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Can I worry a minute?

unaveragejaneunaveragejane member
in June 2012 Moms
I know, I know, I know. All babies are different. I totally know. BUT my DS has a cousin 2 weeks younger than him, and it freaks me the heck out sometimes when I see the cousin doing things DS doesn't do. For example, cousin laughs, squeals, and is very social around people. DS tolerates other people, but it takes him a long time to warm up enough to smile or giggle. Cousin blows raspberries and plays with balloons. DS has never blown a raspberry ever, and he preferred to watch his cousin play with the balloon. I know part of the difference is probably that the cousin has an older brother who plays with him a lot, but I play with DS a lot every day. (He will laugh and smile at me a lot, but he just looks at other people like "really?") I know he's probably just more reserved than his cousin, but part of me is terrified that these are the beginning signs of autism or a developmental delay. Ack! Am I the only ninny who is such a worrywart?
             

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  • khill86khill86 member
    Is your LO excelling in a different area? I know for DS he is very, very physical. Pulling up is old news and is now doing a side shuffle from table to couch, in his crib, tv stand to cabinet, etc. BUT he babbled dadada for literally 3 days and stopped, blew raspberries for a couple weeks and stopped. This was all before he started working on crawling, around 5 months.

    Only now, after mastering crawling, getting himself to sitting, pulling up, and now side shuffling, has he started babbling again. I worried for a bit, but my gut just told me that those language things were not as interesting to him as mobility. He does smile a lot, and at everyone, but he hardly giggled for a while, too. Now he really gets laughing.

    I think you have to look at the whole developmental picture instead of just certain things. What he IS doing vs what he isn't doing. Also, I'm almost positive that autism and the early warning signs are difficult to really detect until 12 to 18 months. By 6 months all you are expecting is a big, warm smile. Just remember there is such a wide range of normal. But if you really feel there's an issue or something that concerns you, there is no harm I'm asking your pedi about it.
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  • unaveragejaneunaveragejane member
    I wouldn't really say he's excelling at anything, but when I run through the milestones checklists, he's not behind either. He babbles (only agoo and hey/hi...not mamama or bababa yet). He rolls both ways. He'll support weight on his legs and hold himself up next to me or the sofa for a few seconds. He can sit up on his own for a few minutes. It's strictly the social skills I'm concerned about. I am going to make a better effort to get him around some other LO's now that flu season is starting to die down.
                 

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  • Danaz1Danaz1 member
    all babies and children are different so try not to worry. 
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  • forestdancerforestdancer member

    I worry a lot to. But I have to remember not to compare all babies excel at different age.  My LO a month older than her cousin barley rolls over but her cousin does it all the time. I got worried but my  is sitting up and other things.  

     If really worried just talk to dr.

    Hugs..your baby just taking time, who knows after all watching may pass by the other one in another area.

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  • seunrineseunrine member

     We have a nephew exactly 2 weeks younger than DS and I think its normal to compare, even though we know that all babies are different. Our nephew has been crawling since 5 months, DS just started to crawl (backwards, lol). Our nephew pulls himself up on things but DS does not. However, DS babbles all the time whereas I've never heard nephew's voice. Try not to worry about the social aspect either. Everything I've read talks about how this is the time for stranger anxiety and our DS definitely has it. He's a social happy baby at home...but also gives the whole "really?" face to other people and takes a long time to warm up to others, even family. So I say don't worry but like the other post if you feel really worried talk to his Pediatrician.

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  • anonsouthernbellanonsouthernbell member
    Please try and relax...it really could be something as simple as your LO being an introvert and your cousin being an extrovert.  All babies really are different.
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  • Daisy22Daisy22 member
    Babies are different even siblings. DS1 is very quiet, shy. As a baby no one but dh or I could hold him or he'd freak out. He use to hide behind us and it took him forever to warm up to places. He's gotten better but he's still very very quiet. As a baby daycare called him the thinker b/c he seriously would sit and take everything in around him before he would even try to play.  DS2 is way more social and always has been. He can be a wild man. He's very emotional which is becoming very interesting as a 2 year old. DS3 is very  more social and loves everyone. He will laugh and smile at anyone. He plays with everything either by himself or going after the big boys. So it really probably is just more his personality then anything
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