breast feeding delema

Re: breast feeding delema

• nyki06 member

  January 2013

  I'm pretty confused by your post, but I'm going to try to answer anyway. 

  Are you nervous about the actual act of breastfeeding? When I was pregnant with my first I had this fear that it would feel "weird" and not natural. Once my daughter was born and people were helping me get her to latch it was difficult but not "weird". I think a lot of people feel that way when they are pregnant but it's usually a different story once they are here.

   So you might not want to breastfeed because your step sons won't be part of the process? This part has me super confused too. This process is between you and the child that you're nursing. If you want to include other people and make it more public that is completely your choice but it's not something that has to happen if you're uncomfortable. They make covers that you can use if this is an issue for you. 

  I think the most important thing is to seek out support. There are La Leche League meetings in most areas that you can attend while pregnant. I went to them while pregnant with my daughter and it helped me to get comfortable being around breastfeeding, taught me valid information, and answered a lot of my questions. Plus it was a good way to meet people in the area. When you give birth if you have any issues make sure to seek out a lactation consultant ASAP. Don't be afraid to ask for help. The longer you go without help the harder it is to get back on track.

   Good luck with everything!  

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• Jenilyn and Matthew

  January 2013

  I'm also a little confused by your wording...but here it goes. I was also nervous about actually getting my baby to latch and feed. At first the sensation was strange, and definitely something to get used to, but after a few days it felt completely natural and normal.

  It is totally possible to breastfeed discreetly if that's what you choose to do. Nursing tops and covers make getting baby latched and keeping yourself covered very easy. Most people won't even know you're feeding while using a good cover. It can take family and close friends a while to get used to you feeding if they haven't seen it before, but they'll come around. Answer their questions, let them be a little curious. I'm the only member of my family in the past couple of generations to BF a baby, so they were very curious about what all was going on, and once I explained and talked to them about how we were feeding they relaxed and were very interested.

  Good luck to you. You can also find a lot of support and information on the breastfeeding board.

  

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• ClairasMommy member

  January 2013

  I can relate to how you feel. With dd my hubby wanted to help since i had been carrying her around for nine months, and when it came to feeding it was my responsibility and I enjoyed it. I was able to pump on occasion so he could feed her with the bottle, and I was able to take care of myself for a bit. I am one of those ladies that are not comfortable with popping out my boob in public. I always had a cover, or went to a room by ourselves. (unless it was just DH around) You will most likely be suprised by how natural breastfeeding is. It's just how God intended. Don't let the fear of how other people think sway your decision tho. It can be challanging at times and you will need to be wholehearted in your decision to breastfeed to keep with it. Hope this helps:)

  

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• cecilyandgautam member

  January 2013

  While it's true no one else will share in the BFing responsibilities but you, it does take a lot of support. Your DH can help by bringing you water & snack, changing diapers before & after a feed. Your step sons can help by handing you the remote or whatever you need out of reach. 

  In my experience, breastfeeding in those first few weeks was an elaborate exercise - grab the nursing pillow, grab the water, position the baby just right, and get ready to be in one spot for the next hour. I needed a lot of help and definitely relied on my husband for success so don't worry that your hubby won't find a role to play if you BF. There will be plenty for him to do and your step-sons help will certainly be handy too.  

   

  

  
  

  
  

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• angelacez

  January 2013

  I think I understand what you are saying.  My sister asked me the same question.  I think she honestly weirded herself out, she wouldn't breastfeed, just pumped and bottle fed.  So she stopped 3 weeks in.  It does take a little time getting use to it.  BUT it gets SO much easier with in a week or so if you actually do it.  You'll start to like it, knowing you are able to provide your baby with the best food possible.  Once you think more like that it is less weird and you get really use to it and it becomes so natural.  Join a LLL or an other group if you feel you need support.  I didn't feel the need for them after I saw how well my babies grew from the nurishment I gave them.  (:  You can do it.  Don't forget that, and it gets easier over time. 

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