Short Fuses - How to tame?

poobear2015 · January 2013

My new years resolution is to calm my short temper. Ever since 2nd tri I've had the shortest fuse! I feel bad because I snap at DH and Hayley often - and now that Hayley iis causing a ruckus more often - it's becoming a daily thing to get frustrated with my own kiddo. Any tips you use to avoid blowing up at the drop of a hat? It's not always snapping at them either - it could be just something not going as planned and I freak out over it. It's like I'm pms-ing 24/7.

ssimon621 · January 2013

Do you find ways to release anger often? Do you exercise? I notice my stress level goes up and my patience goes down when I don't exercise regularly. I need to find a way to get rid of my excess stress and anxiety. I especially notice that I feel better when I do yoga.

Have you ever considered that you may have a slight form of PPD?

heymommy · January 2013

Zoloft.

Sept07b2b · January 2013

Out of curiosity, are you still BF-ing?

I ask because with both my DS and my DD, I have found that my fuse was significantly shorter while BF-ing. As soon as I weaned both of them, I got significantly calmer. It must have been a hormone thing for me. My DH and my boss (of all people) commented about my new "attitude" when I came back from maternity leave after I had my DS.

My DH begged me to wean my DD a couple weeks ago because he was tired of my short fuse, so I did, and I'm much better now.

Not suggesting you wean just for this, I was just trying to help you maybe pinpoint what it was causing it, so you know it may not be permanent.

MollySm · January 2013

I'm having this same problem, but just with H. Everything pisses me off and I can't stop bitching at him. I'm trying to be better, but no luck so far :

poobear2015 · January 2013

Sept07b2b:
Out of curiosity, are you still BF-ing?

I ask because with both my DS and my DD, I have found that my fuse was significantly shorter while BF-ing. As soon as I weaned both of them, I got significantly calmer. It must have been a hormone thing for me. My DH and my boss (of all people) commented about my new "attitude" when I came back from maternity leave after I had my DS.

My DH begged me to wean my DD a couple weeks ago because he was tired of my short fuse, so I did, and I'm much better now.

Not suggesting you wean just for this, I was just trying to help you maybe pinpoint what it was causing it, so you know it may not be permanent.

I am BFing. I am going to begin weaning next month - so hopefully it will help? I could try exercising too. I think I need an outlet. I noticed on days I teach - I feel better. I take care of Hayley on my own 90% of the time. Maybe sometimes I just need a breather. I don't know.

danac2010 · January 2013

I could have written this. I don't BF so I know it's not that. I've been wondering about PPD but thought it was too late for it to show up but I'm thinking I have always had it and it's just getting much worse. If blow up at anyone and it doesn't even have to be their fault. If something doesn't go as planned I get really flustered and blow up at whoever is near.

MollySm · January 2013

I don't breastfeed either. I am with Lucia 24/7 so maybe that adds to it. I hate taking it out pn H.

hizah05 · January 2013

Sept07b2b:
Out of curiosity, are you still BF-ing?

I ask because with both my DS and my DD, I have found that my fuse was significantly shorter while BF-ing. As soon as I weaned both of them, I got significantly calmer. It must have been a hormone thing for me. My DH and my boss (of all people) commented about my new "attitude" when I came back from maternity leave after I had my DS.

My DH begged me to wean my DD a couple weeks ago because he was tired of my short fuse, so I did, and I'm much better now.

Not suggesting you wean just for this, I was just trying to help you maybe pinpoint what it was causing it, so you know it may not be permanent.

This is interesting. I have a similar short temper lately and it really bothers me that sometimes I will snap at Logan for something that is just normal for him to do as a baby. I've worried about PPD and I also think it could just be that I never get a break from him. I'll be interested to see if things change when I wean him. Sorry, no advice here though.

novasouthanblond · January 2013

danac2010:
I could have written this. I don't BF so I know it's not that. I've been wondering about PPD but thought it was too late for it to show up but I'm thinking I have always had it and it's just getting much worse. If blow up at anyone and it doesn't even have to be their fault. If something doesn't go as planned I get really flustered and blow up at whoever is near.

actually I'm in the same boat and sought out a counselor who said it was pod and a lot of new moms don't feel it til around the 10 month mark....

jmccall79 · January 2013

Have you had a cycle yet? That could be the cause of your short fuse... Hormones!!!! I was mostly ok until I went back on bc...my hormones went on a worse roller coaster ride than when I was preg. So if you have, or haven't, started it could be the cause.

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