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Your Baby And "Strangers"

mrsj0423mrsj0423 member
in July 2012 Moms
How does your LO do with "strangers". By "strangers" I mean true strangers as well as family and friends that she just does not see all the time. When confronted by someone other than myself, MH and a select few other people, Sunny gets this mega pout face and gets upset.  I am a SAHM, and people keep telling me that that is why, and maybe it's true.  We do see other people often though and I try to have them hold her to help get her used to it.  Sometimes she is good for a while, but then other times she wants me back instantly.  I have noticed that in our home, she is more receptive to others.  And a lot of times she is okay with them if they are not holding her, but just playing with her on the floor.  I am going to start attending baby groups at the library and try to "socialize" her more.  Anyone else have this problem?  It is not new either, it has pretty much always been this way.  I am curious to hear from both SAHM's and moms with babies in DC too see if there is any sort of trend.  Also, if they cry when being held by someone else, do you let them go for a little while and see if they can calm down?  Or do you come to the rescue right away?  I pretty much take her back after 1 or 2 mins.
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  • buggal28buggal28 member
    He will still go to people, but not smile at them.  Although, he is starting to cry whenever I leave the room, and I work and he stays home all day with my husband, so, it may be a mom attachment thing and a stage they are going through.  I hope so, because it's looking like he may have to go to daycare soon.
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  • britbratjfbritbratjf member
    I SAH too. When there are other people around Dagny just looks very serious and studies their faces. But she doesn't get upset being held by other people. When we are with family or friends I never hold her. It's nice to get a break. Sometimes if she is tired she will get upset at being handled so much and I will take her back but otherwise she does well. She really doesn't ever smile with other people though.
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  • KarmBKarmB member
    seems to love them more than me

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  • nicolepatricia87nicolepatricia87 member
    It's funny you mention this bc I SAH and tonight my mom's neighbors came by and she wanted to hold DS so my mom handed him to her and he flipped, like red face silent scream freak out. I took him back and he was fine and giving them smiles galore. This has happened a couple of other times, usually when he's tired. However most of the time he is fine with other people holding him as long as he can still see me or DH.
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  • bumpuser1509193bumpuser1509193 member
    Cooper is a major flirt! I work pt (and go to school) but Coop is not in day care. Story hour sounds like fun.
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  • jenosbojenosbo member
    We have a little flirt on our hands. I sah and we don't see too many of day's family members often and he still is all smiles and wants to go to them He reaches for them and everything its super cute . He is super smiley and bubbly even with true strangers.  
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  • surprise3rdsurprise3rd
    I WAH, and am with lo all day.  She is a complete FLIRT, will smile and coo at anyone that pays her even the slightest big of attention, and sadly for me, has never yet reached or wanted me specifically:(
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  • OUKatieOUKatie member

    I'm a SAHM but DD goes to a friend on Mondays and to the nursery at church for my moms group. DD really does fine with strangers at this point, especially if they are calm and not in her face. If there are a lot of people around and the stranger is too "in her face" she will freak out.

    If she is just a little fussy, I try to just say something positive then get out of DD's immediate line of sight. If she is really crying or won't chill out, I take her.

    She actually does a lot better if I'm not around.

    The nursery ladies aren't in her face AT ALL and she has no issues going to them even though she really doesn't know them (only sees them every 2 weeks).

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  • Boing214Boing214 member
    We've tried to hand LO off to new people whenever possible to keep her used to it, so she's pretty good about going to different people. It's actually funny, she gets a very intense look on her face while she looks the people over very closely. She'll typically decide they're all good and reach of glasses/noses, eyes, etc. She's only cried with one person that I know of and I'm pretty sure it was because of being overtired and the amount of perfume this woman was wearing. MH is a SAHD so she obviously prefers him though.

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