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Told the parents

ktbelle1211ktbelle1211 member
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So I finally told my parents last night...BF told his after we had the confirmation appointment, but I wanted to wait.  My parents are not really excited, I didn't expect them to be...My dad is not his biggest fan and we aren't married yet so of course it is not something they are happy about.  I made the decision to tell them even though we havent' heard the heartbeat yet...We go back for our third appointment and that's when we'll get to hear it (**hopefully**).  It's something that I have been dreading to do because I knew I would just be told that I was a disappointment - which I guessed right on from dear old dad...The up side is we are eloping in February and he asked about wedding plans so now at least they'll be happy about the elopement...

Any one else have parents who are less than thrilled about the pregnancy?


"Even miracles take a little time." Cinderella

BFP #1: 07.13.2012, EDD 03.06.2013, 1st U/S 08.02.2012 - no heart beat, D&C 08.02.2012 *Squirrel*

BFP #2: 12.09.2012, EDD 08.21.2013, 1st U/S 01.29.13 - no heart beat, D&C 01.29.2013 "Caterpillar"
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  • GaiaEarthMom12GaiaEarthMom12 member

    I haven't experienced your situation, but I just wanted to say I'm sorry that you are not getting support from your family. That must have hurt when your dad said that.

    Hoping that you have a healthy little one and get to hear the heartbeat soon! *hugs*

    Married to the love of my life for 3 years :)
    First pregnancy - blighted ovum, miscarriage at 10 weeks, Apr./May 2012
    Second BFP 9/19/12 - Hoping for our Rainbow Baby! :)

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  • Ktbug613Ktbug613 member

    my mom is less than excited, not that she doesn't want gradnkids, but because she is convinced we didn't wait long enough from our miscarriage and that I am putting my health and the babys in jepoardy. Even though we followed doctors orders. I called her when I devloped heavy bleeding (from a SCH) but I thought I was loosing it and she basically told me it was my own fault for not waiting longer.

     

    Hugs to you though! Im sorry your family isn't more excited for you, but it usually all goes away when the baby comes and they fall in love ;) 

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  • magdalina.hmagdalina.h member
    What an awful reaction. I'm sorry
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  • jenheartsmonstersjenheartsmonsters

    I'm sorry your parents aren't as joyful as they should be.

    My partner is carrying our child, and my folks aren't as psyched as I'd hoped. Some thirty-odd years ago my mother lost a child shortly after his birth, so I understand that she's very anxious about pregnancies. I just wish they could be as excited as my partner's parents. Their enthusiasm is ironic because they historically have not had supportive reactions to most things related to my partner (sexual orientation, gender expression, domestically partnering with me, etc). I'm choosing to give my parents space in the hopes that they come around. It's a lonely feeling, though, and I imagine it must be lonelier for you, since you have that precious cargo inside you and probably could use some mama love of your own.

    Do you have any close friends you can tell?  Having someone, anyone, who can share your joy is awesome.

    Best of luck! Hope your 'rents come around.

     

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