came across my profile (so he claims) and he sent me a message asking about my favorite bands and what concerts I had been to recently.
We chatted via email and IM for a few weeks, then via text. After about a month, we met downtown for coffee, which turned into a movie and dinner... A 6 hour date! That weekend he helped my friend and I move into a new apartment, and we have been together ever since. We actually moved in together 2 months later after my friend stopped paying her share of rent. He lived about 5 miles away from me and we would have never met if not for his perusing the interwebz.
I will say though that I waited almost a week to reply to the first message he sent and stalked his profile page to be sure he ddidn't have a lot of female friends or hookups.
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When the internet first became a little more mainstream my mom's cousin's kid married some guy from England she met on the internet and met in person once. You should have seen us trying to explain that to my grandpap! That was a little creepy, but nowadays it's so common place (as long as you actually meet them in person!!).