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How to deal with tantrums

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My very easy baby has turned into a very difficult toddler. He just turned one and cries constantly throughout the day.  It is absolutely tantrums and is happening about things that he is made about. He cries in the car, hates being in the car unless my older kids are there with him.  He cries when we block him in the living room. I will gate him in the living room when I am cleaning, cooking etc. Our first floor is open concept, so he can see me. He has tons of toys, but stands at the gate screaming and crying uncontrollably.  He cries when he can't have something.  His crying is screaming, nonstop and inconsolable with me telling him he is okay.

Anyone else have a toddler who is doing this?  I feel like ignoring it would be best when I know it is him being mad or stubborn. It is just so hard to do things with him crying at me.  How do you deal with this? 

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Re: How to deal with tantrums

  • kalettekalette member
    I mostly ignore it too, but I talk to her about it while it's happening. She'll be crying to get in her high chair while I'm getting food ready and I'll tell her it's not time yet and I have to make the food first, etc. I'm hoping she'll understand soon.. It is hard!
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  • LoriLee14LoriLee14 member
    yep at this age and you are sure it is a tantrum, then explain yourself in a calm manner that you are cooking and can't play right now and ignore the behavior. It is too young to try and correct it. If she can see you, would it change her attitude if you sang? or did a silly dance while cooking? Might help discract her from crying
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  • SteelCity44SteelCity44 member

    I don't know if this is a terrible idea or not, but I've resumed baby-wearing around the house. Granted, my kid is still under 20lbs, but if he's being needy and he's sleepy, it's easier if I wear him. I had to cook dinner last night with him, because he needed to eat still, but didn't nap well and was sooo tired.

    I don't wear him all the time (that would kill me), but when I know that he just misses mama or he's over-tired, I'll throw him in the moby.

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  • docmay25docmay25 member

    Thanks for the different opinions.  I can't wear him anymore and haven't for a long time.  He is a big boy!  My back can't take the weight, but if I could I would try that.  I have to gate him when I am doing certain things.  If I am making dinner, it is not safe to have him in the kitchen.  He is into everything and he is quick.  I always pick him up when he is crying and I think he needs to be soothed because he is tired etc. But he really is having tantrums.  When he tries to get the tv remote or something else and he can't have it, he cries and throws his body down.  

    I have gone thru tantrums with my older children, just never this early. I wish I could just hold him, but I have two older children who need my attention too.  

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  • Ashes_3Ashes_3 member
    Maybe try putting him in the high chair with some toys or snacks while cooking dinner. If he is in the kitchen with you but up out of danger he might be happy. Maybe try giving him his own play cleaning items while your working to distract him. It doesn't hurt to try.
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  • contourhandscontourhands member

    HI,

    I encourage you to read "the happiest toddler on the block"..it is excellent and deals alot w/ this.
    some quick things I will say about it is make sure you are giving your little one alot of attention, smiles and sit on the floor and play w/ him every now and then which I'm sure you are doing.  Someone else mentioned to awknowledge their feelings, good to do (the book goes into exactlly how to do this in a way toddlers understand)....and distraction!  :)  Yes, use toys and pots and pans, anything.

    Around 1 I disagree about carrying a baby around.  They need to start learning how to be indipendant.  I don't think we should treat them like 5 year olds but picking a whiny child up just reinforces bad behavior..... When I broke that habit not only was my life easier but my son became alot more indipendant and happier.
    Hope this helps

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