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July 2012 Moms
mandiek72512
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Am I screwing my kid up?
mandiek72512
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DH's grandmother passed away and her visitation was yesterday. I left LO with my neighbor/friend. Well, I was gone about 2 hours and he was crying... like alligator tears kind of cry. I grab him, sit on the couch and he goes right to sleep. At first I was thinking it was just he was tired. Then I figured it'd just been a couple of weeks since he'd been over there. But now I am beginning to worry that it's because I stay home with him. Is he just not getting the interaction he needs? Should I put him in my moms daycare a couple of days of week for a few hours just to get him used to other people? I don't know what else to do or think. I just feel like I'm screwing him up by him staying home with me so much. I don't want it to end up to the point where I can't leave him with anyone, but my mom at my house, without feeling guilty that I know he's upset. Any advice? Am I overreacting?
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Re: Am I screwing my kid up?
I wouldn't worry too much about any single incident. So if it's just about yesterday, stop worrying.
But in general... I think babies AND moms get a lot of benefit from a little space every now an then. Some sort of mother's morning out program would be great for socialization/breathing space.
Of course it doesn't make you a bad mother.
Either option would work. Being around other kids though would probably be better for him as he gets older. After all, learning to share sort of requires other people. If you know another mom you could take turns watching either others kids as a play date type thing.
putting a kid in daycare doesn't make anyone a bad mother. fwiw.
I don't think putting a kid in daycare is wrong either. My mom runs one and I worked there for 5 years. But being that I don't work.. that's where I'm wondering if it makes me kind of seem crazy..
Definitely not! It would be good for you and him.
If I had this opportunity I would do it.
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Not for a half-day or two a week. That's just useful for both of you. If you put him in full time I'd give you the side-eye. That make sense?
I wish we had a moms day out program around here. I would do it! The only way I can afford the daycare is the discount I get from my mom. Otherwise, this wouldn't be an option for us either.