Any expectant moms 40 and over with older children?

3sthecharm · January 2013

I had my youngest child at 35 and we thought our family was complete. As my 40th approaches I am experiencing a yearning I cant explain for another child. Im worried about the difference 5 years can make and was just wondering if any other expectant mommas close to 40 had older children and how you find this pregnancy compares to previous pregancies you experienced at a younger age?

mmckinsey · January 2013

I am 42 and just found out that I was pregnant with baby #4. My three other children are 22, 17, and 13 (all 5 years apart). I have found that 5 years really worked for me. My children are all very close to one another and I found that with the 5 year difference, the older child liked helping out with the younger one. They are thrilled with the arrival of this baby.

So far I have not had any of the symptoms that I have had with my previous pregnancies. The only thing that I have experienced is a lack of appetite. Besides that, it has been great!

gscoville · January 2013

I'll be turning 40 within two weeks of my due date end of August/early September, and I have a daughter from a previous marriage who is 18 (turning 19 in October). So I've gone through all the doubts, weighing pros and cons, etc. of starting all over again after such a huge gap. But ultimately, my hubby and I just really want a baby or two together, this one will be his first, his mom's first grandchild, and I never actually wanted to have just one - things just happened that way. I've also noticed this pregnancy to be much different from my last, at least in the morning sickness department - I had it really bad until week 20 with my daughter, but haven't had any yet with this one. Not that I can actually remember when it started the last time, that really was a lifetime ago!

jsk326 · January 2013

I turned 44 last month, in fact it is my 44th birthday that is estimated as the conception date. I have 3 other kids from a previous marriage- they will be 16, 13 and 5 when baby is born. This is my husband's first and he is ecstatic. I had my tubes tied when I had my last baby so needless to say this is a surprise. I am not so thrilled though... I thought I was done. We have no money and my husband is currently looking for employment so things are a little tense and I am not really able to be happy yet. Not sure how the kids will take it either.

SouthernMom70 · January 2013

3sthecharm:
I had my youngest child at 35 and we thought our family was complete. As my 40th approaches I am experiencing a yearning I cant explain for another child. Im worried about the difference 5 years can make and was just wondering if any other expectant mommas close to 40 had older children and how you find this pregnancy compares to previous pregancies you experienced at a younger age?

I'm 42, pregnant with my 2nd. We have an 8-year-old son. The only real difference I've noticed with this pregnancy is that I get tired more easily, but that's likely because, in addition to working full-time like I was with my 1st, I'm also involved in raising a very active 2nd grader! Other than that, I haven't noticed any real differences between this pregnancy and the last.

3sthecharm · January 2013

Thank you all for your responses !

babystoli · January 2013

This is my first, but... I'm the youngest of 5. The first four were born within 6 years of each other, and I came 7 years after the last! There were times when I wished I was older... but 99% of the time it was fantastic being the youngest! I got to do cool things with my older sibs and by that time my parents were pretty relaxed. And my siblings had a built in babysitter once they got married and had kids

The funny thing... my mom was the youngest as well. She has 5 older siblings, and she was born when my grandma was 39, 5 years after the last.

Congrats & enjoy it!

surpriseaddition · January 2013

I have a 14 year old and a 12 year old. I will be 43 when I deliver our "surprise" addition. My husband and I were happy with our DD and DS, and felt we had the perfect family. It has taken some getting used to, but at this point, all of us, including the kids, can't wait for her to arrive!

The main thing I noticed is that my morning sickness was much less severe than with my first pregnancy....but I've had a lot of painful, stabbing cramping, especially in the beginning. I have a much bigger gap than you, so you maybe your uterus will stretch with less protest than mine seems to be having!

joeyandronda · January 2013

I just turned 40 in December, I have 4 older children 22,18,14 and 12 plus a 2 year old grand baby! My husband and I have been together for 9 years( he has no children of his own) we decided we wanted to have a child together, our children now are such a blessing! So we started trying 7 months ago and just found out yesterday we are positive! We had just started seeing a fertility specialist! 4 weeks with hcg level IG 125! My kids are already far in age, I think it's fabulous to space them apart! Good luck to you! After all,40 is the 20!

Faithful2U · January 2013

This is so nice to hear. I am 43 and will be 44 when I deliver our 2nd. Our first will be 11 yrs. old, by the time the baby is born. This was quite a surprise, as we were very happy with one, and our life as it is now. I guess God had other plans for us! I found out last Sun. (1/6), and didn't tell my husband until Mon. I didn't know how to tell him, especially since we were definitely not trying! I am a bit scared, thinking of the risks because of my age, going through all the baby years again, etc..., but trying to stay positive and do all that I can to stay healthy, and fit for the best possible outcome. It's nice to know we are not the only ones at this stage in the game with such a big gap in ages. We have been married for 13 yrs., so fortunately we are not just starting out, etc...

Thanks for listening! And, as we like to say, "God luck!"

mama2many · January 2013

I'm 41, and just had my 6th. My kids are 14, 9, 7, 4, 2 & 2weeks. I would still REALLY love more - I don't think the baby hunger ever really goes away - from what most of my friends have said. That being said, I think the time has come for us to be done.

5 years is actually a nice age difference between my older children, but if I was in your boat, and wanted another I'd be inclined to plan for 2 more, closer together so as not to leave a singleton alone for years after the other kids leave home.

bethz13 · January 2013

I'm 43 and going to be 44 when #3 arrives. My youngest is 12 and this LO is a surprise blessing! I was nervous to tell my husband, too, but he was thrilled. We had the NT scan and pap-a test last week and everything looks great! This will be the first baby for us. We both have 2 teenagers from a prior marriage. This LO will bring our whole family even closer together!

capstone52501 · January 2013

I am 40, 41 when our son will be born. I have a 23 year old son and a 10 year old daughter. I am excited to have an almost 11 year old to help. It will be like haveing a built in baby monitor if I need to go out and do chores (we live on a farm and have horses and a few chickens).

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