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August 2013 Moms
bunnymama625
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For current and past BFing moms- AWESOME idea! :)
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Sorry to promote my friend's blog, but I think this is a GREAT idea for awareness of breastfeeding in public- once the collage is put together, she's hoping everyone will send it out and make it viral! 
The "example" picture is also one of my close friends I became friends with both of them through the June 2011 BMB
https://www.jubileebabyco.com/1/post/2013/01/calling-all-nursing-moms-past-and-present.html
The "example" picture is also one of my close friends I became friends with both of them through the June 2011 BMB https://www.jubileebabyco.com/1/post/2013/01/calling-all-nursing-moms-past-and-present.html
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Re: For current and past BFing moms- AWESOME idea! :)
I have been watching this because I am intrigued by it. I was hoping for some responses, but it's up to nearly 200 views and no responses. I'm wondering why. So I am going to state what is probably a very controversial opinion here. I am not a fan of *super* public breastfeeding (like the picture shown in the link, at a sports game). I completely understand the reasons why people are and have absolutely no problem with anyone who feels strongly about it. For me, personally, it's not something that I plan to do. FYI, I do plan on breastfeeding. Again I will say, I don't have any problems with it in theory, but I react viscerally in an entirely different way.
I feel the same way. I don't think I'm going to be whpping out my breast w/o cover in public places. I don't mind other people doing it at all, but I'm just a little modest. One thing that grosses me out is doing that in bathrooms. Most of the bathrooms I've gone into (even nice restaurants, etc) can be so un-sanitary. So what other options are there for private feeding? I think the cover is a nice compromise.
I too do not have a strong opinion on the matter. Maybe that will change when I start feeding.
Covers are great and all, but once DS got past a certain age 8-10 months, he wouldn't let me use a cover. I just had to be as discreet as possible and use a small blanket.
I went to a baseball game once with DS and didn't want to nurse at the game since my friends were around. So I went to the first aid station and asked if I could nurse there. It worked great.
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You do what every other mother does, plan accordingly. If you are uncomfortable nursing in public without a cover, you make sure you aren't in public when it's time for your child to nurse. Being unwilling to nurse in public doesn't mean you can't ever leave your house.
So when a person has advance tickets to a baseball game, they should just skip it because babies need to eat every 2 hours? Good plan. Doesn't jive at all with the rest of your comment.
I wouldn't take a baby that needed to eat every 2 hours to a baseball game, but that is not really relevant. And how far in advance did you buy your tickets that you can't take your child's feeding schedule into consideration? Must be amazing tickets.
You asked what the PP would do at a public even if she was uncomfortable nursing in public uncovered but her child wouldn't or couldn't be covered. IF your child won't remain covered and IF you are uncomfortable nursing in public without a cover, then plan accordingly. I never said skip it. I said if it bothers you, make other arrangements.
How else do you plan accordingly? Tell your baby to plan on skipping a meal? Or do you plan on leaving baby with someone else, so you'll have to pump in public?
Well, for the record, I personally don't plan on EBF. So I guess that explains me a bit more.
Nursing moms that are uncomfortable nursing in public generally quit sooner.
I've nursed all over the place, with a cover and without. I do what makes sense at the time. No one has ever said a word to me - I think I have a confident look about me that translates to "I will mess you up if you think you know how I should take care of my son better than I do." I've nursed while paying for an eye exam. I've nursed at the table of my church's fall supper with a table full of strangers. I've nursed at my in-laws. I've nursed in a movie theatre. The awesome part about nursing for me was NOT planning ahead and knowing I could feed my child any time he got hungry. It's been great (we're still nursing!).
Women need to do what they are comfortable with, but the judging of women by women, and worse, moms by moms is ridiculous. It's shameful.
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No, they should plan accordingly. Which is exactly what she said. I plan to breast feed but I also plan to bring covers, blankets and be prepared to do car feedings if there is not a suitable place for me to privately and discretely feed my child.
Since your brought it up, If it's 90 degrees outside should you really be taking your newborn to the ball game anyway?
Eta: I'm a private person. If I can't feed my child with a cover then I will be making other arrangements. If the people I'm with can't deal with that, well then they can kma. I will do what's best for me while making sure my child is fed.
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A wedding? A graduation? Do you know that they make nursing apparel just for this purpose, so that people don't have to miss their sister's wedding?
Nursing frequently keeps babies hydrated. Some babies will nurse under a cover, and some won't. It's highly amusing when people KNOW what they will do so far in advance, without having asked the baby.
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Yep, I see most of these nursing relationships lasting about 6 weeks. Meanwhile, a nursing tank would have solved their problems.
You are making it seem like the only option anyone has is to feed her baby in public uncovered. Not the case. There are plenty of ways to avoid that if it's not something you are comfortable doing.
I know what I will do because it's who I am as a person. I'm a very shy person when it comes to things like this. I know how I will be. If baby refuses to nurse with a cover and there is not a sanitary private place for me to feed my child, then I will be feeding him or her in my car. It's just how I am.
And megaboom why can't I wear a nursing tank and use a freaking cover? Why does that matter? That doesn't make sense.
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Right, but at those types of events, it would not have to be done right out in the middle of a room with hundreds of people around. It would be very easy to find a private corner or room somewhere. If you look at my original post, I specifically said *super* public events, like sporting events. Those types of events are places I would likely not be bringing a nursing baby anyway, so I probably wouldn't go if nursing was necessary.
And I agree with the poster who said that the judging thing is shameful. I do not judge anyone who does it. I actually understand it. It's just not for me personally. Which is exactly what I said in my original post. But to be fair, I did want to spark a conversation about it, since no one had responded to the OP's thread.
Do you have statistics on that, or are you just judging because you think you know what will solve another woman's "problem"?
You can wear whatever you want. But you can't guarantee your baby will stay under a cover. If you're willing to go sit in your car in the middle of a special event, knock yourself out. Makes no difference to me. But you're in for a sad reality check.
You'll be surprised at the things you're willing to do when faced with a crying baby in your arms. I used to be a very modest, shy person. The baby ate my modesty.
Covers work well for most people for the first few months. I used one, in the beginning. And when it stopped working, I had gained the confidence to just keep breastfeeding. It was an evolving relationship, and a skill that improved with time. Most people would never realize I was breastfeeding, even without a cover. Bigger babies have bigger heads.
I'm sure people will find what works for them with time and trial and error, but the whole "eww! how can women do that! put on a cover!" attitude is not helpful.
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I don't have to ask my baby if he or she would like to attend a baseball game in 90 degree weather. Pretty sure as the mother, I get to make that call.
And you've given no suggestions. I don't think you have any idea how you're going to avoid it.
This is SO condescending. There is no way that you can tell anyone what will and won't work for her, or how she will feel. Not one person has said anything negative about public, uncovered breastfeeding. This is the equivalent of, "Wait until you have kids of your own."
How are you going to keep breastfeeding when you're not willing to do it in public, yet you say breastfeeding doesn't mean you have to stay home? You already said you won't be doing it in a bathroom. You're running out of options here. So yeah, I see formula in your future.
I was telling my personal experience.
If you don't like that, frankly, I don't care. Some things really DO change when you have kids of your own (thank God).
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Well, I won't go to a baseball game because baseball games are long and boring. But I do go out in the summer and don't plan to cower indoors until I wean.
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And you have this idealistic vision that you'll happen to be home every time your baby needs to eat for a year. Maybe you should just take the reality check from some experienced moms, instead of just saying you know how things will be.
Not that I think it's brain surgery to figure out, but here's how I would avoid it (if I was uncomfortable nursing, uncovered, at a hot ficticious baseball game to which I HAD to bring my child):
Nurse in the car right before the game and immediately following.
Pump in the car and bottle feed during the game.
Go to the (air conditioned) car during a break in action.
Cover myself and stand in the shade.
Leave the baby with somone or *gasp* stay home with my baby.
And if you are fine with breastfeeding in public without a cover, do that too. You are seriously missing the point that there are alternatives.
And all you've done is tell these FTMs how likely they are to fail if they aren't comfortable nursing without a cover in public. You haven't said a single helpful thing. SHOCKER.
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You need to re-read the PP's.
1. I never said I was unwilling to breastfeed in public.
2. I never said I wouldn't breastfeed in a bathroom.
3. I never said anything at all about my breastfeeding preferences at all.
Your very first response was something like, "If you don't want to wear a cover, then you make sure you're not in public when the baby needs to eat." Yeah, you need the reality check.
Do you seriously have comprehension problems? I already stated I would go to my car if there wasn't a private option or baby didn't stay under the cover. Not that I always would run to my car as first option. I also stated I would make appropriate plans to feed my child. Now I remember you from the other breast feeding thread and see that you're still pulling stuff out of your ass when it comes to breast feeding and being judgmental. IE: lasting six weeks.
If it makes no difference to you what people do then why the are you so judgemental when it comes to
how people will choose to feed their kids? I have no problem with the way anyone chooses to feed their child. If they want to cover , no cover , formula feed , supplement, ebf. I will do what is best for me and mine.
Token, you're right. I might, I might not. I guess we'll just have to wait and see since I can't see into the future.
On the other hand, nobody in this thread has said anything remotely like " eww. how can women do that, wear a cover " so far.
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Your experience has nothing to do with mine. And thanks for the "reality check." Pretty sure my toddler has given me way more of a reality check than you ever could.
Pretty sure you need to learn how to read. My first response was "If you are uncomfortable nursing in public without a cover, and you don't have the option of a cover, then don't be in public when your child needs to eat."
I feel like there needs to be a happy medium of women nursing in public when it's needed and women nursing in public and having photos taken to prove they can. I NIP, with a cover, with a shirt over the top, etc.
I don't have a problem with someone NIP at a ball game or theatre or dinner table or wherever they need to do it, but I feel like some women get this complex about it, like my kid needs to eat now and modesty be damned. Come on now, you don't need to walk around feeding your kid. I don't walk around the mall stuffing my face, I would side-eye another adult for doing so too.
It's not like its a shock, if you are nursing you tend to know what your kids eating schedule is, and sure some days there are growth spurts and those days are not the norm. But for the most part, be it every 2 hours or whatever, you plan.
I don't think putting up posters of women breast feeding is achieving anything but draw negative attention. Seeing one sure doesn't make me think, hey that chick NIP, maybe I should too!
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Wow.
Just... wow. Thanks for that wonderful perspective on how feeding my baby while I get something done is just like a fatty stuffing her face at the mall.
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What a neat idea! I'm always glad to see anything that promotes BFing.
I BF'd DS to a year and never was comfortable NIP that much. I know that I should approach the topic as a strong woman and confident mother, but the few times I had to NIP I got some negative looks and one time a teen/young man made a really rude comment about how he was jealous of my baby.
I was extremely icked out.
I hope we raise a generation of kids that accept BFing as a natural, healthy practice and not to make fun of it.
I will say that 99 of the time, it's easy to find a nursing station or private area in the city I live in. As far as the baseball thing, haha, a local hospital just partnered with the stadium and they have put in a nursing room! Which is great! So I would use that. Some people aren't so lucky. But I've found by asking mgmt at any place I'm at, they were very accommodating and the times I had to NIP were few.
I completely agree...