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Babies: 6 - 9 Months
trojas
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Have you had a night out since baby's been born?
trojas
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My LO is 6 months old and I haven't had a date night, well, in 6 months. I think I need it. I love him so much but I need a little break - just a couple hours. But a part of me feels guilty.
Have any of you mommies gone out sans baby?
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Re: Have you had a night out since baby's been born?
Before DD was born, we PROMISED each other that we would never be THAT couple.
You know, the one that forgets about each other and only focuses on the baby. We promised, "one date night a week".
Well, that went by the wayside the second she was born. We have been on three "dates" since she was born.
Date #1 : A night when she was about 6 weeks old and I was so exhausted that I sat there, not talking and staring out the window the whole meal.
Date #2: We went to DH's office Christmas party. Blah.
Date #3: We went skiing together on the 21st of this month and it was our first real get away. Granted, it isn't like we were sitting there really connecting, but we had a great time.
All 3 of these dates, we called to check in on DD at least once.
Now that I am typing this out, I think we need to schedule a date night soon!
Heck yeah! I've had a bunch of nights out with my girlfriends while DH hung with the baby and DH and I have had several date nights. I think it's important to continue your social life after baby is born. I think it helps with post partum depression. I'm home all day with LO and don't feel guilty about needing some time away.
What has kept you from leaving LO?
"I'll love you forever,
I'll like you for always.
As long as I'm living,
my baby you'll be."
Guilt...that's about it. My mom is more than willing to watch him for a couple hours, I just feel guilty. But I have to put it aside cause I really need a break.
Nope. (i never thought i'd be this kind of mom).
Pumping is such a pain at work, I have avoided date night for fear of more pumping. Now that my supply is more established, I think we will venture on a date in 2013.
Yes - DH and I try to get out at least once a month. It has always been hard for me too and I always feel like I want to rush back home to check on her, but I have never regretted going out. I think it helps you gain a little bit of perspective and gives you back a little bit of you. for me, at least, I needed the time away to remind me that I am more than just a mother. I'm also a spouse and a best friend. It took a date night for me to realize how neglected DH was and how much I really missed spending time with him. Also, I think it has been important for me to get out on my own as well (again, I usually wind up rushing back 'in case she needs me') because I need the time to recover myself. For me, personally, I need the time away to be a better mom to DD. Sounds like you could use a break too.
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I don't have a babysitter. We just moved to a new city. My husband's in the air force, and unfortunately he only works with a bunch of older civilians. I was secretly hoping somebody he worked with would have a teenage daughter but no such luck. We have no family near by. I don't really know "how" to find a sitter, a trustworthy one at least.
I took a half hour to myself today and left the baby with my husband while I browsed Michaels. That was nice.
Yes, once a month we go on a date night. We've actually gone on 3 over night dates and got a hotel room. We'd go more often, but my mom who is the only person we've left ds with (besides dc) lives in another state and visits once a month.
We actually went on a date today. We both took the day off, dropped ds at DC, went to an 11am movie and grabbed lunch afterwards.
I pump in the car (DH driving) on the way to/from dinner/movie. It's super easy.
We have been out quite a bit. My SIL didn't leave her baby alone for the first time until she was almost 18 months old and she was a nervous wreck. We promised ourselves we wouldn't be "those" parents (Not because I think it's wrong, just because I saw how hard it was for her).
I leave DS with DH all the time. Seriously, at least once a week. I go shopping or hang out with friends or just run errands by myself. It's great for me and he gets to spend some time seeing what I really do all day. It keeps him from thinking my job is easy and it keeps me from going insane. DH is great with DS and he loves spending some time with him without me hovering over him ;-)
When DS was four months old we left him for the first time with my parents. We went away for the whole weekend with some friends. It wasn't nearly as bad as I thought. I thought about him the whole time, cried a little, and blew my mom's phone up the whole weekend but I made it. When I got back he looked at me, smiled, and kept on playing. I don't think he even noticed we had left. After that we decided we definitely needed to "practice" being away. We try to go out at least once a month and have had our parents watch him several times, sometimes even overnight. Last month we even went to Vegas for 3 nights for our anniversary. That was our second time leaving him for an extended period and it was MUCH easier than the first. I missed him like crazy but we had a lot of fun and it was great to feel free to do whatever we wanted with no responsibilities. We plan on going to Mexico for a week next year before we TTC number two.
GO OUT! Have fun! There is absolutely NO reason to feel guilty. You need "you" time. The first time will be the hardest so don't judge how you feel based on the one time. The second time is much easier. But seriously. Go out.
this EXACTLY!! my DH and i also have gone on a few overnight dates too!! thank goodness for family!
yes, we go out about twice a month with our friends, and we each get some alone time a few times a week while the other one watches LO. DH watches LO while i go running, I watch her when he wants to watch a game with his guy friends, etc. Im going shopping with a girlfriend of mine this weekend while DH watches LO. I dont feel too guilty about it because I only work part time in the evenings, so I am with her all day every day. I can see how it would be harder for full-time working moms, since it limits your time with LO even further. But it's good for her to spend time with my parents (they are usually the ones to watch her when we go out). My mom is taking her overnight for new years eve. I definitely miss her and check in on her often when we are apart, but she is perfectly fine and we enjoy having time to ourselves and a social life!
In the beginning, i think most of the guilt came from worrying about what other people would think. I felt like a bad mom because other moms never leave their kids. But i cant raise my daughter worrying about what other people think and how they do things.....just do what makes you happy and what you think is best for your LO.