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October 2011 Moms
amyc216
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UO or Judgments?
amyc216
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It's already Thursday!
This UO may belong back in 1987, but I can't stand Bon Jovi music.
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Re: UO or Judgments?
I judge my aunt for her horrible eating habits. She's in very poor health, and she is greatly obese. She has diabetes and a failing heart at only 53 yes old. My Gma has similar issues, and my aunt expresses how she doesn't want to end up like her mother. I know it's difficult for her to make changes since she has severe depression, I can't help but judge her for not treating herself better in order to change all the above.
Yeah, eff you, winter! We only need you for the week around the holidays, then you can go screw off.
Crystal, I'm sorry to hear about your Dad, I hope that he is doing okay. I remember you told us that he used to say something along the lines of having champagne tastes on a beer budget. That's such a cool line.
My parents say my precocious daughter has started the terrible 2's early. The tantrums suck!
I don't see a problem with it as well, we just don't drink it. These ladies were just overly shocked that we don't drink juice and acted like it was better for them than water. You would have thought the conversation was about vaccinations.
Also: I hate winter and cold and snow with a passion.
Andplusalso: I love this stage with DD, but it's wearing me out. She's SO busy, but can't communicate well yet and gets frustrated easily. I'm tired. I want her to be able to talk. The thought of ever having another baby makes me want to hide in a corner and cry. But at the same time, I have baby fever bad. Again: WTAF? Someone come slap me, please.
I'm sorry about your dad. I didn't mean to sound insensitive. I sincerely love and care for my aunt. I don't want to see her in poor health. We've lost a lot of our family members, one of them being my mother, her sister. I want her to want this as much as I do for the sake of preserving another life lost in our family. We've always been close, her and I, so I can't express to her how much it concerns me without feeling I will lose her all together.
Your Dad is full of awesome one-liners. You should write them down and make some sort of book out of them-I'm half joking, but kinda half serious. Those one liners crack me up!
Totally agree with the bolded. I feel pretty lousy and miserable and unmotivated. I didn't even want to get out of bed this morning. I have baby fever but I know there's no way my sanity could withstand another baby at this moment.
DS born Oct. '11
TTC #2 with PCOS since Nov. '13
Dx: Low Progesterone (3.3) on 8/12/14
Waiting for RE appointment on 10/28/14
Surprise BFP on cycle 12 -- 10/19/14!
EDD July 1, 2015
So sorry about your dad! Hope he is doing well and recovering quick!
Was it I'll be There for You? That was my favorite song when I was like 12 and I wanted to marry Bon Jovi.
I am trying to think of an UO that hasn't been gone over a million times. I lack creativity.
This is another weight one...My boss at work started a diet on the 1st. New Years eve at work she binged like never before. I know she was trying to be funny but she ate a whole coconut cream pie that was damaged in less than 5 minutes. She scooped up the crust and just kept shoving it in her mouth. We all just stood there like WTF. Then she stuck her tongue out at us covered in pie.(I work with some real charmers
) I'm talking a 9 inch coconut cream pie that is at least 2400 calories.
She also consumed in the 8 hours we worked together 4 cans of Pepsi,(600 calories) 3 pieces of cranberry walnut toast slathered in butter (400+ calories), and a huge bowl of tater tots(500= calories) that were deep fried in the deli, a deviled egg(100? cal) and than we brought in appetizers to share(500+calories).
8 hours=4500 calories
I guess if I really believed she would stick to this diet, I wouldn't judge, I also don't know if judging is what I'm doing I am frankly worried and shocked about how she eats. She never cooks and always goes out for dinner.
I am making it a personal quest to make her stick to her diet. I'm going to be a thorn in her side until she shapes up. Plus she just went to the Dr. and they said she needs to start taking blood pressure Meds if she doesn't lose weight immediately. She is a great person, but she is killing herself.
I wasn't even going to touch the weight thing, but I will say, as a resident fatty with a lifetime of experience, that being a "thorn in her side" is more likely to strain the relationship and make her feel worse about herself than get her to shape up.
I totally let N try my coffee once. In my defense, I only drink decaff and it didn't have any sugar in it. I thought she'd hate it too but she just begged for more. I have been drinking hot decaff tea lately while getting over a cold and she was asking for some. I started telling her "owie, hot!" Now anytime she sees a coffee mug she points at it and says "ott" haha
Some people are just weirdos. Who cares if your kid drinks juice? I had someone act like this when I told her Natalie didn't really drink juice. It was like I was taking away her childhood.
And just FYI she does get juice maybe once a week or so now but it's fruitables so there's no added sugars and it's fruit and vegetables.
I have to agree.
DS born Oct. '11
TTC #2 with PCOS since Nov. '13
Dx: Low Progesterone (3.3) on 8/12/14
Waiting for RE appointment on 10/28/14
Surprise BFP on cycle 12 -- 10/19/14!
EDD July 1, 2015
I judge people who are promoting babywise and totally ignoring all of the facts that don't support it. I have no idea what the deal is but for some reason this crap keeps showing up on facebook and pinterest lately. I have kindly shared the warnings to the new moms or soon to be new moms who've posted it.
A friend of mine gave me the book and I read it and tried it for a week before I did a little research of my own. Needless to say I was shocked what I found and upset at myself for not trusting my instincts. It just bothers me that the book is still so popular even though it's been totally discredited and so many people are choosing to ignore that!
I'm not a horrid person, I'm not going to try to make her feel bad, but I'm not going to let her forget about taking care of herself and sit back and watch her do this. I think she has reached the point that if she is not going to take care of things on her own someone needs to motivate her. I don't work in a stiff office setting, things get heated and very emotional at times(lots of drama), we are like a big dysfunctional family. She is a big girl and will have no problem telling me to F off if I'm pissing her off. I guess I'm trying to say we have a relationship which allows for brute honesty and a little harassment.
My mom bought me that book. It's been collecting dust since she bought it.
And numbskull feels like he needs to tell me that Shadow overreacted. Say what? Your combined 300 pound of snarling nastiness jump over into my yard, snap at me, bite her when she protects me and SHE overreacted? Yes, she bit both of them and yes, she broke skin. But she weighs less than half of one of them and she needs stitches, not them.
To clarify, we are both ok, I got Alastair inside just in time and numbskull is currently shoveling his snow ridge away. Idiot.
I love snow and don't mind the cold. I love skiing (don't really get to much) and even running outside in the cold. I find it pointless and miserable to dislike a season.
My grandmother passed away and I am relieved. She had dementia and was so sad all of the time and didn't know anyone except my mom and talked like she thought she was a child. I have a hard time making a sad face anytime someone expresses sympathy to me. We lost her long ago.
I wish Edison would drink juice or milk or something other than water and his formula. That sh!t's expensive. He's too old for it, but we can't get him to drink anything else.
Oh Nita! I'm glad you're all okay. Clearly your neighbor is at fault since his dogs attacked you! Did you file a police report? I would be making him foot the bill. You really have an awesome dog btw!
To me there is a difference from being heavy/overweight and abusing food; most of us would like to lose some/ a lot of weight and it is not easy. FACT. My boss is abusing food just like a drug or other vice.
Would you just sit back and let her do it?(I'm not being snarky)
It is just not my personality to say "It is your F'ing life, go eat yourself to death."
How should someone help or react to this situation? Do you ignore someone who smokes, or someone who drinks to much?
I don't know why I am the *** magnet. Really, I don't but I seem to be.
And yes, Shadow is easily the best dog ever. She is now lounging in bed with me, both of us sick now. Sigh.
One, I hope she has a boy because one of my biggest pet peeves is people trying for a certain sex. My BFF' SIL wanted a boy so bad she was completely devastated to find Kid One was a girl. She refused to believe it even after two ultrasounds and lied to everyone saying they couldn't tell what the gender was. Baby came out and she told the doctor to "stick it back it, it's not done cooking yet"...because she wanted it to magically turn into a boy. When planning for Kid Two, they tried every old wives tale to get pregnant with a boy.....and still had a girl. My former coworker couldn't afford to have three kids but "we are trying for that girl!", yeah....their third is another boy.
Two, she sounds like my SIL. Everything out of her mouth is about how spoiled SO and I am and how SO get everything handed to him from IL's. Ummm...try again SIL. You parents paid for all THREE of your weddings, and two of your divorces. After her second divorce, she moved into their house with her two kids for FIVE YEARS, while my IL's moved themselves out to the apartment in their shop. They have never helped us out financially or with a place to live, but we have never needed it. She looks past everything they have done for her. Shiit will hit the fan when she finds out we are getting IL's house they built. And even though we are paying for it, she will still find a way to warp it into a "nobody ever helps me out" pity party.
I know all about abusing food; that is pretty much my MO. It is a struggle, and it is not logical. I wish I could just say to myself "lose this weight before it kills you" and immediately do everything necessary to achieve my goal, but it is so much more complicated than that.
I don't think you wanting to help your friend makes you a horrid person, not at all. But losing weight is something that a person has to do for herself (though I really wish someone could do it for me!!). Being supportive is nice, but, in my experience, being the food/exercise police will only backfire.
As far as the drinking/smoking question: when I was a kid my mother smoked and drank herself into a stupor on the regular. I tried begging, haranguing, everything to get her to quit and she just lashed out at me. So honestly, I don't really know what to do in that situation. I wish there were an easy answer.
The weight judgments are pissing me off.
I have one that' s been weighing on me. I judge all my fb friends who keep posting about putting prayer back in schools. Everyone is not the same religion and no child should be forced to pray to a religion they are not part of or made to feel singled out by others' religious practices in public school. You as a parent have plenty of time and opportunity at home to work with your children on the spiritual upbringing. Besides, just because a prayer is not done over the intercom doesn't mean your child can't pray to himself. My son goes to a multicultural school and all the children are not Christian.
The bold is the answer. Until your friend decides to lose the weight for herself, she won't. I totally get wanting to indulge a little bit before a diet but eating that much crap is downright gluttonous. I suggest encouraging her but unless she's asked you to hold her accountable I would be a thorn in her side. The same goes for drinking and smoking. DH used to smoke and he said when people told him not to it made no difference. He knew the risks and he chose to do it anyway. He quit before we met because he wanted to.
Holy crap!!! DD's name is Jovie and we got it from Elf!!! We thought we were the only ones!
So, I have a part UO/part FC. Mine is that I hate visiting people I know in hospitals or nursing homes. For example, my grandfather is in a nursing home, and I haven't seen him in over a year. He is in very poor health, and is always on his last breath, according to my mom's family. I have already had my mourning time and I don't want to remember him a frail, sick old man that has no idea who I am.
Unless daycare is sneaking it to her, DD has never had juice, either. I'm with you on this judgment.
Burned by the Bear