So I think we are making the leap in TTC #3. After DD was born, we were so sure that we were done that we actually sold our baby stuff (swing, bouncy, etc). But during the past 3-4 months, I think we have changed our minds.
So, questions
1. did you always think "3" or whatever your total number is or did that change over time?
2. what is the major difference from 2 to 3? Seems to be a different transition from the 1 to 2.
3. people who have 2 or less always talk about "3" being scary b/c you are outnumbered. I think that is crap....is it?
I hope we're not completly insane.....we have very little family help (no grandparents either) and we could lose our minds!!
Re: mamas of 3+
1. Always planned to have 2. Then after our 2nd son was born, I did not feel like we were done.
2. I thought 0 to 1 was still the most difficult. Going to the 3rd was super easy for us.
3.I love it! But you are never alone! But it makes having 2 at a time really nice!
I have no help, we just moved 7 months ago and no famiy support and a husband that works long hours. I would not trade this life for anything.
1. I always said 3. Dh always said 2. I got twins so I won. By the time they were 6 weeks he got a vasectomy and I was already pining for #4.
2. I went 0-1 and then 1-3. 0-1 was harder. I didn't know what kind of mom I wanted to be, or could be. Every sniffle was the end of the world, every bout with constipation was frightening. Second time around, I was more laid back. I'd do it again in a heartbeat- my kids are great friends and the transition would be easier than it was for her alone.
3. I was out and about with the 3 from the beginning alone. It can be embarrassing if one is having a fit and I have to wrangle and navigate a parking lot or something, but routine and consistency (despite family members' whining that we are too rigid) keep us running smoothly and cooperatively. But now it rocks, I mean REALLY rocks- they play well together, and if one wanders off and wants to be alone, the other two carry on. I think the more the merrier!
2. what is the major difference from 2 to 3? Seems to be a different transition from the 1 to 2. As long as I had a good double stroller that could accommodate a baby carrier, I was good. I've trained my oldest to walk beside the stroller and my two littles ride. I'm really lucky to have a very involved DH, so most of our outings and home routines are a family affair. So it's really been an easy transition with each child because of the support I have from him.
3. people who have 2 or less always talk about "3" being scary b/c you are outnumbered. I think that is crap....is it? I think in certain situations it can seem a bit daunting, but with proper planning and effective communication between both parents, I can't imagine anything going terribly wrong. Our biggest obstacle is that they are all so young/close in age, so it does make tantrums harder since the other ones are just as little and don't understand. But we're lucky that those public outbursts have been very rare with any of our kids.