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candlequeen
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alcohol at shower?
candlequeen
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in Baby Showers
One of my co-workers is throwing me a work shower in late march or early april and she is already planning everything. She TOLD me not asked me..."There will be alcohol at this shower, just to let you know." With sort of an attitude (not sure how to describe it by typing). I was wondering if this is becoming the norm? I went to a baby shower last year and it was at like 11 am and we had mimosas, but nothing heavy. I just don't want everyone drunk and we have quite a few co-workers that aren't 21. What do you think?
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Re: alcohol at shower?
I've been to showers where there was alcohol. I threw one, actually. To me, it's like any other social function. Alcohol is available for those who want it (and can legally drink). Is it the norm in your circle that if alcohol is there, i'ts a given that "everyone" will get drunk?
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Every single show I have ever been to has had at a minimum, champagne punch or mimosa's. I don't understand what the big deal is. Do you work with a bunch of alcoholics who cant have a couple without getting trashed?
It's not uncommon and depends on the MTB and who is throwing the shower. If you do have a lot of underage people coming you might want to bring that up to your hostess. But she is the one who gets to make the final decision.
Don't get out much do you?
I don't think that alcohol at a shower is a big deal either. Just because I can't drink doesn't mean everyone else can't too. When I threw my sister's baby shower, we had mimosas and a bloody mary bar. If people didn't want the champagne or the vodka, no biggie. We made them virgin ones. We also had water and coffee too so people had choices, including the mom to be.
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I seriously hate this mentality. What if the guest of honor had an aversion to chips and dip? What if the guest of honor didn't like sweets? It's a party for the guests to enjoy themselves at, since they're spending money to come to it.
But, I also don't understand men who stop having drinks when their wives are pregnant. If I break my ankle and I can't walk, I don't expect my husband to stop walking. If I have a root canal and I can't chew solids, I don't expect my husband to stop eating foods that have to be chewed.
I'm with Cranang.
I still don't get why the OP thought having alcohol at a shower was weird? Unless your shower is in something like the McDonough Church of God fellowship room, alcohol's a given...
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Agree 100%
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sorry but I never said it was weird...you should go back to the original post and read it.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Dear god, what will all of my friends do if they aren't provided alcohol for 2 hours of their life?
This is the part I don't like. Yes, you might be the guest of honor. But there are still other guests that need to be taken into consideration. Their enjoyment should also be paramount. They've spent money to come to a party for you. Having a little celebratory champagne, punch, etc to liven the mood is a nice gesture. Not to mention it softens the blow if I'm forced to play stupid baby shower games.
Die of boredom.
I'm not sure you could've missed the point more...
ITA and in my social circle, alcohol is the norm at events and gatherings. My showers all had alcohol (except for my work one since it was during lunch, on site) and I did not care that other people had drinks and enjoyed themselves.
My preferences were actually largely around the comfort and enjoyment of my guests and hosts!
I'd find it a really weird "preference" to state "because I can't drink, I don't want anyone else to" if the norm in your circle IS to have alcohol at social functions.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Right, it usually comes from self-entitled twits who are trying to make everything all about them and not taking into consideration that she's not a pretty-pretty-princess who needs to be fawned all over because she's the most special little flower ever. We don't think there's a way to tell people "don't buy me pink". We don't think there's a way to tell your hostess that you want books instead of a card. I'm not really sure what threads you've been reading.
Oh, and I'm not trying to convince you to have alcohol at your shower, as you're not having one. I'm trying to understand the logic in "well, if I can't drink, then why should anyone else be able to a MY party??"
Um, no. When women come on here complaining that they hate their theme or the food or the late date or whatever, we almost always respond that the shower is a gift, and you can't dictate the terms of that gift.
Maybe I'm misunderstanding you, but it seems like you are saying the BSB generally agrees that the MTB has a say in all things baby-shower-related, and I don't believe that's true. If she is asked, she can certainly state her preferences. If she is overruled, about alcohol or almost anything else, she needs to smile and say, "Thank you so much for generously hosting a party in my honor."
If its a work function though I can see how open bar may be more acceptable. I didn't realize so many people had booze at their showers!
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This. Every shower that I have been to has been alcohol free. But I fail to see the controversy about having it versus not having it. For my shower, my hostesses will only have punch. The majority of the guests do not drink and to get the alcohol would have made it too expensive for them. If someone does want some alcohol, they can order it at the bar. However, if it were not for the additional cost, I would not have minded if the guests had a glass of wine at the shower.
This. I actually prefer there be alcohol at my shower. There are going to be so many different groups of people there, I feel it helps break the ice. My guests will be provided with beer & blue sangria if they choose to partake. Some will, some won't. It's no big deal.
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