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ceelouees33
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Intro and if I may ask a question..
ceelouees33
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in Two Under 2
Hi there! I am the proud Mom of a sweet 9 month old baby girl and am expecting a second girl in April. My girls will be almost 13 months apart. Still getting used to the idea (still terrified) but I must say reading a few posts on here has made me feel a little more ready for the adventure! (thank you!)
My question is how did you find it being away from your first while you were in the hospital giving birth to your second? My daughter is so clingy right now and well to tell the truth, I just don't know how I'm going to be away from her for 2 days and nights with just a little visit here and there.
I'm sorry if I'm rambling. I have a lot of thoughts going through my head. Thanks so much and I look forward to learning from the experts! 
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Re: Intro and if I may ask a question..
Baby #4; 7/7/2018
My 2 are 13.5 months apart. My DD was and is the clingiest child I've ever encountered. When my DS was born, my mom watched my DD and she did I so surprisingly well! I was most worried about bedtime, but it turned out she kept her same schedule even though I wasn't there. I was pleasantly surprised!
My DS ended up being a preemie and spent some time in the NICU. Instead of being in the hospital 1-2 nights (I was so scared to leave her I asked my dr if I could leave early before DS was born) I left her for 4 nights since my DS was touch and go for a few days after birth. Even then she did fine. I was thinking about DS so much, and knew my mom had it under control, so I has no reason to worry.
I will say the anticipation of leaving my DD was waaayyyy worse then actually leaving her...
Married 08/18/07
BFP 02/15/11 EDD 10/27/11 Born at 35w3d on 09/25/11
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BFP 12/11/15 EDD 08/23/16 Early miscarriage
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Thanks so much for your posts. I did think about my DD not visiting at all but I know I couldn't go that long without seeing her. It's not about me though, I know. She does love my Mom and Dad and they will be there to look after her so I know she will be fine. I think it really is more my issue.
Thanks again for helping put some positive thoughts in my worrisome brain.
Being away from my DD for that long was horrible, not going to lie. I don't "attach" to my newborns as quickly as some, and I was just so anxious to get back home to my little girl. In fact, when I did get home, I ran up the stairs to our apartment and left DH to bring our newborn inside.
DD2 was born during the swine flu scare, so I didn't get to see her for the entire stay in the hospital. As much as it sucked for me, it probably was best for everyone involved. She was pretty clingy for the first few days when I got home, but being at home in her own environment with DH in and out and SIL taking her out to the store and keeping her busy helped her and I just suffered in silence (and lived for phone calls from SIL or people to come and visit and tell me how she was doing).
Mine are 21 months apart. When I had DD2 it was the first night DD1 and I spent apart (which was probably part of why she didn't do great). I did fine because I was busy in labor and fawning over my new baby. DD1 stayed with my mom and fell asleep ok, but woke up in the middle of the night and was pretty upset and my mom ended up sleeping with her and DD1 would not let go of her all night. She visited the next day for a few hours which was good for both of us.
DH ended up staying the intial night with us in the hospital since I gave birth at about 1am, but he went home the following afternoon to stay with DD1. Which in all honesty, was nice. I loved having those 12-15 hours just DD2 and I.
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